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  Sharp dressed men, or thanks WTS.....

  by bikerchic in

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  .....yeah thanks to all the men in my (past wts) life!.

  i've recently started working for a big department store and was hired to work in the men's department.

  i've found that my years of being a jw has finally paid off because if there is one thing i learned being a jw is how sharp dressed men dress and yes some of those elders could really put on the nines!.

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  Mamacat

  I'm glad you're doing well at your job!
  
  I seem to have a niche for matching shirts and pants and ties....I never thought about it until my husband had to dress up for work and would pick out some nasty color combinations for himself, so I took over and hung everything already matched together on one hanger. I have a hard time matching stuff for myself, though, which is why I always wear jeans or tan or black pants.
  
  I didn't understand the fad of wearing a solid tie the same exact color as the dress shirt...I think that was the Regis Philbin thing a few years back. Has that gone out of style now? I bought my husband some new dress shirts a few weeks ago, but he has a large tie collection thanks to me, so I didn't even look at them.
  
  Oh, and why do navy blue pants usually look the same color as black ones? Maybe I am just colorblind or something.
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  Vent about induction

  by JW83 in

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  hi there, just wanted to let off some steam.

  my brother's girlfriend is getting induced right now, for absolutely no reason.

  she was due on monday & went in on monday night to get gel.

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  Mamacat

  I hope things go well for her! I never understood induction either when it's not for a medical reason or someone is really overdue.
  
  I was induced with my first son, and he ended up being a C-section...my only one born that way. They wanted him out because they figured he weighed over 9 lbs...turns out he was 10lbs 4oz, and I couldn't push his big head out, hence the section. But, I've always wondered if they had let me go into labor on my own (I was actually in early labor when I went in for the scheduled induction) if my body would have known what to do by itself. My second son was over 9lbs, but he had the same size head. I went into labor on my own 3 days late, and no section that time..he came right out. My third son, I was in labor without contractions (sounds good, huh? lol) I was dilated to 6cm and in no pain at all until they decided to give me that darn pitocin just so they could see something on their monitors. Sadistic bastards they are.
  
  I hope your little neice or nephew is here soon and healthy! Congratulations, Auntie!
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  Are you having a Good day or a Bad day?

  by whyamihere in

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  good or bad day and why?.

  i guess bad.

  i am so sad today and i don't know how to make the sadness go away.

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  Mamacat

  Thanks Brooke and Goldengirl...I am hoping everything turns out okay too. It seems being pregnant is just bad for my health this time around...I guess it's a good thing I already decided to have a tubal and be done. I've come to terms that I will be a mom of 4 boys and no girls.
  
  I had the diabetes last pregnancy too, and it was controlled enough with diet that I didn't need insulin. The doctor knew my history, so he told me to fast before it this time. It didn't help. They said it is as if my body didn't process hardly any of the sugar from that nasty drink at all, the number was extremely high. They are already talking about putting me on insulin and that scares me.
  
  Dh is not being too supportive either. I know he works a lot, but I think he could take a few minutes a day to try to take care of me or just ask how I am feeling. I've been trying to stay off my feet as much as possible, which is really hard with 3 other kids...my house is an absolute mess, and it is really starting to irritate him...and it bugs me too. He told me to just clean it all from top to bottom in one day and get it over with, but I just don't have the energy or strength to do that...and he doesn't understand. He was so happy about the baby, and now I don't know what is going on with him. He got home late from work and woke me up to ask me a stupid question...and now I can't get back to sleep.
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  The love you didn't get as a JW...

  by JH in

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  often, i hear people say that there is no love in the jw org.

  can you give personal examples of this?.

  ok, this is your chance to say what "love" you expected from the org.

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  Mamacat

  I expected to be invited to gatherings...not ignored because my dad was an "unbeliever," or whatever their reasoning was. I'll never forget how crushed I was when a friend showed me pictures from a picnic, and all the other kids were playing games and looked happy...I had never even been invited to it..and it was held about a mile from my house! It made me wonder how many other times I had been left out. I wasn't allowed to have friends from school, and the dub kids weren't allowed to hang with me.
  
  It was lonely, and I never felt loved there. I dreaded the meetings and strived to get out of there as soon as it was over...everyone else seemed to be in their cliques talking to others, and I was alone.
  
  Now, when I get together with my true friends, it seems no one wants to leave! We always hang out longer than we intended to, and have great conversations. I know I could call them if I needed to talk or had an emergency, and they would be doing it because they like me and honestly want to help me!
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  Did you ever hear "Congratulations" from dubs. when you were expecting?

  by sweet tee in

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  it still amazes me how lacking jw's are in social decorum.

  i had 4 children while in the b0rg and not once did anyone say congrats.

  to me or my husband.

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  Mamacat

  Dawn... I didn't understand it either! I know I already had 2 sons, but they were 4 and 6 when the youngest was born...She knew I didn't have any of their stuff anymore. She did a lot for me when I had my oldest, and sent me things overseas when I had my second.
  
  It's 4 years later now, and I pregnant again...another boy. She's already asked me what I wanted and sent me a check so I can go buy it...they don't have any stores except Walmart where she lives, and they don't carry it.
  
