Hi Breakfast of Champions,
"Here is what she's stuck on though: Jehovah's Witnesses don't go to war. And who else is doing the preaching work like Jehovahs Witnesses?"
A year or two after I left the faith, I made a trip to Berlin Germany. One of the sites I wanted to visit was Sachsenhausen. Our tour guide explained at one point that the first person hung on the gallows was one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I can honestly say, a feeling of pride (and sadness of course) still came over me, even though I was now an Ex-JW. Even to this day, I don't think there is any need to not give some credit to the Witnesses in this regard. I also continue to appreciate that when my father in Canada decided not to go to war it was a difficult decision and certainly one that went against the currents of the time.
However, a couple other things struck me that day. One was the simple fact that it was the Russian Red Army that liberated the camp. The fact that Russian soldiers went to war and many died in the process was the undeniable basis upon which inmates in that camp were set free (of course the SS forced marched out many before the Russian arrived). Second there were others who resisted the Nazis such as Reverend Martin Niemöller who wrote the now famous "First they came..." poem.
Finally, I now realize there is something intrinsic about Jehovah's Witnesses both now and then that does much harm, but plays out in this way. That is a strong sense of them vs us in regards to competing philosophy. Absolutely anyone who dared suggest they could lift up humanity is the subject of scorn and ridicule by the Witnesses. Hence, resistance against Hilter's Germany was not just about being on elevated moral ground. It was much to do with "we are God's people and will not bow to you..." Of course the individuals making up such rhetoric were not the ones on the front line!
Jesus of course said "this good news of the kingdom will be preached..." (Matt 24:14) and there is little doubt the Witnesses are well known for their door-to-door preaching. But, in reality what is this thing we did as Witnesses? Actually I now believe it was almost entirely about ritual that helped with group identity. A year or two before we left this happened. My wife had a Bible study move just west of Phoenix out towards Sun City. At first we tried to contact the congregation out there so they would make contact with the study, but that didn't work. We then made two trips out to the congregation and after the meeting asked around who would like help out with a study. It was truly a deer-in-the-headlights look! Finally, someone agreed to go with my wife on the next study. My wife was shocked when she got an angry phone call the day after the study. The sister said, literally, "what are you trying to rope me into?" Then went out to explain at some length how she could not accomodate a study and how could she presume such!
Not all of course are like that and certainly I have met some sincere and well motivated Witnesses in my years. However, far more it seems do things, subtle and sometimes not so subtle to actually be ineffective and merely put in the time.
Best wishes helping your wife.
Cheers,
-Randy