Cognitivedizzy ...first of all a big welcome to you & we hope soon...your wife! Really wonderful to hear of the love you have for each other. This relationship is your pivotal point. Absolutely move out from that perspective. Do whatever is good to take care of this. Do not let anyone rush you. Make smart deliberate steps. Keep it simple & don't apologize to anyone.
Wish you great success. Smell the roses & feel the fresh air of freedom!
clarity