Hi FO1914;
First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!. I know how you feel. After 50 yrs. in & 34 yrs. in an unhappy marriage, I divorced to marry the love of my life. Got DF'd of course & was planning to return. Happily the committee decided to make an example of me & dragged their feet on my reinstatement. After 3 yrs. I got fed up & started my research leading me out for good. I know many here are just starting the journey out & yes, it's painful. We all will have different experiences leaving. I hope all have at least some measure of contentment. As for me, it's now been 8 yrs. out. I enjoy Christmas, birthdays, riding a Harley, getting tattoos, my loving wife, my one daughter out & my grandkids, drinking to excess on special occasions. ( Recently mooned a 1,000 people) Live Well...Enjoy Life !!!!