Posts by kat7302

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

CAPP.........

Thank you for replying. Im not worried about my ex in the sense of me getting back with him.. i think that he wants that so Im really worried for his feelings. Ive made it clear to him that Ive moved on and therefore we cant go backwards but he lives in hope despite it being him that was the one who caused us to break up in the first place. I dont bear grudges tho and I still care about him so needless to say, I dont wanna see him hurt and this news will devastate him.

Im already listed up with the free counselling due to my JW days! Not really getting me anywhere at the moment tho!

Age really doesnt matter to me at all. I love this man for everything that he is. His age has never been an issue to me at all or to the people that know us and it never will be in our case. I can understand peoples concerns sometimes when there is an age gap but as we are both mature adults, we are both capable of deciding whats best for us and this relationship most definately is.

I really like your grandmothers saying! Ill remember that one!

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Help me out here....

by Wolfgirl in

jw
friends

ok, i'm new to this site.

i'm currently questioning a lot of things.

i do not want to be "preached at" by either side; that'll just make me leave.

kat7302

You said it! nah, they're beautiful creatures

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Gravedancer......

much more future upside than downside.....

Cheers for that. I guess as JW's we cnat help but worry abotu our actions and how things will affect us and our families long term. Ive been out of it for 10 years now but I still seem to think of something JW every day. It was sweet what you said about playing with our children in 5/10 years time and you're right. My oldest is 5 and then 3, then 1.......at 24, Ive lived quite a life but I do have so much fun with the children. They are my whole life. I suppose I never really wanted to have children by different men......maybe this is linked back to my JW days again.....god!

Appreciation for you commenst though. It always means so much to have people take the time to talk to me.
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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Wolfgirl - thanks for your reply.......told you it wouldnt take long to find your way around! I wasnt happy in my marriage either and this relationship is definatley making me more content and allowing me to be myself which is something Ive never been either in relationships or life as a JW. Youre right about the word Boyfriend, for a guy who's 40 I guess it doesnt really apply! Your advice was really sweet, if he loves me then Im sure that everything will work out okay. I suppose that its only been a few days so far so we're both still in shock. Im planning on telling my parents today or tomorrow. Ill let you all know how I got on!

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Guest..yeah I guess I am on my own in some ways........this man does love me and we get on brilliant so Im sure that in the long run things will work out. Nice reference to surfing by the way..one of my fave artists is Brian WIlson (the original Beach boy!) and I recently got to meet him - oh my god, I met Brian Wilson...one of my top 5 songs of his? Surfer girl! Another top one would have to be 'In my room' that got me through some of the JW years!

Thanks for the advice, heres to happy surfing!

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Help me out here....

by Wolfgirl in

jw
friends

ok, i'm new to this site.

i'm currently questioning a lot of things.

i do not want to be "preached at" by either side; that'll just make me leave.

kat7302

Hey wolf girl, nice to meet you on here.

We have a lot in common from reading your story....keep in touch and keep the questions coming. You may be new here but it wont take long for you to find your way around and work a lot of the stuff out for yourself. Its a great site for ex jw's and jw's to get together and ask questions but it doesnt always have to be about religion. Im sure you'll agree that after a lifetime of JW's, sometimes its nice to shut off from the whole thing and meet people to talk to about 'normal' stuff....the added benefit on here is that you dont have to explain all the little details that you normally would when explaining stuff to people, everyone on here already understands the way that JW's work and the unwritten stuff that you could never explain.

I look forward to seeing more of you on here. If you get 5 mins, feel free to read my thread (directly underneath yours on here!) and give me some answers to my problem! You never know, it may make you feel better to know that someone else is going through crap at the mo!!!!!!!!!!!

Nice to hear from you anyway. Chin up girlie and keep in touch. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXx

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Im not so bothered about the elders thing..Im already DF's! Im not divorced yet,its still going through. Dunno how Im gonna tell him (the ex) he'll be devastated. I know what you're all saying about being happy and stuff but Its really hard to be.

EUROPE....yeah Id heard of contraceptives and was using them too. What else could I do?

SLEEPY....nice play on words........that sounds better than my original sentence.

Thanks for the replies, keep em coming, the more I can talk about it the better I think.

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Yeah Ive told him and although it wasnt the plan, he isnt freaking like me. He says he loves me and we do have a great relationship. He told me that he wants everything to work out fine and that I shouldnt worry because he loves me. I think on the whole he's taken it okay actually...I havent told many people about it yet. My sister knows but not my parents...dad is chairman of wales on the HLC and mum is very very strong in it too. They really like my boyfriend they loved him when he was a JW because he really is a lovely guy and they were chuffed when we got togther in January too but that doesnt mean they're gonna love the idea of us having a child when we're not married. He isnt DF yet and I dont want the elders to use this against him. He's not a typical 40 year old , he's really funny, very fit and dresses trendier than me! but more importantly, he's just a wonderful guy and given the choice of someone to have a baby with, yeah I would pick him but the important word here is CHOICE, its horrible to be carrying a child and not really want it. Then again, I only found out on Thursday so its not exactly fully sunk in yet I suppose. Having a baby is a wonderful thing and I hate that Im not happy about it. I feel alone despite people knowing but more importantly............scared beyond belief

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Yeah, I take your point...

basically.......I have 3 children from my marriage. Been seeing someone for 6 months now.....funnily enough, he was a Ministerial servant from my old congregation and I had a major crush on him when I was a little girl. We met up in December last year after not seeing eachother for about 10 years and fell in love. Theres a age gap there...Im 24, he's 40 but he's a wonderful guy and the fact that he was a JW also helps cos we both understand where we've come from. Like I say, I have 3 children and he has 2 not that much younger than me (his daughter is preg!) and I found out last week that Im now expecting his baby. Im still in a state of shock....I didnt want any more childre, at least not at the moment. We're not living together and I didnt want that to happen because we have to...I was happy to take everything as it came. He isnt too freaked although it will be weird to have his first grandchild in December and then his own child in March! His girfriend and daughter are pregnant at the same time and the children will be in the same school year aswell. I dont know how I feel apart from very very frightened and very very alone.

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Put these words into a sentence..LIFE,MESS,IS,MY,A

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another?

without going into the details just yet....i have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and i have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and f**k up once again.

i dunno what to do.....im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost.

kat7302

Have you ever noticed how you seem to go from one mess to another? Without going into the details just yet....I have just spent the last 6 months getting my head together and getting back on my own two feet after leaving my husband and I have now managed to stop myself in my tracks and F**K up once again. I dunno what to do.....Im feeling pretty low and desperate at the moment and worst of all....lost. I dunno what to do and who to turn to. Ive managed to get myself outa one situation and straight back into another...this time though...I cant get out of it.