The preceding comments are spot on. If you don't act the way the cult wants you to act you are ignored and have no friends in the congregation. It is used by the cult to control the members.
Go in field ministry regularly and people will invite you to their homes and hang around with you Miss a month or two of service and they will ignore you.
A couple of years ago I realized I was wasting my time developing relationships with conditional friends. If I were to be really down on my luck would they be there for me? If I was an alcoholic or addict living on the streets these same "friends" would cross the road to avoid me.