Posts by joannadandy

So glad to hear you guys will be able to make a clean break and not have to deal with "family issues"...if only it could be that easy for everyone else...

Congratulations! What are you going to do to celebrate?

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Gradations of Deadness

by Satanus in

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according to wt there are many different levels of deadness.. 1. second death - about as dead as you can get.

2. first death - as dead as the second one, except that their god has remembered you.

3. the walking dead - that's all the nondub people walking around dead, but they don't know it.

joannadandy

Saint-that was too funny!

I never even thought of that!

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Society profiting from Conventions

by freedom96 in

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i am sure that this has been talked about, but i would love to hear recent input.

there have been district assemblies where parking is charged, and all the "brothers and sisters" who are taking time off of work, etc, and cannot afford to go to this assembly but have to go, are paying good money for admission to the stadium.

many times not allowing come and go privledges.

joannadandy

Last I checked, parking was free here, tho you could offer a suggested donation...a pocketing of funds just the same...

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I was ripped off!

by joannadandy in

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so the new semester has begun.

that was sarcasm by the way.

as some of you may or may not know, i am going to be a teacher(someday if i ever graduate).

joannadandy

So the new semester has begun. Woo-hoo! That was sarcasm by the way.
As some of you may or may not know, I am going to be a teacher(Someday if I ever graduate). Last semester I had a Communincation Studies class, or CMST, something they force you to take, and we each had to come up with a lesson plan and present a chapter from the book to the class. Weee! (more sarcasm)
I volunteered for the chapter on "Informal Theories" which is a fancy way of talking about bias, jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, etc. I designed a worksheet and we went over it in class. No biggie.
My prof at the time RAVED about it, and asked if he could get a copy. No problem!
This semester starts. A new CMST class. "Theories of Communication". Different prof, but an advisor/mentor to the one I had last semester. She says "Well since this is a class about theories I would like to start out by giving you this worksheet on informal theories...some of you may recall what those are from your previous courses..."
Then she hands out MY WORKSHEET! She just deleted the cute graphic I had on mine. Same questions WORD FOR WORD. Same activities to follow!
Can you say PLAGARISM?
In a way I was creeped out.
At the same time flattered.
A tad bit confused on if I should confront her on passing off an undergraduates work as her own.
But all in all completely satisfied in knowing--I am brilliant! I will have no problem writing out lesson plans that are to the point and meaningful. GO ME! And that was always a huge concern of mine.
So perhaps I should go thank her?
I dunno, just thought it was weird and I would pass along my little story...sorry I bored you all...but today was an eventful day and I had to share...

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Is it possible to fall out of love....and married?

by Lost Diamond in

i would like to know what your opinions are and i would really appreciate some input.. i have been re-married for two years, but along the way there has been some deep hurts, although no infidelity.

he claims that he loves me, but i do not feel the same way for him as i once did.

i was married to a verbally abusive husband for 11 yrs, and i'm wondering if maybe i just wasn't ready to remarry so soon, and the hurt my current husband has caused has rubbed some old wounds alittle too often.. he has done some emotionally hurtful things to me in which i don't really care to go further on right now, and this has caused me to distant myself from him.

joannadandy

Ever heard the saying history repeats itself?

Most likely, and I don't have the full story, he is also abusive--mayhap not to the extent of the previous husband, but abusive nonetheless. I just have a gut feeling it's more than rubbing old wounds the wrong way. You are noticing patterns and it's not good. People repeat patterns of abuse. Eleven years is a long time to go without having that change your psyche. Your first husband changed you. As a result you went to something that seemed comfortable, another abusive person. Regardless of if you were aware of it or not, subconciously you thought something in him was normal, perhaps loveable, or even an improvement over the last guy. Honestly, you probably did re-marry too soon, and probably married the wrong guy.

You of all people should know that abusers very often do say "I love you, I need you" and then turn around and call you a "lazy hag" who would be nothing without him. That's the nature of abuse. I've become an expert on it. I have dated more than a few abusive people, and my sister was married to one for four years. I've got a little experience, and done plenty of research on it.

The only way you are going to be happy is if you check yourself in for some therapy. So you can learn how to get over control freaks, and not let them control you anymore. I know I am totally speaking from the heart, and probably totally putting my own spin on the situation, so please tell me if I am wrong, but regardless of if I am wrong on the abuse aspect or not--you are not happy...walk away. You have no ties to him, other than a few emotional "but I love you" statements. Life is too short not to be happy. You very obviously have reservations. Walk. You'll feel so much better when you do!!

And again I would seriously consider talking to a professional about the abuse you have encoutered--husband number one is enough of a reason to go, but I am betting number two or even previous relationships might need discussing too.

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Time to seperate the men from the boys

by roybatty in

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and the women from the girls.. with the nfl games about to start, who here loves (not likes but loves) football?

ok, not everyone can be a fan of my deloved bears, so what other team do you have to settle cheering for?

oh, and in case you didn't know it already, bret farve is the anti-christ.

joannadandy

As I sit here I am helping a friend draft a fantasy football team, wearing my vikings t-shirt...

FOOTBALL RULES!!

And while I agree Brett Farve is the Anti-christ, the Bears??? COME ON!

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witness sites

by freedom96 in

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on a post by jonathanseagull, he was talking about going onto witness sites, posing as one, and talking to them.

i surfed a little on the net, and checking out some of the sites, i noticed that there are bigtime restrictions to get in.

they are very critical, better be a witness, etc to even be considered to get in.

joannadandy

Back when I was trying to be a "good dub" I tried going to those sites, but the questionaire was just too damn long and intrusive, I did go through it all, and never got accepted...fancy that!

So I joined a "whoopee we love Jesus" site.

That didn't last long...

And here I am today--go me!

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Anyone from Minnesota?

by scootergirl in

looking for anyone from the st. cloud congregations (i was in the north one)...or surrounding areas.

oh heck, anyone from minnesota is fine!

joannadandy

Hello Jack!!

Don't really know anyone from Columbia Heights, I don't think...

So when is the next Minnesota Apostofest anyway?

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ADMIT IT, DIDN'T YOU FEEL SPECIAL being a JW?

by minimus in

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remember, you had the truth!

everybody else didn't even have a clue!

the worldly people never understood our spiritual paradise.

joannadandy

Nope I felt like a freak. I even felt guilty that all these people were going to die, and it would be my fault because I was too embarassed to talk about the troof. Maybe I was never a good dub then...