Posts by ambersun

Some ex JWs turn to other faiths when they leave, but I just switched off altogether. In some ways I envy people with a strong faith, whatever religion they belong to. However, like Black Sheep I can't help feeling that the bible is no more than a collection of books written by a bunch of men in the middle east a very long time ago. There were people living all over the world at that time, why would God be so obsessed with the middle east and ignore everyone else? What was the point of all the other continents and the people living on them when God was only interested in one geographical region? It just doesn't make sense to me.

Debator has a point though, it is probably wrong to blame an Organisation for the fact that I no longer believe in God.

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Did You Have a Favored Place to Sit in the KH?

by snowbird in

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did you sit to the right, left, or in front of the podium?.

just curious.. syl.

ambersun

Snowbird, you seem really lovely and I wish I had known you 28 years ago!

There were two lovely sisters in that congregation who were good friends to me, but that's about it. I don't know what I would have done without them. That congregation was composed of the coldest bunch of individuals I had ever known. A more selfish, stuck up bunch of buffoons I have yet to meet.

Although I have lost all faith in God since leaving the Borg I have for the last 20 years been best friends with a lady who is Roman Catholic and she is the kindest, most loyal and trustworthy friend anyone could wish to meet. She respects my views, listens to my rantings and regrets but doesn't try to ram her religion down my throat. I attended her son's Christening at her church where everyone was very welcoming and friendly - and NON JUDGEMENTAL!! So refreshing!!

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Our Son is 8 Today

by cantleave in

here's his first ever bd cake..... .

ambersun

Oh that is so lovely! It brings back memories of our son's first ever birthday celebration at around the same age. Happy Birthday little Cantleave Jr

Oh, also a very Happy Anniversary to Mr and Mrs Cantleave of course!!

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Did You Have a Favored Place to Sit in the KH?

by snowbird in

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did you sit to the right, left, or in front of the podium?.

just curious.. syl.

ambersun

Ahh thanks snowbird. I was suffering from post natal depression as well. On the plus side, it made my decision to start fading a whole lot easier!

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Did You Have a Favored Place to Sit in the KH?

by snowbird in

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friends

did you sit to the right, left, or in front of the podium?.

just curious.. syl.

ambersun

As a young girl sitting with my family, it was about 3 rows from the front on the right hand side. Later, when I sat with my friends, we usually sat half way to 3/4 back either left or right. After I was married with a baby, it was at the back as near to the exit as possible. After I had my second child (we had moved by this stage and had joined another congregation) I was made to sit in the book room with no sound system and as far as I can remember, no heating either. Nobody wanted to hear a gurgling baby while the meeting was in progress. There was no point in me being there so I eventually stopped going until my baby was old enough to be told not to gurgle during meetings!

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Being A JW Is FUN!!

by Pig in

some people think that it must be miserable to be a jw because they dont celebrate christmas or birthdays.. but they're wrong!

being a jw is miserable because you cant do fucking anything.. crazy hair day - this was a fundraising day where kids come to school with blue or red died hair and give a $2 donation.

i wasnt allowed to do this because it was too worldly to have "crazy hair" and it would be too hard to wash it out for tomorrow nights meeting.. school camp - this was unnessisary association with those devil worshipping 9 year olds.

ambersun

but yeah, once you miss out on all that stuff.. you've missed out. You cant go back and have a normal childhood with lots of friends and fun.

Ain't that the truth! I used to dread having to explain why I wasn't joining in all the fun activities at school and being made to feel like a total freak!

Me and Hubby are so glad we faded in time for our kids to enjoy at least part of a normal childhood. From the age of 7 our son took an active part in everything from Christmas parties, birthdays, school outings, after school clubs etc.. etc...., and over 20 years later he still has wonderful memories and loyal, close friendships that were formed during those early years.

When I see some of the JW children I know, often sitting quietly and withdrawn with subdued expressions on their little faces, my heart goes out to them.

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Get the elders to leave me alone!!

by bottleofwater in

my dad read something online that i posted and told the other elders (he's the boe coord.).

they've read me articles about homosexuality and tried to coerce me to stay with the family instead of living with my uncle for a week.

i went to my uncle's anyway.

ambersun

Sorry if this has already been mentioned, but there should be someone in authority at your college who you could talk to, and if necessary he/she could refer you to an individual or an organisation who specialise in offering councelling and/or practical help to young students in your situation. Surely it is not unheard of for gay students to need advice and guidance from time to time while they are struggling to overcome difficulties at home?

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Gay JWs - how did you deal with your Kool-Aid drinking relatives?

by bottleofwater in

just wondering.

i'm gonna need that soon.

i'm talking about advice.

ambersun

As far as I know there are no gay relatives in my family but I would like to make an observation if I may.

I am a devoted animal lover who watches nature programs all the time. I am always coming across examples of homosexuality in the animal kingdom. How can anyone say it is unnatural to be gay when it happens all the time in just about every species that has been studied from gut worms to primates!

I used to breed guinnea pigs and several of them turned out to be gay. One in particular was very handsome and would have made a superb stud, but he was only interested in other male pigs, the females just left him cold. He obviously had not read his bible lol.

Here is a quote from Wikipedia.

A 1999 review by researcher Bruce Bagemihl shows that homosexual behavior has been observed in close to 1,500 species, ranging from primates to gut worms, and is well documented for 500 of them. [1] [2]Animal sexual behavior takes many different forms, even within the same species. The motivations for and implications of these behaviors have yet to be fully understood, since most species have yet to be fully studied. [3] According to Bagemihl, "the animal kingdom [does] it with much greater sexual diversity — including homosexual, bisexual and nonreproductive sex — than the scientific community and society at large have previously been willing to accept." [4] Current research indicates that various forms of same-sex sexual behavior are found throughout the animal kingdom. [5] A new review made in 2009 of existing research showed that same-sex behavior is a nearly universal phenomenon in the animal kingdom, common across species. [6]

Being gay is a fact of life, whatever species you happen to be. It is no more unnatural than being left handed. Many faiths put humans on a pedestal as being created 'in God's image' and therefore above basic animal traits, but at the end of the day we are just living creatures with the same traits as most other species.

Of course, the problem remains in trying to persuade brain washed JW relatives to accept this information, but there is no harm in trying.

Take care of yourselves

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Witness Funeral--to go ot not to go?

by ValiantBoy in

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my 78 year old great-uncle is very ill and is expected to pass away within the next couple of days.

he has been being receiving chemo for a few weeks (which he appeared to be responding to), but then he developed severe pneumonia and then had a massive heart attack a few days ago.

he now has a blood infection, and his liver and kidneys have quit functioning.

ambersun

Yes, I know what you mean. I dread JW funerals too, but go out of respect for the person who has passed away, especially if they were a close family member. Unfortunately it involves gritting your teeth and sitting through the lecture from the platform. It seems the primary theme of any JW funeral is to ensure the captive audience have an earful of WT doctrines and to try and shame the ex JWs into returning to the clutches of the Borg.

The life and times of the deceased comes waaaay down the list of priorities and must be fitted into a set outline issued by the Society. At the last funeral we attended, nothing was said about our deceased relative's life other than how much of her time she gave to knocking doors, attending meetings and assemblies, bringing bible studies into the 'Truth' etc. Her personal life experiences and achievements were barely touched upon!! Nobody would have known what she was like as an individual.

Just try and switch your mind off from the drivel coming from the platform and think about your loved ones, which is the reason you are there. Your support will be very much appreciated by the people who matter, I am sure.