Posts by drewcoul

RF wote an article in the WT in about 1974 or 75 titled something like "Jehovah Forgives Erring Ones" Or "Jehovah Provides Hope for Erring Ones" It was this article that actually got my Dad to go back into the organization. In one of his books, RF mentions this article and said how he thought it was a loving thing to do to show those who had been DF'd that they can be forgiven. It worked for my Dad, and the fact that he mentioned it to me specifically as the article that motivated him to get reinstated, proves to me what a powerful and motivational writer Ray Franz was. I was only 2 or 3 years old at the time the article came out, and Dad remembered it as late as 2006 the year he died. We spoke about it a few months before his death. His hope was that I would attempt to be reinstated, but it didn't work.

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Anderson Cooper is gay!!!

by laverite in

according to the la times, anderson cooper is gay and no one was surprised about it.

was anyone here shocked by the news?

http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-anderson-cooper-gay-20120702,0,1530321.story.

drewcoul

Ladies, now you know how I felt when Ellen Degeneres came out.

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Breaking news -- Visitor at Bethel wreaks havoc

by FatFreek 2005 in

postings lately have revealed the silly dress code for visitors while they simply tour the factory.

godzilla did not like it during his recent visit.. .

cheers,.

drewcoul

I thought it was King Kong who was in NYC, and Godzilla wreaked havoc in Tokyo? Funny either way!

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Was There Anything You Actually Enjoyed About Being A JW?

by MrFreeze in

i'm sure this question has been raised a lot but it is always good to look back.

the last 5 or 6 years of me being a jw, i did not have a very good go of it.

one thing i actually did enjoy was going to the international convention.

drewcoul

Ahh Yes, the cheese danish.......and the chocolate pudding when it was still frozen! and, being a kid in the 70's and 80's, I loved the burritos.

Do you remember the "muff-n-egg" that they served for breakfast at the CA's. I remember being about 13 and reading on the sign "Muff-n-egg- 4 tickets" I couldn't believe it! Did no one really understand what muff is a term for?

I also liked the basketball gatherings on holidays and on the weekends every few weeks.

Iamallcool: I dated an ex-JW. I didn't know it at the time we first went out. She had actually just gotten reinstated. We started dating, and I remember her telling me that she was studying the bible. I said "With who?" She said, "well, I wanted to talk to you about this, first off, its a Christian religion." I said, "It's Jehovah's Witnesses, isn't it" She said yes, and I began to tell her about my past. She later got disfellowshipped again, and wanted to go out with me again. She was completely nuts! She would show up at my house unannounced and want to hang out. She would put things in my car for me, even when it was parked at the grocery store parking lot while I was shopping. I only recommend dating an ex JW if she is mentally out. If they're not mentally out, you know they've gotta have issues.

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Marital problems - advice (or support) please

by jamesmahon in

completely non-jw related this but value the diversity of experience and viewpoint on this forum.

i am going to sketch this out quick as i can but please ask any questions if the gaps need filling.. as some may know, i have been married for 12 years with two children (8 and 4).

my wife stopped work when the eldest was born and has been a stay at home mum since.

drewcoul

Your key is going to be "Differentiation" for both of you. I am not a therapist, so I am not about to give advice to you, but I see one regularly and he has helped my wife and I in an unbelievable way.

Let me recommend a book: "Family Evaluation" by Murray Bowen, Phd. I also recommend a therapist who uses "Family Systems Therapy." There are several good systems of therapy, but I think Family Systems is the best. It has caused a total paradigm shift in my life and shown me how to help all relationships in my life be healthy and fulfilling.

Best Wishes!