I'd like to learn more about the JW "dress code" myself. I don't get it. My mom quoted me some scripture about it being a sin for a man/woman to dress as the opposite sex. I took that verse to mean deliberately dressing to be "deceptive." I don't know any women that could seriously pass for a man, just because they are wearing pants. Furthermore, most every JW woman I've met, wastes no time in getting out of their JW garb asap, after meetings/service. Is it for the public image only? If not, why don't they wear dresses/skirts 24/7? Keeping up appearances? Is it to appear "professional?" Most career women I know rarely wear dresses and they look both modest and professional. What's the deal?
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Trousers
by chezza insince we have people from all over the world in here what was the opinion on sisters wearing trousers to the meetings and in field service, in the cong i used to go to it was frowned upon very heavily, although we could find no scriptual basis for it, was anyone allowed to wear them?
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Does anyone really care
by kenpodragon indoes anyone really care what active witnesses think of them?
i ask, because on many of the ex-witness boards i see a lot of mention of what people think others say behind their back.
personally, i hope the witnesses think i am the devil himself and fear me upon sight of me.
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Introspection,
Glad to have your input! My mom has mentioned how, "It isn't right to teach children to be violent" I tried to tell her, it can be effective in AVOIDING violence... My kids have several student pledges they must memorize:
1. I will develop myself in a positive manner and avoid anything that can reduce my mental growth or physical health.
2. I will use self discipline in order to bring out the best in myself and others.
3. I will use common sense before self defense and never be abusive or offensive.You are so right, in that most people just don't understand what martial arts is really all about. It is as much about discipline as it is anything else. I believe IF you can possibly avoid confrontation, then by all means you should. BUT in the real world that isn't always possible, and if you HAVE to get out of a situation...it doesn't hurt to have some skills!
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Does anyone really care
by kenpodragon indoes anyone really care what active witnesses think of them?
i ask, because on many of the ex-witness boards i see a lot of mention of what people think others say behind their back.
personally, i hope the witnesses think i am the devil himself and fear me upon sight of me.
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Kenpo,
I have a question...I'm not a JW, so perhaps you could help me understand. My kids are involved with kung fu, they've been going for two years and have actually done very well. Their grandma (my mom) refuses to go watch them at their promotions. She did go one time, to watch (before she was baptized). Since that time, the kids have invited her and she always says she's busy (with the JW schedule that's not to hard to do) However, I can sense her disdain for the whole activity, though she hasn't actually said so. I thought, maybe she thought they were meditating? I explained that so far they have learned only self defense and the forms. What is JW "problem" with martial arts?
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My Big Bend Pics
by Valis ini finally got my big bend pics up.
when you have a free moment check them out.. http://www.sassquatch.com/bb.
sincerely, .
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...excellent adventure!
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Speaking in Tongues
by AvailableLight inso what's the deal with this?
are those that have this ability just nuts?
possessed?
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Speaking in Tongues
by AvailableLight inso what's the deal with this?
are those that have this ability just nuts?
possessed?
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It isn't for me. Ok, I was raised Lutheran and I am certain that contributes to my total lack of a "comfort zone" with the charismatics. LOL. However, I've visited many different churches and I can't stand: anyone screaming AMEN from behind me (I jump every time), arm wavers, swayers, dancers...and tongues. Let me explain why the wavers and tongues gets me. I went with a friend to her church, the waving and tongues were like a competition to see WHO was the "most spiritually gifted" and I just wasn't comfortable. She asked, "Why don't you raise your arms when you sing?" I didn't know it was a requirement...lol. I want a program when I walk in the door, and I want to know whats going on, I don't want any surprises or alter calls. I don't want to see people swaying, waving, dancing, snakes or speaking in tongues...I like a "speak only when spoken to" policy! As in...the Pastor says______. And the Congregation replies______. Yeah, a liturgical service. I have no problems with people who are charismatic, It just makes me uncomfortable. I've heard just the opposite though, people who really dislike the formality of a liturgical service.
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The Misery Of Being a Dub
by SYN inhow do you cope?
i don't even vaguely remember.
i've been browsing through some more pln threads, and they all have one aspect in common - they are so empty.
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SYN,
May I add a "never been a JW" observation? I watched my mom change, much in the way you described as, "dying a massive internal IQ loss." Couldn't have come up with a better description myself. She no longer thinks things through (on her own) ANY conversation that she finds difficult, she will say, "I'll ask sister-so-in-so about THAT" However, those moments are rare because, I think ego has a lot to do with the zealous JW...she'd rather get hit in the head with a rock, than admit she doesn't know or she is wrong. THAT is the one thing the WT offers...a pre-made, formula answers.
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Your best money saving tips here, please
by LDH inlarc's thread on coupons gave me this idea.. we all know coupons can save you a few dollars or more.
but how do you save real money???.
do y'all have any tips that you wanna share?
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LDH,
Let's see:
1. Use the "pantry principle" buy in bulk, buy loss leaders, stock up on the items you use at the lowest possible price...this allows you to never run out and HAVE to buy items when they are not on sale.
2. Know, what your having for dinner the night before...avoids lots of last minute trips to the store and/or fast food dinners.
3. Never buy, what you can easily make...things like bisquick, which is overpriced flour, baking powder and shortening. Frozen biscuits, pancakes and waffles also are super cheap to make, but cost considerably more money to buy pre-made (plus they taste nasty).
4. Know what a "good deal" is...sometimes a "sale" doesn't automatically mean a good price. Shop around, call around for prices on spendy items...find out about price matching policies, this will save time and money, and keep you from driving way out of your way to get to the store that has the "sale"
5. Maintenance is cheaper than repairs...don't wait till something is broken: cars!
6. Avoid credit card purchases like the plague.
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Patriotic Baptists -- Crazy!
by Yadirf inthis is the web site of a certain bethel baptist church: http://www.bethelmac.org/.
notice the two waving american flags at the bottom of their home page.. .
certainly a nationalistic bunch, aren't they!.
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It is my understanding this is the church that has offered a memorial service for the Bryant family...right? To use Farkel's phrase, what about "common decency?" I find it sad that the kindness of strangers is being used as platform for mud slinging. As mentioned, is the flag any "worse" than the UN fiasco? I don't think so.
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Churches...would a JW go
by KistByQpid inunder what (if any) circumstances would a jw go to a church?
is it the building itself or is it church services they have an aversion to?
can they go under circumstances that are not neccessarily considered "worship"?
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Under what (if any) circumstances would a JW go to a church? Is it the building itself or is it church services they have an aversion to? Can they go under circumstances that are not neccessarily considered "worship"? I can think of weddings, funerals and in Portland, several of the larger churches are used by private colleges (Concordia, George Fox, Warner Pacific) for graduations? Or would they likely decline all invitations on the basis that because it is being held in a "church" they simply can not be part of it? Is it all painted with the big Babylon-brush and a big no-no?