i cannot seem to find any information on which elder/s are assigned to do a shepherding visit on a congregation member.
does one of them have to be the member's field group leader?
can any elders do a shepherding visit at a member's request?
i looked up some watchtower articles on shepherding and it seems i can indeed ask any elders i like. so i have asked another elder to do the visit with an assistant in his group. it is all arranged and my group leader is fine about it, because he admits he keeps "running out of time" and even apologised that he had been trying to contact me, but on an old phone number.
Many thanks for your time and for all the comments that were helpful :)
i cannot seem to find any information on which elder/s are assigned to do a shepherding visit on a congregation member.
does one of them have to be the member's field group leader?
can any elders do a shepherding visit at a member's request?
Thank you very much indeed everyone! I must say, I don't get them often, shepherding visits, but they have only ever been upbuilding. It is just that, I was talking to an elder about would I be allowed to change field groups, and i had two choices in particular, or is there no point asking because of my location. He then asked why I would want to do that. I had to tell him that my leader never checks on me, and I am off sick for months at a time with disabling conditions, and he never gets spiritual food to me and I am exasperated keep asking and asking, even at the group in front of everyone i ask nicely, so do others, they get theirs, i dont. i have to presume he is overworked and has his favourites. well, i don't need him to like me personally, i just want my spiritual food in the door. so my friend elder said something about the organization book and how much work is involved in sorting who is in what group, so no, i could not change groups. then he said that i could ask any elder for a shepherding visit if i didnt have the courage to air my grievances with my group leader. He offered to do a shepherding visit with me, which i accepted with happiness. the next day he says that my group leader will be there because he is my group leader. I have been crying for days. all i have done is gone full circle. i begrudge that my leader only gives me attention when he has to - like when he had to ring me in the spring to say the public preaching work is cancelled due to the pandemic. having a visit now, would simply be a waste of everyone's time. I don't want to have the courage to point out his neglect of me - I am not perfect either!
i cannot seem to find any information on which elder/s are assigned to do a shepherding visit on a congregation member.
does one of them have to be the member's field group leader?
can any elders do a shepherding visit at a member's request?
I cannot seem to find any information on which elder/s are assigned to do a shepherding visit on a congregation member. Does one of them have to be the member's field group leader? Can any elders do a shepherding visit at a member's request? Many thanks.
i'm new here; one of my relatives was a member on this forum a few years ago and told me about it.
anyways, as a sister who has been in the org since childhood and now in her late 40's (plus as a woman of color), i have noticed that a number of brothers have an ageist attitude.
they are very accepting of young women under 26 and rejecting women over that age, particularly those in their 30's and over.. is this an unspoken mindset from wthq (specifically from bethel), or is it that quite a number of males (sorry, i'm not sexist here) have this type of mentality?
Sisters get 'rejected' by brothers? Umm - call me old fashioned, but it's up to the brothers to do the asking out at the risk of getting rejected, surely? The onus is for the man to provide for his wife, not the other way around. However, I have noticed that most brothers (but not all) over 40 tend to be interested in sisters half their age. But this trend is among non JW's too... I overheard a brother I know, who will soon be marrying his fourth wife (she is 25 years younger), tell a mutual friend that his fiancée and her children make him feel young... Unfortunately there is not much middle-aged women can do about this, unless you think becoming high maintenance and spending all your time and money at the hairdresser's in order to look like your hair still grows blonde, brown, red or black, is worth it. Try joining jwmatch.com, and see which brothers write to you. But as with all dating agencies, there will be some con artists lurking there too, so be vigilant! All the best :)
i come here to learn, but i also come here because it feels like a private club and i'm privy to be a member of the "in" crowd.
it's a great place to socialize.
does anyone else feel that they are a member of a special "club" when they come here, that only some people in this world will understand the jw world?.
I come here now and again, to strengthen my backbone when the swimming pool down the road is closed for refurbishment. Also, there are a few nice people here who still have Jehovah in their heart.
Presumably this is a dot net website because the hope is to trap people in a net. Some here are more like animals, with their filthy, vulgar language, which cannot even be reported and removed.
Talk amongst yourselves. The swimming pool re-opens today :)
jehovah wants his faithful witnesses for hating the university:.
university and college campuses are notorious for bad behaviordrug and alcohol abuse, immorality, cheating, hazing, and the list goes on.
what is the atmosphere in many of this worlds institutions of higher education?
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faith gives you permission to believe that jesus actually did feed thousands with a few loaves & fishes, walk on water and rise from the grave.
all the evidence proves that none of this happened so why persist with faith?
why be dishonest with yourself?
sunny23 Thank you for your comments which read
"donnye, what do you have to offer to this thread on Faith? Offer your own opinions on this topic.
So far it has been said that faith in God specifically:
What are your thoughts to these claims and give supporting reasoning please."
Sunny23 - Please give supporting reasoning for your own opinions if you think you need to validate yourself.
my wife (a blonde) told this one to our son and i yesterday, knowing we'd find it really funny.. .
a blonde woman was speeding down the road in her little red sports car and was pulled over by a woman police officer who was also a blonde.
the blonde cop asked to see the blonde driver's license.
Loving the blondie jokes. Thank you
catholic churches were known for starting schools, orphanages, resthomes, hospitals along with other ideas like universities.
we can debate who started what but you will be missing the point.
i know some of the best colleges were started by religion, what has the watchtower contributed to society as a whole?
I am really sorry - ttwsyf - that no JW's visited your brother when he was really sick. I must be very fortunate then, because when I was in hospital for 2 weeks this August, I got no end of brothers and sisters visiting me and doing practical things to help.
Dare I ask what ttwsyf stands for?
faith gives you permission to believe that jesus actually did feed thousands with a few loaves & fishes, walk on water and rise from the grave.
all the evidence proves that none of this happened so why persist with faith?
why be dishonest with yourself?
"As a result of many years of research and debate - including over 30 years as a JW and 9 years as a christian - I am convinced there is no god and no supernatural realm of any sort. I am also convinced that the Watchtower organisation to which you belong is a dangerous lying cult.
However if you or anybody else has objective evidence to the contrary I very much want to hear it and have my mind changed. I will follow the evidence wherever it leads. I don't want to be wrong any longer than necessary, do you?"
Thank you for your comments Cofty. I am sorry that you had 39 years of bad experiences as a christian before you became an atheist. What took you so long?
