Posts by mynameislame

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Overwhelming Fear of Death

by Perversion of a truth in

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do any of the posters on here deal with this?

i do, and i hate it.

people (mostly my brother) tells me to not fear death and just to enjoy life and so on, but that doesn't seem to help any.

mynameislame

I've worked hard to overcome negative thinking. I have been working at it diligently for about 2-3 years and it still takes work I'm definitely much better than I used to be though.

I spent years of my life being depressed and way too much time thinking about how people had done me wrong.

I am amazed that I almost never find myself thinking about negative stuff anymore.

I even try to spend some time thinking about what I am grateful for.

It takes some time but you get better and better at it until the pendulum swings in the other direction where positive thinking starts to become the norm

A few of the things that have helped me.

youtube meditation and hypnosis videos. There's also tons of stuff on the web that isn't on youtube.

Motivational books, from my library, both books and cd's. Many libraries even let you download books and audio books right from their website these days.

Motivational books on youtube, I can't believe how many books and cd's I find on youtube. Some are copies of the cd some people will actually sit down and read a book and post it on youtube.

Search for "full book" and then start to narrow down your search when you find stuff you are interested in.

Youtube will start to help you out by finding related stuff.

"The secret" was very motivational. Even if it isn't true it helps me to think more positive and I have become more positive.

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Overwhelming Fear of Death

by Perversion of a truth in

jw
friends

do any of the posters on here deal with this?

i do, and i hate it.

people (mostly my brother) tells me to not fear death and just to enjoy life and so on, but that doesn't seem to help any.

mynameislame

Sometimes I feel bad that I wasted so much time as a dub, but honestly thats part of who I am and that's ok.

Meditation videos on youtube and other places on the web really helped me to relax.

You can change your feelings by working hard to change what you spend time thinking about.

People say you become what you think about most of the time.

Even if not true, thinking negative most of the time will make you depressed.

When you start thinking about death change the mental subject.

A couple things that help me to stop thinking about negative stuff is;

Picturing stop sign when I start thinking negative.

Taking my negative thoughts and pretending to play them like a record while scratching them with the record needle.

Some people who are more visual might want to think of them like a micky mouse cartoon.

The things tha the seemed to help the most were probably the meditation and hypnotism videos on youtube, podcats etc...

There are also a ton of motivational books that you can listen to and download from youtube.

Just search for full book on youtube and you will start to find stuff. The more you find the more you will find.

I also try to start and end my day by thinking about what I am grateful for. It is hard at first but slowly gets easier as time goes by.

It might seem odd but if you were sick and had to take a pill every day you wouln't feel the least bit odd about doing it.

I have gone from chronic depression and negative thinking to being happy most of the time.

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Meeting Not Cancelled but Postponed

by wisdomfrombelow in

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there's a big snowstorm on the east coast and i found out that the school and service meeting was not cancelled but postponed to tomorrow.

why do they think it's so important to have it so they ruin another evening after shoveling snow?

just venting.....

mynameislame

Jeez, the canceled meeting was better than school being canceled.

Ahhhh a nice Thursday night watching prime time TV

We used to have an unusual number of thursday meetings canceled on thanksgiving day.

hey it is snowing somplace we should cancel.

I think I might have been at one of the more liberal KH's

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JW. org: "No, we are not a cult. We do not look to any human as our leader."

by Faithful Witness in

i know this has been rehashed, time and again, but i saw this interesting blip on jw.org last night, and did a little thinking about it.... jw.

org answers the important question that so many have... are jehovah's witnesses a cult?.

jehovah's witnesses do not look to any human as their leader.

mynameislame

It is easy to not be a cult if you define what a cult is.

Some think of a cult as people who kill pigs and drink their blood naked in time square on new years eve.

Obviously we are not a cult.

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The Memorial campaign: What question from a householder would have made you think?

by Faithful Witness in

i know that soon, the jws in our area will be out in full force, on their hit and run campaign with invitations to the memorial.

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did you ever encounter a householder during this campaign, that made you stop and think about what you were doing?

mynameislame

Absolutely nothing would have made me think.

One day I was in the door to door work and some dudes showed me some scriptures that were quite convincing when I was at their house, but when I went home and read them on my own (probably with the use of the Watchtower) I came to the opposite conclusion.

If and when you are ready to leave you will leave. I don't think anyone can speed that up.

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No Satan

by jgnat in

that was one of the first of the prepackaged beliefs from my church that i let fall.. why?.

because i'd stared evil in the face and lived to tell about it.

i know it's textures, it's dark places, the feel, smell, perversion, degradation, corruption of it.

mynameislame

Between Adam, Eve and Satan, (and the mosquito) god doesn't seem to have a very good record in the creation department.

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No Satan

by jgnat in

that was one of the first of the prepackaged beliefs from my church that i let fall.. why?.

because i'd stared evil in the face and lived to tell about it.

i know it's textures, it's dark places, the feel, smell, perversion, degradation, corruption of it.

mynameislame

When I was young I was told not to pray/speak my fears out loud so Satan could not use them against me.

Hmm wish someone had told me that so I could have prayed not to be rich or irresistible to attractive women

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Are Men's Rights Laughable?

by Paralipomenon in

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reading over the woody allen thread i noticed a couple things but didn't want to side track the "discussion".

1) woody allen is creepy.

2) nobody really seemed to care that his ex-wife was abusive towards her children.. an example i think is perfect was the release of twilight where you would see lineups of 30-40 year old women making very inappropriate comments about a 16 year old boy.

mynameislame

I think Hank Hill summed it up quite nicely

It's called the double standard Bobby. Don't knock it — we got the long end of the stick on that one.

Some you win some you lose.

Another one where manly men don't win is custody battles.

The man will most likely lose that battle and then have to pay child support to boot.

In the long run, men probably get more "long end of the stick" situations than women.

How many men were waiting for the Olsen twins to turn 18 before we could admit to o·gl ing

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Qualifications for Elders & MS

by snakeface in

we all know that elders and ministerials are appointed by holy spirit.

i was in the organization for about 25 years and was in 4 different congregations over the years.. in one congregration there was a sister in her mid-50's with an unbelieving husband.

he did not attend meetings.

mynameislame

I'm pretty sure the qualifications for being and elder are being able to preach the expected qualifications without actually possessing any of them

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Newbee

by DullBookworm in

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i have not been a sister for the past 19 years, i asked to be da'd as i had started smoking aged 12 and at 19 no longer wanted people to think badly of the jw's over my conduct.. for 19 years my father, an elder, has tried his damndest to bring me back.

he kept contact sometimes more, sometimes less, always under the threat to stop the contact alltogether.

at one point he managed to not speak to me for several months.

mynameislame

First I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

It sounds like he is at least conflicted. I wouldn't bring up anything apostate though. That will only make him more stuborn.

Give it some time, whatever caused this will likely pass with time.

Unless you were baptised then you are not off limits as far as I know. DA is different than DF and if you were baptised and smoking then you might have a pretty good argument for anulling the baptisim.