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  Music recommendation

  by Introspection in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i've really enjoyed and continue to enjoy "reflections of hope", the composer is a clinical psychologist.

  there are sound clips at the following site:.

  http://www.gettingunstuck.com/music/healing_art.htm

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  Kristen

  Took awhile to download, but it's interesting. Do you have the whole CD?

  Thanks for the link!
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  Reading Recommendations

  by Kristen in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i'm a bookworm and would love to hear some of your recommendations.. besides the traditional coc, in search of christian freedom, etc.

  books that help facilitate one's journey out, please feel free to share the titles you found helpful to your own growth after leaving the organization.. thanks a bunch!

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  Kristen

  Thanks larc,
  I've been to Java's site and enjoyed it very much. He's got an interesting perspective on things and I liked reading about his own experiences. Noticed the book titles too.

  I noticed another book thread has been started in main, so I'll keep an eye on it for other recommendations.

  Thanks again,
  Kristen
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  uh oh

  by Esmeralda in

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  2. friends

  ...my husband just got laid off, again.

  the big job the company had been promised fell through.. this is the second time in three months, but this time they said that the company will most likely.

  fold within weeks.

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  Kristen

  Es,
  I have no doubt that you both WILL make it through this tough time. Nevertheless, it is a difficult thing to go through. My husband and I both were affected by large corporate downsizing after many years of service. It isn't fun, and I remember clearly the daily stress that went along with the after effects of him being put out in the cold and the "will I have a job next week" mentality that I endured. I ended up leaving the same company on my own initiative after riding the "right-sizing" roller coaster for two years.

  Both of us found new opportunities in a reasonable amount of time. As soon as the one door was closed, many more seemed to open up.

  (((((HUGS)))))))

  Kristen
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  Yoga-gate 2001

  by Esmeralda in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  good greif.

  my jw relatives really, really need to get a hobby of some kind to keep them.

  busy.. my sister claire stopped by today (with a hilarious story of a comedy of errors and how all.

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  Kristen

  Hmmm, and here I thought yoga was that little green wrinkly character from the Empire Strikes Back.

  Es, since I've been reading your posts about yoga I'm becoming more intrigued. If you tell me that I don't need to cross my legs above my head to do it right, I think I'd like to learn more about it. I'm glad to hear how much it's helping you. Boy, all the great things we get to look into when we are no longer under the influence of you-know-what.

  Kristen
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  Reading Recommendations

  by Kristen in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i'm a bookworm and would love to hear some of your recommendations.. besides the traditional coc, in search of christian freedom, etc.

  books that help facilitate one's journey out, please feel free to share the titles you found helpful to your own growth after leaving the organization.. thanks a bunch!

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  Kristen

  I'm a bookworm and would love to hear some of your recommendations.

  Besides the traditional COC, In Search of Christian Freedom, etc. books that help facilitate one's journey out, please feel free to share the titles you found helpful to your own growth after leaving the organization.

  Thanks a bunch!
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  Does God Help?

  by d0rkyd00d in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't know how far back i was thinking about this, but it came to mind once again as i spoke to my father, who was addicted to marijuana for 27 years.

  it took everything away from him, including his family (myself, my sister, and my mother).

  he says a higher power must have helped him through these times and caused him to stop (4 years clean this december; wahoo!

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  I find it interesting how many active JW's will attribute the good things that happen to them as "blessings from Jehovah," or "Jehovah's will," and the difficulties and challenges are satan's fault. I often have to listen to my family relate things such as by putting God first, he's helped them sell their home, find service cars, and similiar things that just happen in everyday life when you put forth the effort anyway.

  I personally have come to believe it's mind over matter, and used to reinforce one's own belief system. When I was an active JW I was caught up in that thinking too. At least now I can see things more objectively.

  A recent sad experience I read on WOL reflects this sort of thinking. Some felt that God intervened in a situation because of the steadfast prayer of many. I don't mean to make light of the heartwrenching experience this brother went through, but they never seem to think things worked out a certain way for reasons unrelated to their faith.

  And then again, it brings up the old question, why would God help some and not others?

  The experience I'm referring to can be found here for those who are interested:

  http://www.witnessesonline.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/witnessesonline/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=9&t=000042
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  Self Hypnosis

  by TR in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just wondering if any here have tried this, and what were your results.

  or, does it offend your religious and/or spiritual senses?.

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  Kristen

  Hmmm, I'm going to keep an eye on this thread... I've seen people hypnotized in front of groups before. And I'd LOVE to suggest some things to myself

  But actually I poked my head into this thread to comment on digderidoo's endquote:

  Try to add life to your days, not days to your life.

  I simply love it! So true, so true. What's the point in quantity if there is no quality. I noticed it yesterday and wanted to tell you how much I liked that one.

  <jotting that one down>
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  Tonight's memorial - did you go?

  by dmouse in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my wife has just left for the memorial.. just before she went she asked me to come...this was the second year in a row that i declined.

  i hated seeing her so sad, i almost agreed to go just to cheer her up but that would betray her in a very real sense.

  to go to the memorial would be an admission in her eyes (and other jws) that i still believe deep down that it is the truth.

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  Kristen

  Amen.
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  Moving on

  by Introspection in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i saw a recent post of someone leaving the board so they can move on.

  it's been years for me and i actually have never come to a board like this until recently.

  i'm just curious, how is everybody doing in that regard?

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  Kristen

  Casper,
  That guilty feeling does lessen through time. I remember the first year I stopped going, it was horrible. The depression and guilt was so strong that suicide was often on my mind. I felt like I lost everything, and I just couldn't go back, not after my experiences and the learning about the flip side of things.

  Support is so key at a time like this. Looking back I saw how difficult it was for me, exactly as you described. But here I am further down the road being true to myself, and much happier for it.

  It does get better. People told me that in the beginning too, and it was hard to believe. But it does, really.

  Hang in there,
  Kristen
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  Moving on

  by Introspection in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i saw a recent post of someone leaving the board so they can move on.

  it's been years for me and i actually have never come to a board like this until recently.

  i'm just curious, how is everybody doing in that regard?

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  Kristen

  I'm comfortable with the pace that I'm moving at. I still have many family connections in the organization, but feel more freedom in my heart than I've ever felt before. Of course, I haven't been interrogated yet, and suspect that could push me a lot further quicker.

  Kristen

  my bio http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?site=3&id=4065&page=1