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Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

I'm only into the second chapter because I am reading it very slowly and carefully so I don't miss any key points.
Ray seems like he was a very sincere, honest and insightful person.
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Do people generally like you?
by Terry in
1. jw
2. friends
in person, people tend to love me.

i'm told how likeable i am.. on discussion boards i have unlikeable qualities which infuriate others.. .

are you likeable in person and likeable on boards?
headisspinning

I`ve been described as empathetic, caring and helpful by a few people and so I do find people are drawn to me. But that`s not always a good thing. I find a lot of people who don`t want to put the effort in to helpful themselves are quick to run to me because it`s just easier to get me to do things for them. I have a lot of difficulty saying no and setting boundaries and I find I really have to be alert to the types of people I get involved with... otherwise I over extend myself and end up suffering.
As for on the board, I`ve sensed that some people get a little frustrated with me when they tell me what to do and I don`t act right away. And based on feedback, the odd person has suggested that what I have shared is just a sob story or that I feel sorry for myself or that I don`t care if I`ve hurt others. But all in all, most people seem to understand that we all have different experiences and circumstances and they seem okay with having me participate.
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When do you begin counting time?
by pubtruth in
1. jw
2. friends
for those who were in or still are.. when do/did you begin counting time?

as you left for the house group, or after the meeting was over?

did you count the car trip to and from?
headisspinning

Well, I am disfellowshipped but I really tried to be honest when I was a publisher...
I would start counting time when we made the first call. I would take an honest estimation of time off while we were on coffee break. Then I would start up my time again when we left Tim Horton's (or for non-Canadians, the coffee shop).
I was pretty hardcore about it. For me, honesty is part of my nature and even if I only got 5 hours, I knew they were true and honest hours.
But... when I was a teenager I was dating a pioneer brother... this is really bad but what we would do is make a local RV to start our time. Then we would get a single buddy to drive us to a remote RV (about 30 to 40 mins away) and we would make out in the back seat the entire time.
I remember crawling out of the back seat to go on the RV... but geez... I had major whisker burn.. and this is just shameful to relate!
Then we would drive back home and count the time... making out all the way home!
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Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

I bought my copy off the Free Minds site for $25.95: http://www.freeminds-store.com/books/crisis-of-conscience.html
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Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

Okay well I will let you know.
Here's the interesting thing - I only knew the title of the book when I ordered it. I had never seen the cover. But when I opened the package I realized I've seen this book somewhere before and I just didn't realize what it was. Now I'm trying to remember who had a copy... weird.
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Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

Point of no return... really? How so? Because this will clinch it for me?
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Were you SPANKED?
by unshackled in
1. jw
2. friends
don't get all excited...i don't mean lastnight.

spankings were a regular occurence in my family, and don't think that was uncommon for born-in jws.

my parents loved the line "we spank you because we love you.
headisspinning

Hey Unshackled,
I just asked a similar question the other day (See: 'Then & Now').
I too remember the agony of waiting for an after-the-meeting spanking. Such torture!
Although, I also remember getting a beating with my mother's sandal in the ladies' room at the Assembly Hall... :(
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Then & Now
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. child-abuse
i was born in the 70's and my jw mother spanked us a lot... actually, beat us is more accurate.

i know of other people from the same generation (lol!

) and it seemed to be somewhat common during that time period within the organization.. i also remember wearing a lot of second hand clothing and having pretty dismal school lunches and we were simply not allowed to ask for anything - needs or wants.
headisspinning

Well, I guess my mother would take me out of the main hall if I started fussing and maybe he thought that was rewarding me for acting up.... but come on! 6 month's old? Weirdo is right. LOL!
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Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

Yes, he will read it too. No worries!
25
Crisis of Conscience Just Arrived...
by headisspinning in
1. watchtower
2. bible
i am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!.
headisspinning

I am about to take the plunge.... will keep you posted!