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  A Video Series about 607 BC vs 587 BC

  by Londo111 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  this is the main series playlist:.

  http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=plynx0om_bmgbfmnapjr_v5fe9_pf8sqa1.

  this is the accompanying video appendix:.

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  marked for later reference.
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  Fading & Feeling Lost ... Part 2

  by What Now? in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  sorry to keep dragging this on ... but this is really the only place to vent right?

  so basically it's going on 4 months now that we've had zero meeting attendance, and for the last 2 months we have not reported any service time (prior to that, when our service group overseer would send a text asking for our time, we would report 4 hours each, for our "family study").

  in my last post, i talked about how we were having a really difficult time beginning a new life outside the organization.

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  What Now?

  Yep...I know what you're going through and you have my sympathy.To me it's much like the feeling one gets when eating all alone in a restaurant and everyone else is chatting away and you don't know what to do except pretend you're intently interested in reading the label on the ketchup bottle. It's like coming back from a great vacation and not having anyone to share the photos with when you get home. Something's missing...you feel like you were invited over for drinks,only to find out everyone else is staying for dinner.

  I think this is what one can expect to feel when one exits a cult or extremely insular(unhealthy) social setting such as what we were all part of. A lot of us have a major case of arrested development going on. We never developed the social skills needed to make friends that weren't already prequalified for us. We are unsure how to act when there isn't a script to go by. Like it or not, I think you are going to experience this feeling one way or the other. You can deal with it now or deal with it in a decade or two like many of us are.

  It seems to me you have two choices.

  1. Stick with the JW organization and view it as a means to an end. Have the best of both worlds, have your cake and eat it too. Go to the meetings with the intent of gleaning from them what you can but don't veiw them as the supposedly life sustaining banquets they claim they are. This way they'll be mildly amusing rather than annoying and dissapointing. Do as much or as little as you choose or are able. Do as well as you can with the established beliefs but draw your own conclusions where the beliefs conflict with your own sense of what's real. Keep your personal thoughts about life's big picture to yourself. It's nobody's business what you feel personally about everything. I call this the "JW My Way" Plan. This is what my Brother does. I envy his ability to go throught the motions without any mental discomfort. He has a ton of friends all over the country and world really. He doesn't believe JW's are the one and only truth out there yet he is able to take from it what he needs. If you are able to do this you'll get the social interaction you desire and you'll get to be around some basically nice folks who are trying to do what they think is right. Your child and you will have a built in framework of people to choose friends from especially if there are a number of other K. Halls nearby which is helpful if you're assigned to a "Dud" Hall. Being a JW is what you already know so you still have the option of going back to your comfort zone and will be able to concentrate on being a Mom rather than having to rebuild your life while simultaneously raising a child.

  2. You can tough it out now realizing that sooner or later you'll probably have to face this same situation anyway. You'll have to trust that like anything in life, if you hang in there long enough you'll get the hang of it and your efforts will build one upon the other until have something to show for yourself. It's nice that you can be part of certain activities because of your child but It might be easier if you make friends based on your own merit. Chances are you'll click with people better that way. Your child will have no trouble making his own friends especially if his Parents are doing the same and are socially well adjusted themselves. You can take steps toward gaining new friends by getting to know neighbors you've seen around but didn't bother with when you were a JW. You may have to stick your neck out and form activities of your own and invite people over . It may flop a few times but it's a learning experience right? Make up an excuse to happen by your neighbors houses when they are out in the yard working and introduce yourself. Maybe you can join a book or book clubs where you can actually discuss the topic at hand without being sensored.Maybe you'll decide to take a crochet or knitting class or become part of a knitting group so that you can knit your child and new baby a blanket of their own. From those groups you meet with regularly, friendships may develop. Place yourself in situations where you will see the same person or persons regularly such as at a gym or Yoga class for example. Basically that's what happened when you were a JW. You probably never discussed religion with JW's, you just kept seeing them 3 times a week so naturally you gravitated toward certain ones you clicked with. It had nothing to do with the beliefs being true or not.

  Whatever the case, one thing is for sure, you came to the right place to vent and have a listening ear from those of us in various stages of the same process.
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  Who still goes to meetings and out in field service?

  by SloppyJoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just curious as to who on here still regularly attends meetings and goes out in service?

  as i sit at the district convention i can't help but think who else out in the crowd is just like me.

  doesn't believe what they hear, but are still here..

