There are a fair number of 'casual' JW's. They miss meetings on occasion....... fib about the time they have spent going door to door. Giving gifts to the children like after Christmas is over..... same for birthdays.
There is a term for this type of witness they are called 'bystander witnesses'. They see what's going on but they don't want to really get involved.
Then we have PIMO's Physically participating In the religion by going to meetings but mentally out.
Is your friend an Elder in the congregation? Or a ministerial servant? Does the wife pioneer? Seventy -five hours a month in service.
Dano maybe this family are casual JWs. Who bend the rules because they can.
But even if so.........something is off.
I think most of us are concerned with exposing your kids to their religion. Planting seeds in young minds.
We have all met the different personalities of people who are sure they and only they have the truth. They can be liars, dominant, narcissistic, pedophiles...... abusive parents, prone to shunning children who want a different life.
How does your wife feel about this? Sometimes one's mate or the other may not really like or trust a so called 'close' friend.
The exposure to meetings or a bible study for your children exposes the children to a distortion in how they are viewing the world.
I think you need to reel this relation in by setting up boundaries.