Posts by Libelle

But what I love is when my litlest used to say, when repeating prayers from the Mr. "and your son Christ Jesus" she'd say "and my son Crisis Jesus" hahah

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Need Opinions -- Engaged to a JW!!

by junebug_11 in

ok, quick run down of my situation.. .

1. i am not religious.

my now-fiance was raised jw but left the religion about 10 years ago.. 2. we started dating last march, i got pregnant within two weeks.

Junebug... I'm there. I married that guy who was a lapsed witness. It's not a pretty picture. For the first 5 years of our relationship, before he went back to the JW's (and before I knew exactly what that meant) things were decent. He was a moderate guy, not afraid to tell women that he was a feminist even, and I was a feminist, liberal pagan. then 3.5 years ago it all changed. They came to our door right when we were making some big changes in our live, and now he's as bad as any religious right extremist except that on top of all that, he won't celebrate any special occassion. I'm not a superficial person, but my birthday is so upsetting to me anymore. "my man" considers it the height of evil to even so much as wake up and say happy birthday with a kiss. Those little joys being gone are just the surface of the damage this religion has done to our household and relationship.

Now, I cringe just about every time he says anything because it's nearly all related to the WT and their utter drivel. Our kids (my stepkids and our one child together) have bible studies and go out in service. It's awful. I'm working on leaving this situation, because quite frankly,it's crap. And every time that I talk to him about it, he always turns it around on me, as if I'm the one who's "tearing apart our family" as if I were the one who's doen a complete 180 (I'm still a feminst, liberal, UU- pagan). In fact lately, every flaw or trouble in our house is turned into my fault or my doing. Or he likes to shove in my face how my lack of peace (inner peace, if you will) is because my own beliefs are not working. He's not willing to see how huge a divide he himself created in our household, how his arroagance, and shitty religion has made more strife in this house than my religion and it's ability to create peace for me. . And is far too willing to blame it on me since I won't listen to bible truths.

So now I am on the brink of leaving, and feel horrible guilt about this as I'm leaving my steps to their JW dad and their SDA mom... great combination for those kids isn't it? But at least I can give my own kid a home (if only half the time) where she can have birthdays, holidays, read anything she wants (even Harry Potter) and have a haven away from that cult.

That's what it's come to for us. If he's interested in sticking with them, all they will do is continue to draw him in.

One thing that's been my experience is, as an "unbelieving wife" anytime I come near a JW, they are all my bestest bestest friend and try to hug me and go out of their way to overly buddy me. It makes me shudder. If I joined them, all I"d hear is how I need to leave my job, help hubby find decent work (I'm the breadwinner) and take me and my kids out in service every day. VOMIT.

It sucks.

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How can you spot an über-Witness?

by dgp in

is there anything that would let you know, right away, that you're dealing with someone extremely witness?.

thanks..

Libelle

I don't know exactly how to pinpoint it, but they all start getting this "look" after a while. Does not matter the race, they just look witnessy... I've watched it develop on The Mr. It's scary.

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Do you find mustaches attractive?

by sabastious in

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^ i know many women who are all over that.. -sab.

Libelle

Mustaches are only attractive if they are attached to a goattee... I looooove a goattee on a man. sigh

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Nice Article by mormon woman

by maninthemiddle in

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http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/09/fashion/09modern.html?_r=1.

being male, i cannot relate to all of this, but i do draw a lot of parrallels to the jws.. one quote:.

so why wasnt i dating mormon men?

Libelle

Wow, great article. Sad for her, though, it's a shame how religions destroy people.

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I've been "a proverbial saying and a taunt" for awhile now...

by sd-7 in

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...amongst both jws and ex-jws, i'm sure.

i'm planning to get back into therapy to deal with my self-esteem issues, and to stay the heck away from emotionally abusive women.

which, given my apparent magnetism to them, logically means all women by extension, as i can't seem to see the train until it's two feet in front of me.

Libelle

SD-7, I'm sorry for your pain. I think you are on the path to healing, and it's a very good thing to seek out a therapist. I can't answer any of your questions, but I wish you peace and healing on this journey.

-Libelle

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