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  Do You Think Some Witnesses Are Mentally Ill Or Mentally Impaired....

  by minimus in

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  and that's why they are in the religion?.

  i recall many jws over the years who were what i'll call "weird"---and looking back at it, many witnesses are "odd" and "different"..

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  scarredforlife

  I think all people that get sucked into a cult are suffering from a mental illness of sorts. It can be cured but many times it's very painful as many of us can testify.
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  Update on my JC hearing...received the expected news

  by SweetBabyCheezits in

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  in case anyone's interested but unaware of my family's case up to this point, here's the original thread:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/198852/5/sbcheezits-judicial-hearing-my-epic-fail-repost-for-ie-users.

  so the elders requested a follow-up meeting last week but we were unable to meet at their set time and told them as much.

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  scarredforlife

  SBC,

  Welcome to freedom of thought. On behalf of your children I want to thank you for your exit from this cult. They will always love you for it. Even the loss of their grandmothers is not as horrible as staying in that negative, terror-filled cult. You and your wife and children will grow closer and you will never regret it.
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  What year did JWs stop taking money for magazines/books at the KH?

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  scarredforlife

  Interesting. I didn't know this.
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  Has anyone successfully faded without moving out of the territory?

  by NiceDream in

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  so far i've managed to avoid speaking to the elders who drop by.

  just wondering if they'll eventually give up in a couple years.

  anyone have experience with this?.

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  scarredforlife

  My mother faded without ever moving. She lived in the same house for 30+ years without attending a meeting. As far as I know she was never bothered by shepherding visits. She would not have answered the door if they came unexpectedly.

  Of course, when my father died, the PO did show up with his wife. I met them in the front yard and told them to leave and never come back.

  That may have something to do with my mother never being bothered by them.
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  I realized a positive outcome from my JW upbrining!

  by scarredforlife in

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  i have been on this board for over 2 years.

  one thing that i have read over and over is to find something positive in my upbrining as a jw and i have been unable to do this.

  all i have seen is negative.

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  scarredforlife

  MMXIV,

  I have been out for a long, long time. When I left I cut off all contact with any JWs. I don't miss any of them. The only ones I have continued to have contact withrecently is some aunts and uncles and a few cousins. I have found maintaining a relationship with any of them to be impossible. My life is so different from theirs. They live in that robot world of JWism. There is no common ground.

  My sister and I do not have a relationship at all currently. We did talk for the very first time a couple of years ago when my mother was very illabout our JW upbringing. It was a relief to finally talk about it. I think she was even more negatively affected than me.

  After I left, my parents became somewhat inactive. My father died very suddenly. He had not attended a meeting in about a year when he died. After he died, my mother never attended another meeting. We did not have a JW funeral for my father. My sister and I refused to have one. You can imagine that that was like a bomb went off for my mother and her family.

  Long,complicated story. I hate the JWs.
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  I realized a positive outcome from my JW upbrining!

  by scarredforlife in

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  i have been on this board for over 2 years.

  one thing that i have read over and over is to find something positive in my upbrining as a jw and i have been unable to do this.

  all i have seen is negative.

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  Hi MMXIV,

  Thanks for your post. I agree that recognising some positives does not diminish the negatives. I am very glad that you have found things that you learned that have helped you in the corporate world.

  If I think back to the congregation we were in when I was between the ages of 3 1/2and 10 we had some good times. There were several families with children about the ages of my sister and myself. Our families had good times together. It was like a community. If I think about just those times the memories are positive.

  But we moved to another town when I was 10. We never had anything close to that feeling of friends and community again. As my sister says, it was a nightmare.
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  I realized a positive outcome from my JW upbrining!

  by scarredforlife in

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  i have been on this board for over 2 years.

  one thing that i have read over and over is to find something positive in my upbrining as a jw and i have been unable to do this.

  all i have seen is negative.

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  scarredforlife

  scarred for life is my original screen name.

  I am on a different computer. I had to create a new account because I didn't know my password. I have been on this board since July 2008. Screen name is very similar.
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  Whats the most bizzare way a JW has ever tried to "encourage" you?

  by highdose in

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  in my case it was my best freind in the cong who decided to encourage me to answer up at the wt by... refusing to talk to me afterwards if i hadn't answered up!

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  scarredforlife

  I don't recall anyone connected withthe JWs encouraging me in any way whatsoever. It was all negativity and guilt. A horrible way to be raised.
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  I realized a positive outcome from my JW upbrining!

  by scarredforlife in

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  i have been on this board for over 2 years.

  one thing that i have read over and over is to find something positive in my upbrining as a jw and i have been unable to do this.

  all i have seen is negative.

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  scarredforlife

  Yes, Nathan, I left the Jehovah's Witnesses when I was 15. I have been dealing with my anger and resentment of all the damage that the JW cult did to me and my family the last couple of years. I found JWN in July 2008 shortly after my mother died. I had hoped to have many questions answered by her at some point but that never happened. She would never talk about the JWs or why my sister and I were raised in this cult.

  I don't really know why you thought I stayed a JW past the age of 15. I gave no indication that I had and I have written about it several times over the last couple of years.
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  I realized a positive outcome from my JW upbrining!

  by scarredforlife in

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  i have been on this board for over 2 years.

  one thing that i have read over and over is to find something positive in my upbrining as a jw and i have been unable to do this.

  all i have seen is negative.

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  scarredforlife

  Hi Flipper,

  I appreciate what you are saying but I see a "worship" of the Governing Body among ALL people that are baptized and profess to be Jehovah's Witnesses. Just the fact that every word that comes out of their mouths or is written in a Watchtower or WTBTS publication is considered to be the "word of God" is evidence that these 12(?) men are above the average man or woman. Like we have talked about before, JWs worship the Governing Body in Brooklyn.

  But as we all know now, they are just men, just people like me and you.

  This type of worship of men and individuals can be seen all over the place in churches. But I thought it was particularly bad in the JW cult.