Sorry to hear about your rough day with your bro, Kaykay.
We just learned about paradigms in communications class last week. A paradigm is a set of rules and beliefs that a person gauges their life by. Your brother has the JW paradigm, and he can't see past the "Jehovah will provide" thing.(Which contrasts nicely with the "men are the head of the household and must provide" thing, I think).
My husband and I just talked about this yesterday. I DA'd myself recently(he was never JW). Most of my former congregation members keep asking aquaintances "how I am doing" economically. Guess, what--things are definitely not worse, they are better. But I don't really relate it to leaving myself, it's just a set of circumstances that worked in my favor.Part of the Witness Paradigm is that only Jehovah provides, or Satan if you leave Jehovah. Funny thing is, in reality, usually nothing changes drastically, except maybe our own view about effort bringing us a living for our family.
You realize this, now that your every thought is not controlled (if it ever was, I'm not familiar with your story). He does not. He's irritating, but take pity on him, dear. You are far better off than he.
I noticed when you relayed his words that there was a pleading quality to his voice when he said "Don't get mad at me, but are you coming back to the kingdom hall." Personally, I think he misses you. The Witness Paradigm thing may be getting in his way of expressing any real sentiment.And as one who has only nonWitness bros--believe me, they can all be annoying:):)
Your kids are really lucky to have a mom that cares so much about them. No, not luck--it was smarts and sheer determination that got you to where you are. Keep it up girl, and unload here anytime. We all need to do that now and then:)