Hi there, this is truthseeker1969 wife, I am a social worker who works with the state of florida and in nursing homes and long term care homes.
What truly concerns me is the nursing facility accussing you of essentially fraud and if you have this in writing then this will be something you can use to defend yourself in any court. Even if they had conclusive evidence that any type of fraud had been committed they are never under any circumstances invited to state such.
It seems that the facilities your Mother was in are not following the rule of law when it comes to communication and following the HIPPA requirements. At no time is e-mail to be used to forward medical or welfare information to anyone since it is never guaranteed that the person reading it is the person to whom it was intended.
You said that you were told that you owed them $24000.00 for care for four months. Unless you signed a form stating that you would be lieable for all the incurred bills there is nothing that can be done to recover this from you and indeed again they had no right telling you that you should pay it.
There seems to have been a number of violations if your Mothers riights and yours and I would advise you to contact the states ombudsman in your state the number to which is posted clearly in the facility. They will work with you and on your behalf to correct what has been done and work at finding suitable state facilities that your mother can go to.
Just as a side note, they should have taken your mothers pension or monies when she was first admitted which is a matter of course so you may be able to recover any money you paid out.
Just messsage the hubby and I will try and help whatever way i can.
best wishes