  I am not quite sure what happened that last time with her. Although, everytime she sees him now, she gets him things, but that's only been since she moved away. I was just really mad because I knew how much she spent on this JW mom, and I kept expecting her to give him something...anything!
  
  I'm a big fan of celebrating EVERY baby, boy or girl, a year later or six years later, doesn't matter. I would never demand a shower or anything like that, but I think every baby deserves something new. My husband's family didn't send anything for him either, and that was his first baby. Maybe I just love baby shopping too much and like having an excuse to buy stuff. lol
  
  I have a nice little stash of things for the new baby, and it keeps growing. I'm glad I don't think the Goodwill and Salvation Army are bad places anymore...I found some awesome little clothes that were brand new in those stores!
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  Smoking

  by Es in

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  why do we continue to do it even tho we know its bad for us?????

  i gave up bout a year ago but still have one occasionally i dont even know if i enjoy it all that much but i still do it.

  ive seen three of my family members die as a result of smoking and yet i light another one up!

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  Mamacat

  I grew up telling my dad that smoking would kill him...I was so adamant about it, but it didn't do any good back then. But, he just quit about 4 months ago, after over 40 years!
  
  I smoked a few times as a teenager with friends, but I didn't like it. I started smoking regularly when I was 22...mostly because it irritated my husband (now ex) and he would tell me I smelled bad and leave me alone. Then, I couldn't quit.
  
  I quit when I was pregnant with my last son and started back up again a few months after he was born. I've quit again with this pregnancy, but it is so hard still. I really don't want to start again, but the first thing I think of when I am stressed is to go get a smoke. My current husband nagged me about quitting constantly...but you really do have to quit because YOU want to..not what someone else tells you to do.
  
  Good luck to everyone that has quit or is trying to. It is an addictive monster.
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  Are you having a Good day or a Bad day?

  by whyamihere in

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  good or bad day and why?.

  i guess bad.

  i am so sad today and i don't know how to make the sadness go away.

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  Mamacat

  (((Hugs))) Sorry you are feeling down today.
  
  I am in a funky mood, too. I got some bad test results from the OB on the phone...I cannot wait for this pregnancy to be over and done with! But, it's still early to deliver guaranteed healthy (27 weeks), so I will hang in for awhile. Another round of gestational diabetes and some other weirdo infection that's bad for the baby, can cause pre-term labor, etc.
  
  I can't do much about it until Thursday when I have another doctor's appointment. I wish I could just sleep until then.
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  Did you ever hear "Congratulations" from dubs. when you were expecting?

  by sweet tee in

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  it still amazes me how lacking jw's are in social decorum.

  i had 4 children while in the b0rg and not once did anyone say congrats.

  to me or my husband.

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  Mamacat

  I didn't have any kids while I was in, but I remember everyone fawning over the new babies. I did it too, lol. I've always liked little kids. I don't remember anyone having a huge family though, two kids usually, three at the most.
  
  When I was pregnant with my third son, a woman in my mom's congregation was due the same time as me. She was 19, and had been married about a year...her family is basically 50% of that congregation. There was a huge baby shower, and my mom asked me for advice on what to get her (for a baby girl, of which I have none lol). I helped her pick out something really nice.... My mom NEVER got me a gift for my son! I was so pissed.
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  Did every congregation have one or two desperate singletons?

  by diamondblue1974 in

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  i remember in the kh i went to there was always at least one desperate singleton who would sniff around the single women particularly the ones which were his own age...he was mid 40s i seem to believe...never had a girlfriend and would have married anybody who wouldve had him.

  there was no real harm in him...just lonely i expect but i think he made most women skwirm.. what about you...did your hall have its own resident 'single sister stalker'?

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  Mamacat

  There was one in our congo. A brother, smart, mid 30's (in his early 50's now) average looking. He always was a little off to me, but it was said he had done drugs in the past and had an "emotional problem" because of the side effects.
  
  He was after my friends' mom for a long time, but she was happy being divorced. I don't think she even went out with him once, but he was definitely on the stalker path.
  
  Then, he married a 18 year old sister from another part of the state. Their marriage lasted 6 months, and she accused him of all types of things, which no one believed.
  
  Then, about 8 years ago, he married a cousin of mine in her mid 20's.
  
  Soon, the shi*t hit the fan...My cousin moved back in with her parents and filed for divorce. She said she wasn't allowed to say what had happened. She assured me that it was terrible, and it was all his fault.
  
  I looked at the state sex offender registry purely by chance, and there he was, living in my zip code! At first, only his name was listed, no picture. Now, my mom knew that my cousin and him had broken up for something really serious, but she tried to convince me it was a case of someone having the same name. Soon, there was a picture posted of him, and there was no doubt.
  
  I worry so much that he did something to one of my friends when we were growing up. He always gave me the creeps, so I stayed away from him as much as possible=, but others thought he was great.
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  CRY LIKE A BABY

  by tijkmo in

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  ok lots of movie threads running at mo.

  so whats your fave for when you wanna cry.

  guys u gotta answer too.

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  Mamacat

  Never Been Kissed makes me bawl like a baby at the end...even though I've seen it so many times and know it is going to be okay.
  
  My Girl...poor Thomas Jay :(
  
  There are more, but these are the ones I own and try to avoid watching in front of people. lol