i considered myself immune to ex jw stuff.
no amount of old watchtowers or anything would change me.
it was seeing treatment of others by elders and the bible itself, which woke me.
As an elder....it was a sister we had DF'd.....when I called her to tell her we were reinstating her the next night....she cried and said thank you....and said she was going to kill herself the next day
I woke up.
Disfellowshipping....something I NEVER agreed with....is what did it for me.
Next came the GROSS lack of love among JW's..... especially the elders and CO's.....some of them are just terrible/dysfunctional people .....
wendy cloete louwwe lost a sister in our congregation today, had severe depression and tried to take her own life.
sad thing is if the doctors stopped being petty and insisting on bloody and just gave her alternative blood volumiser sooner she might have been fine.
it took the elders hours to get her transferred to a new hospital.
Do you know what only makes this even sadder?????
Because she attempted suicide...she won't "qualify" for a memorial at the Kingdom Hall.......despite her stand on blood.
Yep.....she is a 'loser' in their eyes anyway.
It just gets sicker and sicker.
now that i am free from my bonds to an organization dictating to me what i can and cannot do (in bed included), i cannot stop.....i feel like an addict on coke or something, i have been with my bf for eight months now, and perhaps it is a combination of the newness of a sexual relationship with the release from my spiritual bonds, but....i feel like a cat in heat 24/7.
of course my bf is not complaining even though i see he is physically tired parts of the day that i actually leave him alone (to go to work or sleep after hours of lovemaking).
i wonder if anyone else has gone through similar experience.
Wow....I'm with AWildFlower......I didn't know you had such an age gap.......share :)
(I happen to be 40something.....and have had a couple of girlfriends in their late 20s......)
this is a really fascinating topic for me.....mainly because i'm single lol.
but what was it like to navigate through the waters of other people while getting into relationships?
did you wonder what to do about holidays?
Great feedback....thanks to all.
dgp.......you TOTALLY lost me.......can you explain?
Coffegirl,
Good for you. That you have not only found a nice man that is patient, but on going back to school and enjoying some hot sex :)
Like Kristina, I'm fascinated by what adjustments some may have had to make.....all feedback appreciated.....
what was your reputation?
were you viewed as "mature", "worldly", or "exemplary"?
?.
It sounds arrogant...but
..highly respected young elder.......all the way up to convention level, KM School, etc.
this is a really fascinating topic for me.....mainly because i'm single lol.
but what was it like to navigate through the waters of other people while getting into relationships?
did you wonder what to do about holidays?
LOL....great stuff people......I'm just getting back online.
Ynot,
You're killing me.....LOL, hilarious. I love it. First...... I was roaring about the Uncle Freddy's oral sex comments....AWESOME....I can't stop laughing....however, no worries there..... I have a Master's Degree in that area ;) ....... and I enjoy giving :)
this is a really fascinating topic for me.....mainly because i'm single lol.
but what was it like to navigate through the waters of other people while getting into relationships?
did you wonder what to do about holidays?
This is a really fascinating topic for me.....mainly because I'm single LOL
But what was it like to navigate through the waters of other people while getting into relationships? Did you wonder what to do about holidays? How to explain your history of religion? Your lack of college?
I've been dating quite a bit....but most of them were fringe 'sisters'..... a few were non-JWs......I would love to hear how difficult it was for you....or not difficult....and what were the challenges and the rewards.....
i have a cousin who has been away from the meetings 5 years.
she was baptized only a year before becoming "inactive" and moved to another state.
then after some time she moved back to the area all the family is from, but wouldn't say a word of anything having to do with the religion.
Glad I could help Hereiam......YES,.....always remember......silence is golden. Tell them nothing. Give them nothing. You owe them nothing.
have just spent some time looking for old friends on facebook without much success, then i thought i'd see if any of the robots from my old cong were to be found.. i found 3 elders 4 ms and about 15-20 rank and file now is it me or did the gb say that fb was not to be used?.
have you found anyone you know to be going against the gb?.
I have tons on my page that are still serving. Tons.
However, I've put them on a special list so they know absolutely nothing about me......LOL......PERFECT!
i have a cousin who has been away from the meetings 5 years.
she was baptized only a year before becoming "inactive" and moved to another state.
then after some time she moved back to the area all the family is from, but wouldn't say a word of anything having to do with the religion.
To Doubtingbro,
You're right about marrying an 'unbeliever'....however, they are likely coming after her to extract a confession of immorality during courtship.....or especially when they were living under the same roof.
Ezekiel 34 ............ I just keep seeing it everyday.
