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  Cougars beware – having a much younger husband can send a woman to an early grave

  by Scott77 in

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  women who marry men seven to nine years their junior could be upping their odds of dying sooner, german researchers report.. "one of the few possible explanations is that couples with younger husbands violate social norms and thus suffer from social sanctions," sven drefahl, from the max planck institute for demographic research (mpidr) in rostock, germany, said in a news release.

  such couples could therefore be stigmatized as outsiders -- receiving less social support, enduring a more stressful life and perhaps developing poorer health as a result, drefahl speculated.. please, what is your reaction to this new research finding?

  here is a link to the article.. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/7715375/being-a-cougar-can-send-a-woman-to-an-early-grave.html.

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  I think that's opposite of a cougar, White Dove.

  Sorry, hon :)

  Tammy
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  Interactive Zoo Leopards with cubs

  by 5thGeneration in

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  thought you'd enjoy:.

  http://www.interactivezoo.eu/pesa.html.

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  One of them doesn't seem to want to nap at all. Little troublemaker.

  Tammy
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  Personal Story: Trying to Help the Flock

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  and told him that we needed to handle both cases.

  and his buddy.

  's buddy on the case.

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  I liked your story. If more individuals were as caring as you showed that you were, and did not show 'favoritism', then some of the problems inside might be resolved.

  Tammy
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  Who apologize more to the opposite sex? Men or Women?

  by asilentone in

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  Ynot, you seem to be describing mine and my husband's relationship. Of course, I can't really be mad more than a couple of days. At most. And I tried not letting things pass, too. Just meant the fight dragged out and got more heated!

  Hubbie and I actually just had this discussion, since he decided to bring up the fact that he apologizes when he is wrong. I couldn't help it. I started laughing and waving my fingers. I said, in fifteen years, I doubt you've apologized as many times than I can count on my one hand.

  He said, 'That's more times than you have!"

  I started to argue, but I can't remember the last time I apologized. So I just laughed and said, 'well when was the last time I did something I needed to apologize for?'

  We sort of laughed our way out of this - since it came on the heels of one fight. No need to start another.

  Personally, I think the question should be "Who forgives without receiving an apology the most?"

  Tammy
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  Behemoth - what type of animal was it??

  by Truthexplorer in

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  i am fascinated by job 40:15-24. which one of the following pictures do you think best describes behemoth?

  i have kindly cut and pasted the portion of scripture at the bottom and highlighted some of the outstanding identifying marks of the animal.

  i look forward to your views on this very intruiging portion of scripture!.

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  Kay, now I'm going to read it as if it is an extremely large, unattractive woman. Or man. That might be more fun.

  Tammy
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  The Great Apostasy

  by TTWSYF in

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  2. friends

  hello - my bro [and many others] often speak of how the true teachings of jesus and the apostles were corrupted and as one poster recently wrote 'since then, the catholic church has been forcing the trinity down our throat'.

  is there any evidence to support the great apostasy?

  is there any evidence to support such claims?.

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  How can you apostasize (apostatize?) from a "religion" that was never really a "religion" to begin with?

  What do you mean?
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  The Wedding Talk-A Humiliation to Women

  by WalkTall in

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  it is so strange how you look at things so differently when your eyes are open.

  i recently went to a witness wedding and listening to the talk with the constant emphasis on the bride having a 'head' and being submissive to her head was painful to listen to.

  and how the bride has to say 'deeply respect' while the groom does not, is the epitome of misogyny.

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  They really talk about rendering the marital due?

  I remember during my bible study I had said how I thought sexual pleasure - between a husband and a wife - was a gift from God. That he must have meant for us to experience pleasure.

  Both women stared at me, completely silent, then gave me this look:

  , followed by this: , and then ... at which point we changed the topic.

  It was cute, because they didn't want to berate me or make me feel bad in any way, but I got the feeling that they were not in agreement with my observation. :)

  Tammy
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  Oh the Irony!

  by Hadit in

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  my father has been disfellowshipped for a few years.

  12 to be exact.

  the way that the brothers treated him and the lack of love that they showed made me confront them and stand up for my father.

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  Hadit, I'm so sorry. I don't know what to say to help, but you're definitely not crazy! I'd be pounding my head on the table too. I would remind your father that you did not ever once shun him for being disfellowshipped.

  Tammy
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  Behemoth - what type of animal was it??

  by Truthexplorer in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i am fascinated by job 40:15-24. which one of the following pictures do you think best describes behemoth?

  i have kindly cut and pasted the portion of scripture at the bottom and highlighted some of the outstanding identifying marks of the animal.

  i look forward to your views on this very intruiging portion of scripture!.

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  Elephant, if tail can be replaced with trunk - which my bible says is a possibility. I think that means some manuscripts have trunk instead of tail in their translation.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

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  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  Shelby - thanks for sharing your experiences and for your advice. I do number one okay with my kids, and it is often me and not my husband. Sometimes he does things just with them, and this summer is supposed to be a turning point... I hope so. Playing hooky is always fun, and we've done that a few times. I'm going to try and work in a couple of the lunches that you suggested. Something to make them feel special.

  I have only just recently started to realize that number 2 would bring my boys a better sense of self-esteem. We put the boys in Scouts/Beavers this year, and the volunteer work that they did (where they actually got to see the results) surprised them both and made them happy. So I'm going to check on that and work which ones might be best for my son.

  I would have had to start the classical music thing earlier (they'd both running screaming now if I offered to play something that wasn't rock, I think:) ) But we do try to read each night. Sometimes from the bible (which they both enjoy), but mostly some kids fantasy which they also both enjoy. That's our routine.

  And so that is my final piece of advice, which I probably don't need to give YOU: never... never... ever... yell at your kids. They don't deserve it. We don't like it when someone yells at us and it really is hypocritical to do such to others, even our own children, if we don't want it done to us

  You don't sound like you're yelling, even in your posts, Shelby. You sound like a kind and caring person.

  But I have yelled at my boys.

  Hitting and spanking were always out with me, but I never used to think anything about yelling. I'm not talking about screaming banshee, name-calling yelling, but definitely raising-my-voice-in-anger yelling. They don't respond of course; in fact they mostly just shut down, which is what I do if someone is yelling at me. I've done a lot of personal growth these past years, and found more peace in myself and through my faith than ever before. I understand that my children need that calm and peace in their lives, and they're only going to get that if I show it to them. I rarely ever raise my voice to them anymore, though I'm still working to improve that.

  Hugs they get aplenty. They're not old enough yet to pretend not to like them. Or if they are, they just haven't done it yet.

  I love the sincerity and the love that comes from your posts, long or not. Thank you, Shelby.

  Tammy