I want to say that I have been deeply moved by what I have read here. The experiences that flipper and 00DAD have had are indeed heart breaking and I want both of you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I especially appreciated what 00DAD said about getting in touch with our "pre-cult personality". That is what I have done and it has opened possibilities and avenues in my life I never would have considered had I remained "in the box". As for those who are born-in, let me suggest that they make a diligent search for their true selves. It is there despite a lifetime of WTS indoctrination that made us feel we would be unworthy of Jehovah if we sought out these other things.
All of us reflect God's image and likeness. That is an important belief for me and has allowed me to move forward again. To me that means that we all have qualities, traits, and abilities that our Creator has and we should discover them and use them to make ourselves and those around us happy and fulfilled. The WTS put us in a strait-jacket where our freedom was severely restricted and we felt there was no way we could live a satisfying and purposeful life outside its narrow vision.
I think of the concluding words to Tennyson's poem Ulysses in which he writes:
Though much is taken, much abides; and though
We are not now that strength which in the old days
Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are,
One equal-temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
I have often meditated on those words as I move along in my own spiritual journey. I may have lost friends and family to the WTS and have suffered great pain and loss. Also, my youth and the vigor that went with it is gone, but there is still so much to live for. My life now is better than it was as a Witness as I'm sure it is for all of you who have posted to this thread. My friends, let us never forget that and look to the future with confidence.
Quendi