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  who else out in the crowd is just like me. Doesn't believe what they hear, but are still here.

  That must be a living nightmare. It's difficult enough to participate in these activities when you believe it, but doing it when you know it's a crock...well that's gotta' mess with your head.
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  1969 "fact": You will never grow old in this present system of things

  by Ding in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  awake!

  "if you are a young person, you also need to face the fact that you will never grow old in this present system of things.

  because all the evidence in fulfillment of bible prophecy indicates that this corrupt system is due to end in a few years... therefore, as a young person, you will never fulfill any career that this system offers.

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  Does anyone know how to get a copy of this magazine or download it somewhere.

  I'd like to have it in the bookcase near my front door when JW's call.
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  Old out-of-touch JWs using antiquated terms

  by sir82 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ever notice how completely out of touch some (most?

  ) public speakers are?.

  last week we had a speaker ramble on for fully 1/3, maybe 1/2, of his 30 minute talk on the evils of "rap music".. i don't believe the term "rap music" has been uttered by anyone under the age of 40 for at least 20-25 years.. this week we got another "older gentleman" warning us about the pervasive dangers of "internet chat rooms".. again - didn't "chat rooms" die out about the same time as dialing up to connect to aol?.

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  They had a talk just before the summer District Convention reminding the "friends" not to "Bogart" the paper towels when they washed their hands in the restrooms at the assembly grounds.
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  goodwill

  by infernosdante in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  there is a goodwill store in the town i live in , ive noticed that everytime i go in there there are always jdubs in there,is'nt it a bit hypocritical that members of a religion that not only is not charitable and in fact discourages charity,is more than willing to take advantage of the charity of nonmembers,ho they say are doomed to be destroyed..

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  The Sisters in the Congregation I grew up in used the code words "Sally Ann's Dress Shop" whenever they talked about the Goodwill.

  Sister A: "Where'd you get your outfit ?"

  Sister B: "I got it at Sally Ann's for $2.OO and I found Bob 2 suits that look like they were never worn"
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  Literature Display Stands... Turning JWs into stationary targets...

  by Calebs Airplane in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  because of the membership retention issues that seem to continue getting worse, the watchtower corporation appears to be running out of ideas.

  in the past, when the numbers have dropped (membership, fs hours, rag placements, money, etc.

  ) they always came up with a "hook" that would give them a boost until the next drop in numbers (i.e.

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  Since they are footstep followers of Christ, I don't recall Jesus ever needing to have an arsenal of printed material to do his preaching work nor did he sit behind a table selling them.
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  What's The STRANGEST Thing You've Seen At A Kingdom Hall?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i saw a fight break out on the platform between an elder and a unbelieving husband who accused the elder of f---ing his wife.

  he then threw the lectern on the floor and pushed the elder.

  it was cool.......

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  There was an 8 year old boy sitting in front of us during the Sunday Watchtower study. He asked his Mother if he could go to the bathroom. She allowed him to go but when he didn't return for a long time the Mother went to the back and asked a brother to go into the mens room after him. The next thing I see is the Mother hauling her sniveling red faced kid down the asile by the collar and flung him into his seat. While he had been in the bathroom he had found a pair of scissors in the cabinet under the sink and chopped his hair off. He had dark hair and there were gouges all over his head where you could see his scalp.
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  Website with known apostates listed

  by besty in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hilarious - made my day.

  who could forget senior pu?.

  https://sites.google.com/site/silence1492/facebook-youtube.

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  exwhyzee

  Zound asked "Where did you get that quote from?"

  Click here

  My name was on the list but it's acutally someone in the UK with the same name who is supposedly going to receive a sentence of 5 years for something.
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  Since leaving watchtower what has been your biggest act of rebellion?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm in a pissy mood and would love to hear your stories.

  personally, i'm thinking of getting a tatoo on my rear end saying wbt$ kiss this!.

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  exwhyzee

  To me, doing anything with intent and them as the motivation,would be proof that they still had control over me. The last thing I did that would be considered rebellious was to throw out all my old literature. Throw is probably not the right word. Hurled....slammed...ripped and shreadded would more accurately describe what really happened.