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  My August Update

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  2. friends

  i don't really have a purpose in this thread, but wanted to share my thoughts and updates.. fading has, at least for now, totally stabilized.

  my jw wife doesn't discuss jw things and, as difficult for me as it is, i haven't been discussing anything directly against jw policy.

  oh, i slip in comments when she tries to judge people or groups based on her jw training- things like gay marriage, medical marijuana, pedophile news stories.

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  laverite

  OTWO,

  Even if she never comes out of the cult (never say never though!!), small steps are good. I've seen some interesting things in my family. I have a couple of JW family members who are FAR more liberal than the rest of my family (who are all UBER!!). When I mention that they are liberal JWs, they say they are offended by that and say they don't know what I am talking about. I call them out on how they aren't typical JWs and are at odds with Watchtower (e.g. they love gay people, love their gay friends, etc.). We have these conversations, with them saying they are offended and me calling them out but no one is actually upset in the least. It's all very friendly and no one gets pissed off.

  But back to your wife, little baby steps may ultimately mean more normalcy for you and your marriage, even if she stays a life-long JW. I admire your love for your wife. She is one lucky person indeed.
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  Something odd just happened when I logged on!

  by tornapart in

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  2. tech-support

  i typed in my name, password and the captcha, expecting to see my name come up in the top right corner and what i actually saw was someone else's name!

  (the name was another member of this board).

  i looked at it for a few seconds feeling a bit puzzled and not sure what to do about it and as i looked it automatically changed (whithout me doing anything) back to my own name.. has anyone else had this happen to them?

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  laverite

  I just turned into ohiocowboy.
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  Something odd just happened when I logged on!

  by tornapart in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  i typed in my name, password and the captcha, expecting to see my name come up in the top right corner and what i actually saw was someone else's name!

  (the name was another member of this board).

  i looked at it for a few seconds feeling a bit puzzled and not sure what to do about it and as i looked it automatically changed (whithout me doing anything) back to my own name.. has anyone else had this happen to them?

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  laverite

  Ann,

  I just clicked on active topics and I was you! I think you are on to something. But I think because you had just posted, I momentarily turned into you.

  This is kind of fun!

  -Lav
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  Something odd just happened when I logged on!

  by tornapart in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  i typed in my name, password and the captcha, expecting to see my name come up in the top right corner and what i actually saw was someone else's name!

  (the name was another member of this board).

  i looked at it for a few seconds feeling a bit puzzled and not sure what to do about it and as i looked it automatically changed (whithout me doing anything) back to my own name.. has anyone else had this happen to them?

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  laverite

  Thank goodness. I was afraid I was suffering from disassociative identity disorder!
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  New method to burglarize your car...

  by Glander in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the crooks have come up with a scanner that reads your keychain remote locking code.

  when you walk away from your car and lock the doors theives sitting nearby capture the code and can then unlock your car while you are shopping.. lock your car the old fashioned way, with the lock button before closing the door..

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  Gone Awol,

  How do they know how the thieves got it (e.g. wd40) if the car was hauled away and is long gone? Kind of curious about that.
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  If a Witness in 1974, how did "Earthquake" in "Sensaround" affect you?

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  for those who dont know, the movie "earthquake" was a huge film with big stars in 1974. it was mass destruction of watchtower armageddon proportions all presented in "sensaround".

  the soundtrack was augmented by a low tone that affected a person's inner ear making it seem the seat was moving beneath them.

  it was awesome.

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  laverite

  I never saw that movie, but if I am not mistaken, didn't that period have a whole genre of diaster movies, like the Towering Inferno and such? That time period (and then subsequently with nuclear disaster themed films) was quite perfect for the whole JW mentality.
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  Becoming "unevenly yoked" ?

  by Blttex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i haven't been to a meeting in about a year, made up my mind about six months ago that jw's are just another religion and that its not for me.

  started dating a "worldly" girl 10 months ago and got engaged this past weekend.

  i'm having a hard time deciding who to invite to the wedding.

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  laverite

  How about eloping? Make the day all about the two of you.
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  My August Update

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't really have a purpose in this thread, but wanted to share my thoughts and updates.. fading has, at least for now, totally stabilized.

  my jw wife doesn't discuss jw things and, as difficult for me as it is, i haven't been discussing anything directly against jw policy.

  oh, i slip in comments when she tries to judge people or groups based on her jw training- things like gay marriage, medical marijuana, pedophile news stories.

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  laverite

  OTWO,

  OMG -- a festival in Boys Town in Chicago. I can imagine how crazy that must have been. You and your wife were surely overdressed for the occassion. LOL. Just kidding. But seriously, I've seen a couple of these festivals and they are crazy. I don't judge. If people want to walk around all naked and stuff and be all hedonistic, it's none of my business.

  I wonder if your wife has confirmed through seeing the festival that the JW stereotypes of gay people are very real. Of course, there are usually some truths behind stereotypes. I just wonder if she knows that she's seeing a very small segment of the gay population -- those who live in Boys Town who attend festivals and walk around all naked-like.

  I'm gay. I have three kids. I've never walked around naked or even half naked. I'm pretty prudish, even! For me, as a gay person, my life revolves around home, children and pets when I am not working. I wonder if people who see stereotypical examples understand that's just a segment and that it is not representative of everyone who is gay?

  BTW OTWO this is an interesting thread! I am surprised your wife wanted to see what the festival was about. Just kind of wondering if she walked away from it with her JW thoughts reinforced.
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  Can the elders stop you from entering the kingdom hall if

  by label licker in

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  2. friends

  you continue to talk to the witlesses after being disfellowshipped.

  we were at a funeral recently and disfellowshipped hubby would talk to anyone who who would come up to him and talk.

  he said he wasn't going to be rude and that the rule of not talking to df ones don't apply to him.

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  laverite

  Label Licker,

  I am well aware of the word and its meaning.

  In your post, the way you used it, it's a slur. To try to twist it, and otherwise justify using the word while declaring that you, yourself as having disabled siblings doesn't give you any more credibility.

  Here's a short NY Times article: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/03/opinion/sunday/a-word-gone-wrong.html for anyone who is interested.

  I, too, have a sibling who is "mentally retarded." I can't imagine ever and I do mean ever using the word as a slur in the way that you did. If you do, indeed, have siblings who are mentally retarded, and you use the word as did in your post, I can only hope that you do not call your own siblings by that term.

  After reading your reply, I find your use of the word even sadder. This is the lastl I have to say on this (no further posts on this topic by me after this one): I find it totally offensive and injustifiable that you would use the word retarded as you did.
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  Can the elders stop you from entering the kingdom hall if

  by label licker in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you continue to talk to the witlesses after being disfellowshipped.

  we were at a funeral recently and disfellowshipped hubby would talk to anyone who who would come up to him and talk.

  he said he wasn't going to be rude and that the rule of not talking to df ones don't apply to him.

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  laverite

  Regarding the statement: " Let them be the ones who are acting retarded." I find that personally very offensive. Using the word retarded in this way makes me very sad.