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  No more hiding!!!

  by BugEye in

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  well, here is my real picture.. i have decided to stop hiding and show my real face.. i hid behind an artificial facade (data) for a long time, fearful of facing the consequences of deciding that my former beliefs were incorrect.. i made the concrete decision in march of this year that jehovahs witnesses do not have the truth and in fact that they were totally wrong.. however, since i have been inactive for 5 years and i do have some people that i care about still in the organization, i decided that i would not reveal who i was so that i did not lose my friends and family.. however, i have now decided to be who i am and my change in my picture icon represents that change.

  the consequences are still the same, and i am likely to lose most if not all of my borg friends, but that is the consequence of my decision.. no more hiding for me .

  bugeye

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  Good for you! I am hoping one day to do the same.

  Kat
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  My stepfather died tonight

  by Mulan in

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  i have just finished making phone calls informing the family of the death of my stepfather.

  i was an adult when he married my mother, but i loved him very much.

  he was a wonderful man.. although he was a faithful jw, for his entire life (he was born to it) he was a really good man, and a true christian, i believe.

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  Kat_

  Dear Marilyn,

  My sincere condolences to you and your family. Your Stepfather Henry was obviously a very beautiful, loving person, inside and out. I am so glad that you are able to share with us his story and keep the wonderful memory of him alive.

  Please know that I will be thinking of you.

  Kat
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  New to the Forum

  by wokeup in

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  hi to all in the forum.

  i am new here and would like to briefly share how i arrived here.

  i was born and raised a witness.i'm in my 40's and married.i had some doubts as regards to some docrinal teachings and changes in the 80's.

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  Kat_

  Hi Wokeup,

  I just wanted to join the others in welcoming you. This is truly a very friendly, supportive place! There are so many people here who have gone/are going through the various stages of being in and leaving the org. I also know there are many who still have spouses in the org. At any time, you'll find someone who knows exactly what you are going through and will be able to offer advice, support, and just basically be a friend. I also think you're going to provide invaluable support and friendship to others who may need it. Again, Welcome!

  Kat
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  Never stop trying to get them out

  by Free2Bme in

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  i know there are people on this board who despite earnest efforts to reach the hearts of friends or family still in the wt org feel they have to give up or that they are flogging a dead horse.. someone very close to me is preparing herself to leave.

  her heart has already left.

  she finally sees the true colours of the organisation she has faithfully followed for over 30 years.. but it has not been easy or swift.

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  Kat_

  That was a very inspiring story. I have made it a goal to one day not only tell them about me (still hiding), but also to just slip little tidbits of info here and there. Hopefully, like you said, it will get them thinking. All it takes is one spark. I can honestly say that my determination now is due to this board. I am drawing strength here. Thank You.
  I often think about my family, especially my Mother, who are all in the 'truth'. When I first came here I thought that, while I was lucky to have had the opportunity to open my eyes, there would never be hope for them--they are so staunch in their beliefs. But I have recently come to realize that it's not their actual faith in God that makes them this way; it's that classic JW belief that they ARE RIGHT, God or no. I wonder these days, after witnessing many posts by those who are still total JW's, if it's really that they have such beautifully undying faith in God, or is it an undying faith in themselves. I am not saying they are all like this but I have noticed many who are more concerned about proving themselves to be superior than proving God to be superior.

  Just a thought.

  Kat
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  Dumb A$$ Laws

  by closer2fine in

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  in my hubby's home state these are some dumb ass laws:.

  you can be legally married by publically introducing a person as your husband or wife 3 times.

  it is illegal to drive without windshield wipers.

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  Kat_

  A recently passed anticrime law requires criminals to give their victims 24 hours notice, either orally or in writing, and to explain the nature of the crime to be committed.

  I got the biggest laugh out of that one. Wow.

  Kat
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  What was Jesus???

  by Billygoat in

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  there were 3 equally good arguments that jesus was black: .

  1. he called everyone "brother" .

  2. he liked gospel .

