Your dad sounds cool...your mom is your mom and she will love you even if she does decide she needs to shun you. Hopefully, your dad will talk to her.
Glad it's all out in the open. Keep us posted...promise?
whathappened
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I just informed the parents about me and the TTATT... heart wrenching
by sosoconfused inwell first i want to thank everyone here for the good points etc... i have received over the last few months.
you guys have really been helpful!.
so the other day my mother wrote me a 3 page letter telling me how she was so scared for me because she could tell my love for the truth was gone etc.. so i decided i wanted to totally rip the band-aid off and get this matter over and done with.
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Should I just DA or get DFD?
by Julia Orwell inmy never-a-jw dad told me today that mongrel jws who turn on me were never truly my friends and i'm better off without them, so why worry if i get disfellowshiped?.
i fear being disfellowshiped because my name will be dragged through the mud.
i also think it might be a good idea to da or get dfd because then the link is broken and the fade is over.
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whathappened
I would just tell them all to get out of your life. They do not deserve an explanation from you. They do not deserve anymore of your time and attention. There love and friendship is all conditional on you obeying the governing bodiy. Do not give them the respect of a reply and refuse to discuss anything further with them. What you do is absolutely none of their briskness.
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My Story - a (kinda) newbie from the UK
by wizzstick inafter lurking for 7 and half years (is that a record?!
) its time for me to say hello.. so who am i, and whats my story?.
im a born in jw, with all my siblings, mother, wife and children in.
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whathappened
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
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Unbelievable Experience in Yearbook
by gingerbread ina number of years back i heard a story of a young girl in a congregation ( i have some good friends in this hall ) who had an amazing field service experience.
it was so amazing that it was retold in the 2007 yearbook!.
it is retold in the highlight of the past year section.
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whathappened
I heard that story at the district assembly. It did seem rather far fetched at the time but I believed it. I wondered how come I couldn't have a wonderful experience like that. It made me feel inadequate, of course. Try harder, try harder, that is the purpose of telling that story from the platform.
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So apparently I'm now a Secular Humanist
by Oubliette ini was doing some research on the subject of beliefs and belief systems when i came across an on-line survey/test that supposedly helps you determine which religion or philosophy is most like your current beliefs.
if you're curious, you can take the quiz here: belief system selector quizafter answering the 20 questions the results were spit out!
tada!!!.
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whathappened
I am a secular humanist also. Jehovah's Witnesses 0%, that shows how far I have come.
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Can't be myself
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[endif]i had a diner with the neighbors... they don't know i'm a jw cause i don't tell people anymore about it.
somehow, the topic of cults came up and one of my neighbors said that the jw require 10% of their income to go to the church.
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whathappened
You joined this forum in 2007??? Now that is a SLOW FADE!!!
Best to you and your family. Everything will work out in the end.
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Book study 2013-2014
by pixel infrom the upcoming august km:.
beginning the week of october 28, 2013, the brochure who are doing jehovahs will today?
will be considered at the congregation bible study.
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whathappened
Both of those publications are old light, right? Why study old light?
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i would love to debate
by new hope and happiness ini would love to be able to debate some of the issues on this site.. this is the first site i have debated on.. i would like to debate with credibility.. i think i debate on only what i feel secure about, and that is a good start.
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but on this thread i would appreciate some tips on how to constrctively debate on a thread..
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whathappened
My advice is never get personal or nasty and insulting. Some posters on here have taken a lot of heat and some have been kicked out as a result of personal insults and profanity. When someone is losing a debate, they switch from stating the facts and start personally attacking their opponent. That's the sign they have lost and the debate is over.
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God will forgive me....apparently
by punkofnice ini left the jws and went to a baptist church which was far better than anything i'd known before having been born into the dangerous cult of the watchtower corporation.. having travelled a path of spirituallity i have concluded that there is no god evident to me.
evolution?
i have no idea...i just live my life knowing that when i die there is nothing after it.
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whathappened
25 years ago I was married to an Elder who was severely depressed and our marriage was awful. When we got married we thought Armageddon was coming in 1975. We would then be perfect so what difference did it make if we weren't "perfect" for each other. I prayed and cried, prayed and cried. No answer from Jehovah as to how to make my marriage bearable. It never dawned on me that the reason he didn't answer my prayers (which were in accordance with his will) was because he didn't exist.
Now I see how if he is up there and he lets these horrible tornados hit, these earthquakes come, these atrocities happen that he is a lousy heavenly father. I do not believe he is there. If man were made in God's image, and our human fathers would do anything to protect his children from danger and disaster, why wont God do it?
The vindication of God's name is a worthless concept. What father would put his children in such jeopardy for the sole purpose of teaching them a lesson and vindicating his right to be the supreme one?
I am an atheist now and know I understand how come I used to think that God worked in mysterious way. His ways are mysterious because he isn't really there. End of mystery.
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payback? bitterly upset....
by losingit ini don't even know where to start.. more than anything, i'd like to say that i am not a woman of vengeance.
i am very much a forgiving person.
if you say "i'm sorry," and you're genuine, i can move on from it quickly and easily.
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whathappened
We have all been there, dear sister. We are all working through it. Everyone here is at different stages of recovery. Some are like you, hot mad and others don't give a you know what anymore and have totally moved on. If you do something too far, you will just reinforce their beliefs that those who leave the organisation are mentally diseased.
I encourage you not to do anything you may regret in the future. No revenge right now. Your best revenge is moving on and finding a happy life for yourself. Also, your children must be protected from this dangerous cult. If they get baptised they will have to shun you and the cycle will not be broken. As a mother you must protect your children from the Watchtower Societies lies. If they become victims of child molesters inside the organisation you may never be able to forgive yourself. Protect your children like a momma bear.
We love you, we care and we are happy to have you here.