my wife and i, both out of the religion for nearly twenty years, live in the same border town as our 44 year old only son.
we have scant contact with our numerous jw relatives, although a handful of clever "double life" nieces and nephews socialize with our son.. we care for our six year old grandson weekdays while our single parent son makes a living.
we've been infinitely better grandparents than we were parents, primarily because of our exit from a high control cult, but also because of life experience.
I love the balance you and your wife as grandparents are providing to your grandson.
Although there are a host of reasons to complain about a JW upbringing, for purposes of simplicity we can all agree that it is highly unbalanced and produces young adults ill equipped for the world.
Thanks to your son and yourselves, your grandson is being spared that. I think that is wonderful.
the watchtower today says not to think of sex, or to have sexual fantasies.
i'm just wondering... how many people in the hall hearing this watchtower today would be having sexual fantasies?
sitting there thinking about sister hottie or brother hunky ?.
purrpurr
The Watchtower today says not to think of sex, or to have sexual fantasies. I'm just wondering... how many people in the hall hearing this Watchtower today would be having sexual fantasies? Sitting there thinking about sister hottie or brother hunky ?
As humans with functional sexual organs it's practically impossible to not think about sex it's how we are built. The Borg are basically setting the sheep up to fail.
And do people really go to the elders about their sexual fantasies? Which is what the Watchtower is telling them to do?
So how do they explain away the Song of Solomon?
Its inspired you know...
as our fade continues, the wife and i have decided to take up "the forbidden practice of.......yoga"!!!!😱.
i was quite skeptical at first but so far it has really de-stressed our life in quite a spectacular way!!
not to mention the physical benefits.. anyone else try yoga or a similar discipline?
sparky1
extremely difficult and demonized exercises which twist the human body in terrible convulsive positions; and only a Satanic mind could conceive of thus dishonoring the body Jehovah gave. These postures are held indefinitely; thus showing the entire lack of reason behind it,....
Congrats to her (and you)
She is on her way!
she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.
we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.
we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.
You guys are funny with the beheading stuff.
I loved reading about the special day you and your wife created. It sounds like it was just wonderful!
if you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing about jws would you do it?
and what would you choose to say to yourself?
do you think you could have convinced yourself not to get baptised if you chose the right thing to say?
I think a lot like Faye on this one,
I guess if I had to come up with a question that might have given me pause it would be:
If all your family were killed in a plane crash tomorrow would you still get baptized?
I dont think I would have, The familial pressure was on and it was fierce.
I was 19.
it was rather quick one.
in just few months and after attending all of their meetings and giving them a nice show, i'm back to the org!!!
(what a relief-sarcastic laugh) .
I am not shocked that someone would get reinstated. It is a means to an end in some cases.
I mean, why not?
Its not like the JWs have the truth or anything. It is just a series of hoops to jump thru in order to get a desired result (freedom of speech and the freedom to come and go as one pleases).
It is more of a manipulation of a broken archaic system than anything else.
Good for you Prometheus
new to the forums and looking for someone who may have had a similar experience.
i have been disfellowshipped going on 30 years now.
within those thirty years i have built myself a life and slowly learned to cope with the shunning from family and friends.
Hi Together,
I dont have any advise for you but just reading this thread makes me think you are the best of the bunch. It is their loss.
as the title says--i'm out of here for good.. the site is full of atheists, communists, 7th day adventists, creationists, believers, deceivers, receivers, football supporters,.
dodgy types, cantleave---and assorted wankers.. so no place for me--because i'm none of the above so dont fit in.
so--this is goodbye forever my friends--its been almost average knowing you.
Ha ha...thanks for the laugh Stan!
the remarkable sister pettifog.
this morning i arrived on my bicycle at the local starbucks early, before the intensity of the texas sun boiled to full blaze rendering me a soggy, wrung out mess.. i took up my perch on the outdoor patio in the shade, eager to work on my book of short stories.
this will be my 3rd book and i’ve been enjoying the process daily.. .
You did do a good job building the anticipation and giving solid background!
I have thought about this story a lot since I read it yesterday. I think other than the sheer serendipity of it which is compelling in its own right, I am made hopeful by the fact that an older person saw through them.
So many times we have hope for the young ones but I have older ones I wish could break free also and I think this created hope by example!
