recently at my last meeting, an older brother "in good standing" got disfellowshipped.. sitting only two seats away from him, i saw as he burst into tears as lifelong friends and family began their shunning and immediate gossip in the form of whispers came up from above the brothers and sisters in the kingdom hall.
i felt like giving him a hug and telling him that it was going to be okay and that whatever the reason for his disfellowshipment was, it didnt matter and that god still loved him but before i could muscle up enough courage to do so, he stood up in tears and left.. i shed a few silent tears for him.
i didn't see anyone else do the same.. it was at that moment that i realized without a doubt that living this way is just not worth it at all.. so i've thought about it long and hard and now i just want to move far away and just start new again.
One day, my heart goes out to you. I agree you should leave the organisation immediately for your own sanity. I can't give you much advice, but don't rush into anything you may regret later, like moving too far away from your family and friends. Can you stay within a couple hrs drive? This way you can still see them on occasion but it will be hard for them to keep tabs on you.
Best of luck to you and we are here to listen and support you.
i'm always hopeful but mostly doubtful that they will get out of her..
I am never giving up on my daughter. She was raised in and her husband basically was also. They are both college educated though and they have been educated about ttatt. I am confident that with much more bs from the society or just one other close friend or family member leaving and she will have to face the facts. I have seen that they are in for social reasons and fear. Sooner or later, that is going to get old.
My sister and I left and we were in our late fifties after having been raised in...Shocked everyone. There is hope for your loved ones.
i guess i'm new here.
born in and an ms. things just hasn't been making sense the more i think about it.
i'm starting to get suspicious.
Welcome and what a rollicking start to your post! Hope you find your way. (I am a 59 year old woman from the midwest who was raised in and has left the so called "truth" 2 1/2 years ago. I must say, I am happy to find out everything I have learned here. Hope you do also.)
the local newspaper did a nice write up of my book paradise earth: day zero.
you can read the full text here.
wonder if this will get posted on the congregation bulletin information board.. .
Congratulations on the publicity. Best of luck with the book.
no need for all the details, but we were with a few from the kh after the meeting for some food and the topic of how smart we are compared to other religions in the world when it comes to knowing the bible.. my radar immediately went off as that is one of my pet peeves.
(most laughed since i doubt any do the family study night, but that's beside the point).
i asked one of the brothers to multiply that by 50 weeks (answer is 225 hours).
See, Jehovah's Witnesses can't have an honest discussion about their religion. It's not allowed.
.....after 8 years of us being disfellowshipped.
the made contact through my aunt who is still 'in' - as in she has faded but is not disfellowshipped and will pop to a meeting now and again - she does this for my grans' sake.. the contact was from my aunt and uncle (he's an elder) these were the 2 witnesses used against me in my judicial case.
they contacted my aunt and said to forward the message onto us.
I also agree, and although I think you are sweet for wanting to support your aunt, this will not be pleasant and may leave you in a bad way emotionally. You may even be moved to break your resolve, these people should not be calling the shots. They want to meet with you, not give versa. I advise against this face to face meeting. They think they can talk you into it. They will use their Ministry School training and twist, twist, twist and maneuver things in their direction. If you do agree, prepare for the worst.
hello everybody, even though i don't post a lot, i visit and read the threads on this site quite frequently.. wanted to give you a little update and ask for some advice at the same time.
since my exit, about 2 years ago, everything had been almost perfect.
i was living on my own, making new friends, elders from my old hall weren't bothering me at all, i was enjoying life.
Oh my, what a tough situation. Actually, I would try to get them all out. Read Steve Hassons book and proceed with patience and kindness. Ask questions that will force them to say the ridiculous answers. Put them on the spot, but do so gently and lovingly.
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unless an extension is requested..
Wish this could be over soon. This has been an emotional roller coaster hasn't it?
got a phone call today from a couple from our ex congregation.
he was visited again by two elders(one in training) again.
third shepherding call within two months.
Theses elders are showing by their behavior what is really in their hearts...and it isn't LOVE!
we had out of state company come the past couple days.
we had a days notice they were coming.
they stayed 1.5 days and left today because they couldn't miss the wt back home.
We did try to go one time while on vacation and we drove miles to the nearest Kingdom Hall only to discover it was the Circuit Assembly that weekend and no meeting!
