I think every aspect of your life is affected. You're not the person you would have been if you didn't experience the neglect/abuse.
My advice: don't minimize, rationalize, deny, deflect the abuse that took place, or make excuses for the abusers. Our society tends to pressure victims to do that. For anyone who was abused, I'll recommend reading Alice Miller as a start, if a person is ready to face what happened and not look for ways to condone it.