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  Kat_

  Absolutely hilarious! That is definitely one I will pass along!

  Kat
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  What song do you want played at your funeral?

  by ballistic in

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  what song do you want playing at your funeral?.

  i'll be having "going underground" by the jam.

  i was too far out... and not waving but drowning - stevie smith

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  Since I will die before my kids (Please God!), I want this played for them. This is 'our' special song that's been sung since the day my son was born. I sung this to him every single day when he was sick. Whenever my kids hear this they are instantly calmed when crying, instantly soothed when upset. It's so special to us.
  I know it sounds corny but I just thought I'd share:

  Goodnight My Angel
  -Billy Joel

  Goodnight, my angel
  Time to close your eyes
  And save these questions for another day
  I think I know what you've been asking me
  I think you know what I've been trying to say.

  I promised I would never leave you
  And you should always know
  Wherever you may go
  No matter where you are
  I never will be far away

  Goodnight, my angel now it's time to sleep
  And still so many things I want to say
  Remember all the songs you sang for me
  When we went sailing on an emerald bay

  And like a boat out on the ocean
  I'm rocking you to sleep
  The water's dark
  And deep inside this ancient heart
  You'll always be a part of me

  Goodnight, my angel
  Now it's time to dream
  And dream how wonderful your life will be
  Someday your child may cry
  And if you sing this lullabye
  Then in your heart
  There will always be a part of me

  Someday we'll all be gone
  But lullabyes go on and on
  They never die
  That's how you
  And I
  Will be
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  Raising Kids to be Cult Members!!!

  by lisaBObeesa in

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  in another thread, there is a discussion about young people leaving the jws at a rate of something like 88%.

  we see the rules given to the sheep for raising their children and we shake our heads saying, dont they get it?

  what is wrong with the org that it cant see how they are treating the youth?

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  Wow, now I am a tad upset. I never thought about the whole JW thing should anything happen to my husband or myself! My children are so young and, while I know that I do not want them raised as JW's, I have no choice in who they would go to! All of my family members who I would even consider are JW's! All of them! My mother, my closest cousins and aunts...my goodness! I had always planned on either my mother or my cousin...but can you make a will stating that the guardians are not to raise the kids in their own religion? But even then how will the kids experience 'normalcy'? birthdays? holidays? UGH, this thread has created all new worries for me. Thanks a lot. <just teasing>

  I know I am overreacting--I am praying that my kids will at least be teenagers should my number come up unexpectedly--but I really have discovered a new problem by reading the thread.

  Kat
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  Hi Again

  by tattoogrl333 in

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  well the elders do not accept me.

  i do not fit the mold and nor will i change too.

  they asked for a book for me to see the questions answered for baptisim but they wouldn't give it to me because they have to decide if i can join???

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  Kat_

  Welcome back tattoogirl

  I am so very glad this happened. It was your wonderfully individual appearance that saved you from this org. I wish more people would have pink hair and tattoos while considering being a JW. It would would have prevented them from being accepted and possibly have made all the difference. I have a tattoo that I'd felt guilty about almost since the week after I got it. (It was a spur of the moment, rebellion-motivated thing). Only when I finally rejected the JW mentality did I finally feel okay with it. Those darn JW's are responsible for my inability to enjoy something like an itty-bitty tattoo even years after I stopped going to meetings! Talk about mind control! I agree that God doesn't care what we look like. It's the invisible stuff that matters.

  Kat
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  This is for those of you who asked for my exp...

  by MrMoe 2 in

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  it's long, so take a deep breath!.

  ok, this is for those of you who wanted my life experience as a jw, so here goes.. i was born to a beautiful woman/mother who was abandoned by my biological father.

  my mother was raised as a jw and left in her teen years and turned to the baptist church as an adult.

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  Kat_

  MrMoe2,

  What a story--I am so sorry for all that you've had to endure. I am so glad you are here; you deserve support and love and I know you'll have both here. Like think4 said, "hang in there".

  Many Hugs,

  Kat