The law here says when a woman seeks a legal separation from her husband she is entitled to half the family's net worth and I would not stand in the way of her getting it. Her lifestyle wouldn't skip a beat, so that's not a factor. I don't think it would come to that anyway. She would simply leave and find someone to stay with, as she has stated to me not so long ago, but only if I asked her to and then only under great emotional duress. Whether or not she would do so if advised by her cong (or, as you point out OUTLAW, by her uber-JW-elder brother and SIL, or her MS nephew, or her bethelite nephew) is something I can't read clearly, but I doubt it. More likely unless I asked her to leave she would stay, carry on with her activities, with which I have already told her I will not interfere as much as I may disagree with them, and continue the painful stalemate. If I ratcheted up the pressure (as I am contemplating doing) and the elders reacted accordingly she'd be miserable, but would chalk it up to the price one sometimes has to pay for being in The Truth and she would continue to hope that she may somehow one day save me.
My wife is a wonderful person, far better than I am in many respects. She's completely devoted to the Watchtower but keeps a low profile around me. Her literature never leaves her sewing room except when it's hidden inside her bookbag, she never preaches or finds fault and she bends over backwards to please me, so long as absolutely nothing she does or fails to do can be construed to contravene the expectations, doctrines and teachings of the Watchtower. That, of course, is where the problem lies and where my cooperation and tolerance are wearing dangerously thin. We adore one another but we're not happy and I still haven't figured out how to break this thing open. It's heartbreaking to see her unhappy and to make her even more unhappy has no appeal. My original question is more out of concern how it might affect her than me.