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  At my breaking point

  by so confused in

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  so it does not seem like im dealing very well.

  its been 6 month since we have stopped going to the meeting.

  embarssing in front of co-worker and my new supervisor.

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  ((((so confused)))))

  It sounds like you're going through a really tough time right now. The postpartum period is a very difficult time, especially if you have little support and have to go back to work. On top of that, you're also adjusting to a change in your belief system, and are feeling pressure from your family to go back to their religion.

  That is wonderful you have an appointment with a therapist coming up in a few weeks. If you feel like you need to talk to someone before then, please seek help or talk to your doctor.

  Last year I left the religion and was pregnant shortly after. It was a difficult adjustment and put a huge strain on our marriage. I have found therapy has been really helpful, and also talked to my doctor about postpartum depression and have help for that.

  I suffed from anxiety postpartum, and was afraid of any knock on the door in case it was a witness. Please don't feel like you're overreacting, you may just be suffering from anxiety. Perhaps you could kindly tell your relatives that you are suffering from PPD and don't want to discuss religion right now.

  I sent you a PM. Take care!
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  What the hell was I thinking?! Stupid me!!

  by freshstart in

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  so my husband and i have a son who will be 2 years old next month and i really wanted him to be socialized more.

  ever since we stopped going to meetings, we have been pretty much shunned even though there has never been an "official" reason for it (df, da..).

  i am terribly introverted, so it's difficult for me to get out there and talk to people but our son is a people-person and i wanted him to have more peers to be around.

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  Hopefully your nausea will pass soon. I was also sick for my first trimester with my second child and it was no fun!

  If your husband doesn't work weekends, maybe he could take your child to gymnastics, swimming, or another drop in group so you can have a rest? We like to go to Chapters bookstore on Saturdays. They have stories and toys for the children to play with, and I get Starbucks.
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  What the hell was I thinking?! Stupid me!!

  by freshstart in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so my husband and i have a son who will be 2 years old next month and i really wanted him to be socialized more.

  ever since we stopped going to meetings, we have been pretty much shunned even though there has never been an "official" reason for it (df, da..).

  i am terribly introverted, so it's difficult for me to get out there and talk to people but our son is a people-person and i wanted him to have more peers to be around.

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  Please don't be hard on yourself, you are just being a good Mom! Sometimes I miss that sense of instant community for my kids. I'm also very introverted and find it difficult to go do social things. My almost 4 year old is super social and will be starting preschool this fall to be around other children.

  Our local library has lots of drop in story times for babies-preschoolers that are free. And the YMCA also has some free parent programs where you will meet really nice people.

  We also just head to the playground and my little guy plays with the other children there.

  I wouldn't worry too much about socialization, my little guy is still super social and we didn't attend very many activities or have playdates. He talks to me a lot during the day, and I try and keep him busy.

  The United Universalist church is for anyone, agnostic, athiest, Buddhist, etc. The children's group there might be fun.

  When are you due? I hope your pregnancy has been going well.
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  Hutterites Shunned for education and high school sports

  by puffthedragon in

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  i have never heard of this group but i turned on the tv and right now (eastern time) there is a show on national geographic called american colony/hutterites and they are shunning members for allowing their children to have more education than they deem neccessary as well as playing school sports.

  the group also appears to think they are the only ones going to heaven.. anyone know more about this or have experience with them?

  struck a chord with me..

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  I recently watched that show and found the similarities striking. The Amish: Out of Order on the same channel is also amazingly similar to JWs. The Amish aren't shunned if they weren't baptized, but they are shunned if they were baptized.

  It would be interesting if they did a show featuring ExJWs. Seeing differ religions shunning their members and not allowing simple freedoms like playing sports makes me feel less alone.
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  Do you have a bucket list?

  by usualusername in

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  i am nearly 40 years old and have started a bucket list of things i would like to do before i die.. .

  one of them being spending 6months away from my mobile and laptop in a tiny village away from the uk.. .

  do you have a bucket list?.

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  Travel around Europe, especially Paris and explore the Louvre.

  Tour Machu Picchu

  Write a book

  Complete a degree

  Drive a lamborghini
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  Caleb's Mom has some serious issues

  by bats in the belfry in

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  calab's mom is exhibiting some really psychopathic streaks in talking to him.. her facial expression is on the weird side of things.

  if that is the kind of talking to i would have gotten over the years, eventually i would have saddled up, lock and loaded - at best moved out of home at an early age.. .

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  Does Caleb's Mom make Jehovah sad with her evil facial expressions? Her voice sounds a bit scary too!
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  Dating Coach for Ex-Dubs? Do we need one? There is one for ex-Orthodox Jewish women.

  by Diest in

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  after i read this article on slate.com about a dating coach for ex-hasidic women, i thought this would be a great job for ex-dubs.

  i see a lot of the same dating issues in the posts i read and even in my own life.. i don't know who would take up the job but it seems like it could be interesting.

  help born-ins understand the intracacies of dating and relationships in the real world.

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  Talking is very different from interacting on a social level. Not to mention all I did when I went out in service was try to avoid talking.

  I was also a quiet JW who avoided talking too.

  This weekend I went to a bar with some friends and totally froze when a guy started talking to me. It was like I went back to the JW mentality of avoiding talking with worldly men in case they're trying to get in my pants or something. Totally clueless and socially awkward.

  How does one improve their social skills? I feel like I missed out on 15 years of crucial social development!
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  I didn't get to play School Sports :-( ...did you?

  by tresdecu in

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  just started watching 'friday night lights' .... great show, but it's making me a little bitter!

  17 years after high school, i am still bummed i didn't get to play football or baseball.

  i knew my elder dad would get busted from the others in the elders club.

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  No. I wanted to be in ballet, but had to quit because the classes were always on meeting nights. :(
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  A truly mind boggling experience

  by Iamallcool in

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  i dated someone earlier tonight and she looks pretty good, she invited me over to her home.

  she has a very good salary(she has phd degree) but i do not understand why she chose to live in a white trash mobile home park.

  i asked her how long she is going to live there, she said she just signed 2 year lease last month.

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  Nice_Dream

  Maybe she is saving up to buy a nice house. My husband and I rented a crappy apartment for a year so we could save up a down payment and not be in debt. I really wouldn't worry about where she lives, at least she owns a place!
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  Dating Coach for Ex-Dubs? Do we need one? There is one for ex-Orthodox Jewish women.

  by Diest in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  after i read this article on slate.com about a dating coach for ex-hasidic women, i thought this would be a great job for ex-dubs.

  i see a lot of the same dating issues in the posts i read and even in my own life.. i don't know who would take up the job but it seems like it could be interesting.

  help born-ins understand the intracacies of dating and relationships in the real world.

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  This was so neat to read! I need one, even thought I'm married, so I can learn how to small talk.

  Wha happened - that is so cool you'd go introduce yourself to girls. None of the guys around here would do that, the girls had to pursue them. We're socially stunted.