Hi Katherine,
Nice to meet you. you said:
I know that only 2 birthdays are mentioned in the Bible, and they were both for people who were not good people. How does this mean that birthdays aren't to be celebrated at all?
Actually, that's not correct.
There are 3 birthdays mentioned in the scriptures. The third one is in
Genesis 21:8
If you can't celebrate a "birthday" why celebrate this?
Also, what is a new Witness to do if his/her family doesn't support the same beliefs, and still wants to participate in Christmas festivities?
Usually, they will tell you to make sure you personally don't celebrate any of it. You can gather with your family, just don't engage in the celebration.
Does it really matter if Christ was crucified on a cross or a stake?
No, it doesn't matter at all. Whether it was a cross or stake, you don't want to go "carrying it around." Christ considered the "instrument" he died on a "curse" to him. Not something you want to remember.
I was a JW. It's terrible how at first everything seems nice and true and they have scriptures to back everything up. The BAD part is that once you get baptized, if you ever disagree with what is printed, you are an automatic "apostate" and are "expelled" immediately.
My 'issue' was that I had proof, and they cannot refute it to this day. They rather stick to the Watchtower, even if its wrong and HOPE doctrine "changes" rather than simply obey because it is in the scriptures."
peace to you,
Aaron