She was sitting there bemoaning her fate and that she wasn't able to get out on the service and lo Jehovah sends her someone to mow her lawn so she can preach on her own doorstep. But it was not to be, cut short before she could reach her minimum 15 minutes her disappointment knows no bounds. They were not just rejecting her but rejecting Jehovah's loving kindness no wonder she went ballistic.
Posts by nugget
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26Dub Neighbor
by Farkel ini have a neighbor who is a dub.
she is elderly and bound to a wheelchair.
i haven't told her i was once braindead, too.
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nugget
My husband made me watch the hurt locker. I didn't want to see it but watched it to please him. In the end I thought it was an excellent and griping film. It was traumatic and sad exposing how war had become a day to day reality in Iraq. I would recommend it.
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I feel deceived and taken for a fool
by dgp ini was reading a few of the books yknot provided in another thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/190996/1/why-did-my-old-friend-do-this-to-our-friendship-please-help-me-understand).
i checked the theocratic school book.
wow!
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nugget
Been there too and felt so stupid. I console myself that very few people knew it was a lie when they persuaded me to follow my mum into the organisation. They genuinely believed it was the truth and were just as duped as I was.
Don't feel too bad the society has had over 100 years to perfect it's technique what is awesome is that despite their efforts you found your way out.
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As a Witness were you allowed to eat Easter eggs AFTER Easter and only if smashed up first??
by Witness 007 inmy favourite was a humpty dumpty full of mm's....but we could only buy them after easter and if we broke them up....my mothers orders.....tonnes of half price eggs after easter..
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nugget
Once my mum decided that easter was a no no then easter eggs made a scarce appearance in the house. However we always bought easter eggs after easter for the kids. Bargain hunting was half the fun. Once we got chocolate advent calendars in Sainsburys for 1p each after Xmas best bargain ever.
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Justmom and families memorial experience tonight
by justmom inso......... it started in 1998 when we were disfellowshipped (my husband and i) for the big a word.
apostacy!
going against our baptismal question agreement.. my husband already partook inside.
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nugget
You have my respect for doing what you feel is right and having the courage to stick by your principals. Peace to you all.
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Hello..this is my story..
by Lozhasleft ini'm pleased to have found this site...i've browsed a little ...read quite a lot and gasped at some stories, giggled at the one liners and nodded in recognition of others' strong opinions and can relate to a great deal.. i'll try and keep my intro as brief as possible for anyone kind enough to listen.. i got involved with the witnesses in the late 70's in the uk.
i was in my early 20s and had had a love and fascination for the bible since my difficult childhood.
i soon brought my life into 'line' although it took a long time for me to pack up the smoking which didnt go down well in those days when 6 months of study should have been enough and if you hadnt cracked it then it was suggested that you were some kind of loser.... i reared my 4 children in the 'truth' as well as i could but i cant claim that we were a 'strong' family in their terms...just muddled along really..my husband at the time was a very difficult and abusive man and home life wasnt easy for any of us with his anger, jealousy and violence.
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nugget
Welcome to the board, I am so glad that you have had so many positives on your life since leaving the organisation. Your experiences and insight I am sure will be of benefit to many still dealing with problems caused by this religion.
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Memorial 2010 Your Experiences
by scotinsw injust got back from memorial.
only went so that i could say to my parents that i had gone and to remind myself why i left.. oh my word!!!
it was sooooo painful.. got there a bit late - it was a couple of minutes into the talk.
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nugget
I cooked curry, lots and lots of curry. It was therapeutic and I reeked of garlic and ginger. I enjoyed my evening mixing my spices and marinades and now don't have to cook again for a couple of days.
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Non-JWs in relationships with JWs - tough questions
by JWoods ini have noticed multiple threads here by faded jws, non-jws, dfd jws, and so on in marriages or relationships with a hard-core jw.. these are some of the most wrenching emotional situations we read about here on jwn.
for sure the jw religion has done everything they possibly can to make life miserable for the non-jw partner.. i wanted to do a thread on the subject in general without putting this on the specific personal threads - a hard, tough, question:.
is it really worth it to live a lifetime in this kind of mentally abusive relationship?.
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nugget
Every relationship is different. However any non JW contemplating a long term relationship with a JW needs to think long and hard about the implications before getting in too deep.
My mum converted to the religion in 1969. She had been married to my dad for 6 years by then and so there was a degree of history prior to the organisation starting to influence her life. My parents are still married now more through dogged determination and a desire not to let the other off lightly. It is not easy and I am sometimes awestruck by the amount of compromises my dad has had to make in his life to fit in around my mum and her religion.
It is like marrying someone from a different culture and trying everyday to respect that diverse background. It is hard work. Sometimes it is worth the struggle.
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nugget
Didn't go made curry instead. Would have drunk beer too but hubby said I just had to pass it to him as I don't have heavenly calling.
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sd-7's whining session 3-30-2010
by sd-7 inso...memorial tonight, eh?
yup.
sunday was a fun meeting.
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nugget
So to summarise you go out to work to support the family and have set chores around the house such as washing up, taking out the trash, child minding and doing odd shopping trips on your way home from work. She is a stay at home Mum who looks after the house and baby and has cult activities on the side which are a constant drain on her time and energy.
You are not happy with the way you are being treated and she is not happy with you either.
You are both miserable and making the situation worse. So you cannot continue to do what you have always done because you will just get more of the same.
You need to talk to each other not at each other. As you have had a major upheaval in your lives it is reasonable to step back and take stock.
What you want is to stop going to meetings - they do not help your mental health and you need time to recover emotionally. Tell her that although you have been going to the meetings they do not help you at present and unless there is a special reason for you to attend you will not be going. If she doesn't drive then tell her you will drop her off and pick her up but you will not go in, this will mean she is free to sit where she chooses.
Tell her that if you make a mess in the bathroom you will clean up after yourself, I know what a pain it is when you've cleaned all day and someone justs walks in and makes a mess. However if you are coming in late at night then being expected to do housework as well is sometimes too much. You appreciate her hard work and you are proud of the way she keeps house but you hope that she appreciates how hard you also work.
Tell her you will continue to support her financially and emotionally, that you will continue to mind the baby whilst she is out on the service. If you love her tell her. If you appreciate her work at home then express it. You both need to show appreciation for each other and restore what is missing in your relationship.
She is being bratty but if she has been at home all day with the baby she may have reached the end of her tether by the time you get home. Children can get under your skin however much you love them. she may think that she has been working hard whilst you've had a relaxing time at work. This is not the case but tired stressed people are not always rational you know this more than most.
You may find that having evenings and Sundays free helps to restore your mental balance a bit. On Sundays start planning your me time, if she asks you to go to the meeting if you have something planned in that time slot it is easier to say no. Just relaxing with the paper or a good book and a cup of coffee can be incredibly relaxing.
You cannot make her behave like a grown up you have control over your actions so.
So step 1 - apologise for upsetting her over the bathroom and tell her you will make more of an effort to clean up after yourself in future.
Step 2 - be appreciative of what she does
Step 3 - Outline the ground rules about meetings
Step 5 - If you love her tell her.
I know this looks very one sided as if you are making the most effort but as I said you are responsible for your actions and in this you need to set the example and hold out the olive branch. You can choose to go on as you are but things will get worse because it becomes a matter of pride to hold onto the grudge.
I feel for you but sometimes I want to bang your heads together.