Here is the Plan
Get reinstated
Move to another congregation at another Kingdom Hall far away as possible.
Stop going to the meetings after few meetings at your new hall and they have your publisher cards, give them your PO Box address or fake address/phone numbers that does not exist, not your actual address. If you do not want them to bother you, get a new home to live in.
Your family does not need to know that you stopped going to the meetings.
Hopefully somehow you can manage to keep in touch with your JW family.
I do not know if this solution will work for you or not. Good Luck!