Posts by headisspinning

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What Was Meant By 'Abstain From Blood'?

by headisspinning in

i have always been very hardcore about my aversion to blood and have never even considered the possibility that this was merely a dietary restriction.

i always bought into the analogy of a doctor telling a patient to abstain from alcohol... it wouldn't matter whether this individual drank the alcohol or took it intravenously... it would all be in direct contradiction to the doctor's orders to 'abstain' from alcohol.. or the other analogy is to an apple pie... if you weren't to eat the pie, it would not be okay to separate it out into the main parts (or 'components)... ie.

the flour, the apples, the sugar or the cinnamon... if they were taken from that pie, you were eating the pie.. so maybe you can see where the questions popped up for me.

headisspinning

Thank you to Sabastious and Cofty.... my jaw has dropped. I suffered terrible OCD during my teen years and a lot of my issues were over blood. I am really in shock over how you have presented things. I always thought I was a little bit intelligent and now I see that I have been terribly, terribly manipulated, mislead and duped.

To Heaven... Not only was I breastfed and I know what you're getting at... I am also breastfeeding my son.

I just feel really stupid right now. I have been reading memoirs about other peoples' escapes from their 'crazy' religions... what about me?

Some of you know a little bit of my story. Or you can look back on my past threads. I am thinking about writing a book like Brianna and Kyria. My mother and another sister in the hall beat me so bad that had to soak me in ice. My mother tried to break my toes and threw my sister down the stairs the day before her baptism... I was accused of it being too much 'drama'. But every word is the truth and there is a lot more. I am just scared of the backlash.

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What Was Meant By 'Abstain From Blood'?

by headisspinning in

i have always been very hardcore about my aversion to blood and have never even considered the possibility that this was merely a dietary restriction.

i always bought into the analogy of a doctor telling a patient to abstain from alcohol... it wouldn't matter whether this individual drank the alcohol or took it intravenously... it would all be in direct contradiction to the doctor's orders to 'abstain' from alcohol.. or the other analogy is to an apple pie... if you weren't to eat the pie, it would not be okay to separate it out into the main parts (or 'components)... ie.

the flour, the apples, the sugar or the cinnamon... if they were taken from that pie, you were eating the pie.. so maybe you can see where the questions popped up for me.

headisspinning

I have always been very hardcore about my aversion to blood and have never even considered the possibility that this was merely a dietary restriction. I always bought into the analogy of a doctor telling a patient to abstain from alcohol... it wouldn't matter whether this individual drank the alcohol or took it intravenously... it would all be in direct contradiction to the doctor's orders to 'abstain' from alcohol.

Or the other analogy is to an apple pie... if you weren't to eat the pie, it would not be okay to separate it out into the main parts (or 'components)... ie. the flour, the apples, the sugar or the cinnamon... if they were taken from that pie, you were eating the pie.

So maybe you can see where the questions popped up for me. The whole blood fractions issue has me very confused. I read a comment about Jesus curing someone on the Sabbath and how he was more concerned for than person's well-being than observing the Sabbath. (Of course, he abolished the old law, so it could be said that was why he was comfortable doing that).

Thoughts?

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New ex-JW memoir coming out...

by brizzzy in

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i don't post a ton here because i'm kinda shy.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0373892357?tag=thegirsguitoh-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkcode=as1&creativeasin=0373892357&adid=038ez4bjpam7bcsze5mq&.

that's the amazon link (which is currently the most affordable, i believe, but it's also available for preorder at b&n, borders, indiebound, and indigo-chapters if you're in canada, if you prefer one of those retailers).. .

headisspinning

I'm going to order it too. I also enjoyed 'The Truth Book' by Joy Castro.

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

headisspinning

Thanks Paula!

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by Band on the Run in

most christian denominations have trouble with continued sinning when adultery occurs.

jesus' words in matthew were clear.

you seem more upset by the witnesses not embracing you than your conduct.

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To PalmTree

Yeah, it is a real eye opener. Especially for my husband because he was an elder and he really had no idea what it was like to be on the other side of the fence.

I don't think a lot of elders even appreciate the impact they have on peoples' lives. Maybe some of them don't really care either.

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by Band on the Run in

most christian denominations have trouble with continued sinning when adultery occurs.

jesus' words in matthew were clear.

you seem more upset by the witnesses not embracing you than your conduct.

headisspinning

Well, first of all, although I have not written about the horrible guilt we feel, that doesn't mean that it's not there. And trust me, we will pay the price for what we did for the rest of our lives, just like King David. The point of my story is that we are sorry and we are repentant. As I've said before, we deserved to be removed from the congregation but even our ex-spouses and our children have expressed their desire that we be restored.

I do believe that Jehovah has forgiven us. We pray every day telling him how sorry we are and I know that he understands better than any human could. At the same time, we would like to be reinstated, even if it's just for the sake of our children.

Also, I want to say that my ex husband and I were separated for two years before I moved onto a new relationship. I know that is still considered adultery on my part, but I just want to be clear about that. And yes, my present husband did leave his wife which definitely hurt her and he feels terrible about it.

As I've said before, I didn't know the nature of this website when I first came across it. I took it for a mixed bag of people and I was actually trying to find someone with insight or experience in dealing with a situation like ours. And no, I'm afraid of being 'infected'.

The one thing I can assure you of is that reuniting with my former boyfriend was the right thing for me personally, if you can separate that from all the chaos it's caused, which is probably hard to do. But if I know anything, I know that we are made for each other and he feels the same way.

And thank you for the suggestion of therapy but I'm already in my fourth year. My therapist is wonderful and he has been incredibly supportive and non-judgmental through this entire 'drama' as you put it. The thing is, my life has been a drama since I was born so this is really nothing new to me. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger are words that I firmly believe.

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High Profile Case: Seeking Reinstatement

by headisspinning in

but our situation is very difficult and quite high profile.... i was raised as a jw and my mother was very strict and abusive.

i got baptized at age 14.. my mother actually called on my (present) husband's mom in service.

she was on the initial call resulting in his mom coming in the truth and him being raised in it from about age 8 or 9.. despite a very abusive step-father, he followed his mom's lead and came into the truth.

headisspinning

Hey Salty...

I just had a look at that site you mentioned. I will have to spend more time on it when the baby's asleep. Thanks!

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

headisspinning

Thanks! Order placed!

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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friends

i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

headisspinning

I would really like the book because I find reading online to be tedious but maybe that's a good idea... there's no telling when it will be available. Thanks.

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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friends

i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

headisspinning

To InterestedOne.... thanks. I tried the link and the soft and hardcovers are all sold out. I will save this link and try again in a few days. It must be in very high demand!!