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  Most Annoying Things That Happen At JW Meetings

  by LittleSister in

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  today i was remembering how angry i used to get at the meetings and all the little irritations that in the end would just make my blood boil these included:.

  prayers that go on foreverstudy or wt conductors still taking comments when its clear that the point has been covered 20 times alreadymeetings over running by more than 5 minsmy favourite was this one elder who would play guess the point i am thinking of.

  he would keep rephrasing the question from the wt until someone would bring up the point he was thinking of.

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  Having to hang around for ages waiting for the person you were giving a lift to.

  The speaker not turning up, the WT being done first and taking ages and then the speaker arrives after all.

  Having to think of different phrases to use when giving prayers.

  Getting to the meeting a few minutes late after having worked a 12 hour day and arriving straight from the train without having had dinner. Suffering the evil glares from people who don't work and expect you to share your possessions with them.

  Hearing speakers talk knowledgeably on subjects like running marathons and climbing mountains when most of what they say is tosh.

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  "Guilt trip" from a Sister

  by tooktheredpill in

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  hi guys!.

  this morning i heard a voicemail left by an old sister from my last congregation.

  as you may know, i just disappeared from the kh meetings almost 2 years ago.

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  I love the transparency of the message. Some Dubs try harder to hide their motives but basically still come from the same angle. As invasive, rude and nasty as that message was - it's just a reminder of what you left behind.

  Did you give your elder book back?

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  UEFA Champions League

  by lepermessiah in

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  any predictions or expectations on the final four?.

  i am hoping for my club fc bayern!

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  Bayern have a good chance to get to the final as I think the German League is still tougher than the French. I'm not writing off Inter as Mourinho will play defensively and hit Barca on the couter - and Barca can leak goals. Will still be a big ask to keep Messi & co away from goal despite a sturdy Italian defense.

  Does anyone have a meeting on the night of the final and be forced to make excuses to watch it?

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  How Many Here Actually "Handled The Microphones"?

  by minimus in

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  Yup. So used to annoy the hell out of me when only one person had their hand up at the front and were clearly going to be picked to answer, but the deadhead holding the mic would stand at the back and only start to amble towards them after they were picked. The WT always went overtime when certain bros were on duty.

  One rather c0cky bro used to play games with the mic moving it away from your mouth during the answer to see if he could get you to lean forward and drop your WT.

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  How much is gas in your area?

  by Outaservice in

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  also, do you think gas prices affects the jw field service any?.

  here it is approximately $2.69 per gallon.

  i heard in michigan it is $2.99 right now.. outaservice.

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  £5.64 in South East England. At a rough tourist rate of 1.5 that's $8.45.

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  What Actually Helped You Leave The Organization?

  by minimus in

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  after seeing some threads about how some think that being direct (like danny hazzard) is the best way to get people out of "the truth" or being very subtle is most effective----i was wondering what exactly made you leave the organization??.

  were you more impressed by websites that were informational?

  what really got you thinking to leave the religion and its mindset?.

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  I hadn't seen any website about this but knew from observing others who had drifted and moved away how to do it. Whilst I'd slowly stopped to believe it (or never had in the first place but was unwilling to think about it) and hadn't agreed with most of it and was bored silly by meetings I didn't want to bring children up in it and felt I needed to be strong for their sake.

  If I'd been on JWN 15 years ago I'd have left much sooner and felt a lot better about myself through my 20's. Subtle is ok but most JW's discuss all that is rubbish about it in a subtle way and still keep going to meetings. I think direct is better.

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  Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower??

  by noni1974 in

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  i've been out since 1998 so i've had time to learn how to be normal.

  i've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me.

  i really can't blame them because my mom was born in too.

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  I built up lots of bad habits as a born-in. Apart from not having any post-16 qualifications I also had become experienced at presenting badly. I have managed to undo what I learned in the Ministry School and learned to deliver punchy, factual presentations that people remember. I've a long way to go but had great feedback from being in front of hundreds of people as well as small groups. Still nervous as hell and self doubting but I'm sure most people are??

  Education of any kind is great and really good for moving forward. I can't say if having been a JW is still damaging me or whether it was actually my parents. I've wasted a lot of time in it so still grateful for my freedom and that I have worked my socks off for years to catch-up. Life is now great.

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  What's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?

  by A.Fenderson in

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  what's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?.

  my personal recommendation: synecdoche, new york.

  it's one of those movies that words fail utterly to capture--which really is the hallmark of a good movie, i suppose.

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  Good choices beksbks - I'd add Manon des Sources to that and for any Emmanuelle Beart fans: Un Coeur en Hiver

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  People You've Met

  by watson in

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  born and bred a jw, i never really developed many relationships outside the org.

  with the exception of employees, virtually none.

  i wonder what would have happened if i had tried to reach out to different "interesting" individuals that i ran into over the years.

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  After the age of 21, when I started to know people in the world, I never told them that I was a JW and more recently that I've left the JW's. I was always embarrassed of it. I was worried that with the truth being such a small world, if I said something to someone in the world, the next thing they'd be telling someone they knew who was a JW. I would just never refer to it and if JW's ever came up in conversation (on the two or three occasions in the last 15 years - cos they're really not a topic people ever talk about) I'd listen to the odd strange stories and not say anything.

  I did feel like I was holding something back but also it just wasn't relevant to the conversation or the other person.

  In terms of meeting interesting people - I've been lucky enough through hobbies/work to rub shoulders with lots of truly amazing people - I could list 20 or 30 that would be recognised by most on this forum - and the few minutes I may have spent with them were not spent talking about my childhood - know what I mean?

  When I had to go for interviews recently - many were quite surprised I had reached the level I had without a degree. I'd always waffled around it in the past but I was honest for the first time and admitted my parents were strongly religious and against higher education so I didn't get the opportunity of university. I got the job, been promoted and no-one has referred to it since.

  It's a huge deal that most JW's have/are gone/going through and people you meet will be interested in it, but keep it brief and let them ask the questions.

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  Friendship with the opposite sex

  by LoriJis in

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  i have to ask a personal questions.

  do you think it is ok to have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex if you are in a serious relationship or married?

  nothing intimate just friendship.

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  Yup as long as you know yourself well enough not to start having feelings for them. When I've told my partner about friendships she's been fine about it although sceptical about the other women - generally thinks they're loitering with intent. I have observed both sexes having friendships with someone who is in a relationship and then jump at the chance to get involved when the relationship ends.

  As long as you and your partner are fine about it then all good.

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