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  As of today, I will no longer be one of Jehovah's Witnesses.

  by Knowsnothing in

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  i spoke with my mother, told her everything, my doubts, my fears, my sins.

  it came rushing out.

  my mother is devastated.

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  Retrovirus

  Hi Knowsnothing,

  As a non-jw I cannot give detailed advice, but I've been in a couple of very stressful family situations. If your objective is to get through to your mother, it might help to slow things down a little. That would give you more time with her real personality, and hopefully reduce the chance of ultimatums resulting from the great stress you both feel.

  Perhaps say that you want time to consider what the elders have said, and also time to talk it through with her. Be affectionate and reasonable. In discussions, take one topic at a time, and research it carefully first. I found jwfacts a great resource.

  Best wishes to you in this difficult time. I respect your integrity and hope the situation turns out well.

  Retro
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  Strategizing against the WTBTS

  by Essan in

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  could we be doing more brothers and sisters?

  i'm sure i'm not alone in wishing that there was more we could do to hasten the demise of the wtbts and to speed up the exodus of it's members.

  and i'm sure i'm not alone in thinking of possible ways to do this.. one which i have been considering lately is to make use of the fact that many who leave the organization actually leave the area, move away, and start a new life.

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  Retrovirus

  Essan, my experience was that "studying" with jws didn't help much. I kept asking questions, and they were honest enough to keep coming back and trying to research answers. But when they had to fall back on "don't know", it was always accompanied with something like "but I'll never let doubts about little things () keep me from Jehovah."

  I guess if they are not ready to reconsider, no information will get through.

  Is anyone doing something of helping the kids that are kicked out of homes for not wanting to be baptised and/or remain active? Like, helping them to find accomodation, work, higher education? Or even just mentoring and socialising?
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  Undercover Brother Campaign- have you received your invite?

  by stuckinamovement in

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  without specifics being mentioned as to what it is......(to avoid tipping off certain lurkers).. how many people know about the upcoming summer long campaign?

  please use this thread to confirm receipt of your campaign invitation.

  take care.

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  Retrovirus

  Can Aussies join in? Could I have a pm pls?
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  Considering Shunning my JW Friend

  by InterestedOne in

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  i had a discussion with my jw friend during which i asked her why a rational person should believe the world is run by demons.

  in response, she questioned the existence of objective rationality.

  she said that we should "agree to disagree.

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  Retrovirus

  I asked my conductor about the WT definition of the word "lie" and how it differs from the dictionary, and he said "that's a problem for Webster and not my problem."

  The jw arrogance can be breathtaking! Might as well say "I have spoken"

  InterestedOne, I'm very sure you don't want to hurt your friend, you have gone a long way to try to understand her and communicate with her. It's sad that she cannot begin to reciprocate, but maybe that's how it is.
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  Tonight I disassociated myself - after 24 years - had 2 hour meeting with Elder

  by Intel in

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  2. beliefs

  i am now sitting at home.

  my wife left with my little child.

  my fault (i dislike the word "fault", but don't have a better one right now).. it feels strange, relieved and free, at the same time it was all very strange.

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  Retrovirus

  As a non-jw, I cannot imagine the courage that you showed. All I can add from my own experience is the times I stayed in a situation to avoid confrontation - they are the times I now regret.

  Best wishes, and you deserve another
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  Considering Shunning my JW Friend

  by InterestedOne in

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  i had a discussion with my jw friend during which i asked her why a rational person should believe the world is run by demons.

  in response, she questioned the existence of objective rationality.

  she said that we should "agree to disagree.

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  Retrovirus

  InterestedOne, I can relate because I saw my ex-SIL go this way. When we met, before she became my SIL, she seemed a stong, independent lady with a nice sense of humour. We became friends as well as relatives. Before her marriage she was "studying the Bible" ( ) with the jw and soon after she was baptised.

  It made for an impossible marriage. My brother could and did compromise, but a jw cannot. Also my friendship with her eroded as she only seemed interested in converting me. Finally she set the local jws onto me. With the current Apostate Angst, she has stopped communicating entirely.

  This "friend" of yours does as she thinks she must. She cannot leave the religion out of it because she must "give a fine witness" but she must also panic at every logical response, as it threatens her cult personality.

  It seems that you will have to part ways, but if you can, do it gently. She is trapped and cannot be reasonable, but she can still feel hurt.
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  Has there been any recent counsel or articles advising JW's to avoid associating with 'inactives'?

  by nicolaou in

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  2. bible

  i ask because over the last few weeks i've noticed a marked 'cooling off' from my brother and sisters.

  i don't think i'm being paranoid - has anything specific been printed lately?

  bloody faith!.

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  Retrovirus

  Welcome, ChainedNo Longer!

  You seem to have a lot of your close family "in", which makes this latest witchhunt very hard for you.

  I'm a non-jw, and my jw SIL has now also declined to keep in touch since I failed to progress in my "Bible" studies. The jw ladies who were uber-friendly at the start of the visits have also disappeared. Ah well.

  Hang in there, and I do hope that as others have suggested, once the present stridency wears off, believing jws will revert to more moderate behaviour.

  I understand from another thread that you have at least one child, kudos to you for raising her/him out of the watchtower! That's a great thing to do for your child.

  All the best, Retro
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  Being honest with yourself, could you have reasonably adjusted your attitude and continued on as a JW?

  by miseryloveselders in

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  i ask this question in harmony with deedub's swan song thread which i linked below.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/205902/1/time-to-say-good-bye.

  to some degree, i think i understand where she's coming from.

  just speaking from my own experiences since stepping into the world of anonymous apostacy, i went through a few different phases of personal outlooks.

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  Retrovirus

  Hi DeeDubs !

  How did your return work out? Have you been lurking for a while (ie, did you know Miz is nor No Room for George?)

  Welcome back, Retro
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  Does anyone know if they are still teaching the GT to newbies?

  by aristeas in

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  it has been quite an eye-opening last two weeks or so since i discovered & joined this site.

  i'm learning a lot and there's no doubt much still to learn.

  i must continue to thank so many posters for contributing information not available elsewhere on a wide variety of topics.

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  Retrovirus

  Thanks, Aristeas! My study was discontinued due to my lack of progress. I've been learning here how lucky I was!
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  A few notes on September 15, 2011 Watchtower, fresh off the presses!

  by sd-7 in

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  september 15th, 2011 watchtower, page 28, paragraph 13:.

  "if a human overseer in god's organization provides you with instructions that seem extremely detailed, you might at times feel frustrated.

  jehovah, however, is a perfect overseer who delegates generously and trusts his servants.

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  Retrovirus

  From the "Marry only in the Lord" section. . they actually had the nerve to ask

  What did David do when he felt lonesome

  well, we know what David did - with Bathsheba. Great example!