so im obviously out mentally....i havent da-ed but i cant care less!
but.....my co workers are encouraging me to find and join a church.
this person is particularly "wisdomonian" meaning she seems to solve and assist many an ailing indicidual in my field.
HI Jon Preston, If your coworker is referring to the Church of Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormon), you would be leaving one dangerous cult for another.
I would suggest going to several different churchs such as Luthern, Presbyterian, and Episcopalian, or just purchase a study Bible like an NIV Bible with commentary on every page by bible scholars who are listed by name at the begining of the book.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
so my wife is slowly waking up!
but cognitive dissonance is thick indeed!
my wife knows the gb are false in many ways but she still holds to the "theyre more right than others!
Hi Jon Preston, Have you thought about asking your wife what three things would make her distrust the WTBTS? Then, show her how to do her own research to critically think for herself.
IMHO www.jwfacts.com would be a great starting point for WTBTS specific topics. Another would be watching one of Steve Hassan's videos on his website www.freedomofmind.com. You could start off gently by showing your wife How Big is the Phenomenon of Undue Influence? (2:01) or show her the video Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23) where Steve Hassan says that JWs are a dangerous cult.
Best of wishes helping your wife to critically think for herself.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
well long story short, i've been meaning to ask this girl at school out for a while but i can never do it because her friends are always there in the way and i would prefer to ask her in person.
we've liked each other for a while (i was oblivious until about a month or two ago) and i'm also i bit worried she'll get tired of waiting.. i was just wondering if anyone had any advice or something that they could give me.
HI DuvanMuvan, Walk up to her and non-chalantly ask if she will meet you for coffee or lunch today or tomorrow. (The timing is unimportant. Just provide two different times so that she doesn't automatically say that she is busy because she is.) Ask her for a date while you are having coffee or lunch together.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
a few minuites ago talking to my sister who is finally seeing the watchtower for what it is and is scrutinizing it alot brought something to myu attention that troubled my longtime jw mother dearly.
she said after reading the article about the death of guy pierce she noticed that they never refered to him as brother pirce.
she said everytime they mentioned his name they refered to him as mr. pierce.. .
I apologize in advance to those with loved ones still stuck in the WTBTS. I hope that those left on the GB are less reasonable than Mr. Pierce, so that JWs may awaken quicker. I don't like wishing anything bad on people, but it seems that JWs are more likely to awaken the more the GB demands that JWs work harder and give more.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
as i have mentioned before, i love photography, and specially a technique called hdr.
hdr stands for high dynamic range, and it means the ratio of the "lightness" of the lightest spot in the picture to the darkest.. .
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/high-dynamic-range_imaging.
Hi ILoveTTATT, I like the lake. Where is it and what is its name?
I know enough about photography to always use a flash in sunlight to remove shadows on people's faces. I also use the automatic red-eye removal feature.
I do like photos in black and white with a large f-stop and either the fore-ground or back-ground is out of focus and some filters are used.
How do you display your photos? Do you print and mount them, or display them on revolving display screen?
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
i was a 3rd generation jw, half the congregation i attended was made up of my entire mom's side of the family, 2 of the 3 elders were my grandpa and uncle.
my first memory of the organization was when they announced my mom's name in the meeting saying she had been reinstated....it was 1988 and i was 6 years old....i didn't understand it then, but when i asked my mom why was she crying and why did they say her name in the meeting, she said "it's because i've been good!".
so she went back and after a period of time assisting constantly, she was reinstated.
Welcome bsand20, I'm sorry that JWs have treated you so poorly, so that they can reach a false promise of Paridise by the WTBTS. The best way to overcome the WTBTS's indoctrination of JWs is to live a successful and happy life free from coersion by the WTBTS.
Instead of being angry, love your children and give them the childhood that you regret not having. Learn how to communicate better with your JW relatives by either reading books by cult exit counselors, like Steve Hassan's books (i.e., "Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and (his latest book) "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs") and/or visiting websites like www.freedomofmind.com and watching FREE videos. I feel that you might learn a lot from watching Steve Hassan's video Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23).
Some things that you can do that will not raise a JW's cult persona are to:
Have you thought about sending your mother a short note about how you love her unconditionally but you resent her pressuring you to be baptised at 13. You were not mature enough to make such a commitment. Now she feels that she must shun you for being baptised a JW to make you return to the WTBTS. You will never return to the WTBTS, so your Mom does not have to shun you so that you will return. You love her enough not talk about the WTBTS with her so that she can share happy moments with your family and be a loving grandma to your children.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
i love this site, i really do.
it has helped thousands upon thousands of people to sort things out, and see ttatt.
i would like to propose something to help with the healing process and help people become ex-exjw's, if possible.
Congratulations about your parents not shunning you ILoveTTATT!! You lucked out big time.
Now go to the gym, go out and meet more active, positive, professional people, and enjoy your life. Being successful and enjoying life is probably the best way to dispel WTBTS induced phobias in your parents.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
i love this site, i really do.
it has helped thousands upon thousands of people to sort things out, and see ttatt.
i would like to propose something to help with the healing process and help people become ex-exjw's, if possible.
Hi ILoveTTATT, Have you read/written threads in the Social forum and its subforms?
It is a good thing to go out and talk with and play with real friends and enjoy life instead of visiting JWN. It will be a great day for exJWs (and people adversely affected by the WTBTS) to no longer feel a desire to visit JWN.
I hope that you are enjoying your life, even though the WTBTS has "unduly influenced" your JW family and friends to shun you.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
i ask because many a time being honest and telling the truth, even with tact is not met well - in my experience.. in the last couple of days i went for an interview with a company and when asked what my current package was i was honest and told the truth.
they came back with the exact same offer - i then asked if we could negotiate considering my experience blah blah blah - they didn't both to respond and after three emails and asking for some sort of curtesy reply, i got a very offish response.
a collegue i work with went for the same interview, lied about what she earns and they offered her a higher salary and were happy to negotiate even higher.
There is honesty and then there is total disclosure. IMHO it is dishonest to hide facts from or lie about facts to someone when there are adverse conseguences to a person.
As far as a job interview, you can tell a prospective employer what your exact salary is or you can say that your total compensation is more, which it usually is. For instance if your salary is $37.51/hr, you could tell a prospective employer that your salary is about $40/hr or that your total compsensation is more than $40/hr which it is when including employer paid social security tax and any other compensation such as paid vacations. Another thing that you could tell a prospective employer is what salary you want, like I'm want a minimum salary of $40/hr. Is it lying not to answer the question which was asked?
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
this is the followup to this thread:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/276119/1/well-its-march-and-the-college-answers-are-coming-in#.uyjdu_ldv2e.
the financial aid offer came in.. the first year of attending is actually cheaper than what we were going to pay at the state university after their scholarship offer.. i mean, really cheaper.. we would be fools to turn it down.. they are even flying him in for the preview week.. .
Congradulations to your son CaptainSchmideo!! I hope that he is able to find a balance between studying and enjoying the social life at MIT and in the Boston area.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
