Posts by ChunkyMonkey

GREAT post!! Even after being out 7/8 years I have so many irrational fears that hold me up. It'll be so freeing to get rid of those are and start going KA-RAY-ZY!

MindMelda -- your post was helpful too!! I espically like these points.

4. "Worldly" people have helped me when I was down, given me money without demanding repayment, given me succor, love, encouragement, healing, advice, love, and everything I was told I would only get from Witnesses. Except I never got that from Witnesses most of the time, and none of it without strings attached. Everything I got from the Witnesses was held hostage by their requirements of complete belief and servitude.

10. Armageddon? I'm more afraid of the Zombie Apocalypse! I'm stocking up on shotguns, beer and chips, plenty of boards and nails and some baseball bats.

Could anything be scarier than the Zombie Apocalypse? I don't think so...

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Just wondering ....

by talesin in

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friends

there are many new posters here, and i'm very interested to learn why you chose your screen names.. .

one book i read, the mists of avalon, was very important to me.

among the main characters was merlin, who in the book, was called "taliesen".

ChunkyMonkey

Chunky Monkey/ Chunk Monk is what I call my 10 mo old son and it makes me smile. As I may have mentioned before I did not plan the nickname Chunky out so well. :). Oh well. As a side note I loooove me some BSG and Alias!! Frack ya!!

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A BIG Welcome to the Newbies :-)

by snowbird in

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it's good that y'all are here.

please stay for a while.

syl.

ChunkyMonkey

Thanks for the welcome! So far I like what I see/read! :)

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Rum or Whiskey?

by J. Hofer in

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after a few beers and a bottle of french wine (2007 cote du rhone) i'm having myself some "ron zacapa centenario solera reserva".

but that's probably because i spent a lot of time in latin america.

i guess you gringos are more into whiskey?

ChunkyMonkey

I'm a fan of Woodford Reserve Wiskey. But mostly I drink wine.Either way -- CHEERS!

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Your baby has been stolen by the angels......

by watersprout in

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i just received this email...... please please stop by ......... boutique and have a go at our raffle??

some of the proceeds will be going to .......... for permature babies who are sadly stole away to be angels in the sky.. this angered me greatly!

babies stolen by angels???.

ChunkyMonkey

J - are you trying to say that if god really wanted babies up in heave to be angels then all these abortions would be his will? And all these people fighting abortions would then be fighting god. It's using their stupid reasoning against the idiots.

I've always hated that whole - they are happier in heaven with god. God wanted them. Be happy your loved one is in heaven. SO stupid and insensative. I want to reply -- good, when I stab you then for saying that - you should be happy to go to god, right? Get me a knife! ARGH!

(I'm kidding! I've never murdered anyone. I promise!)

Also, J - good for you saving your baby. Amazing!

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After leaving Jw's did you go into another religion or serv. god ur own way?

by average joe in

i am just curious if you guys left jw's and now worship in some other relgion or worship in your own way?

have you sworn off organized religion ?

if you have not sworn off organized religion then i wonder what relgion seems to be the right one for you guys?

ChunkyMonkey

I feel exactly the same straightshooter. My husband would love if we could go to a different church. I'm not sure I could stomach listening to anything they'd try to teach me. I love lessons (sermons, talks, discussions, whatev) on how to treat your neighbor and how to live a good life. But anything else and my brain shuts off. Argueing doctrines and facts seems so overwhelming and boring at the same time.

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So where are you now?

by fade_away in

are any of you on here not living the dreams you had as a kid because of the "no higher education" rule?.

i was a born in jw and remained one until the age of 25. by my late teens i knew what i wanted to do with my life.

i'm about to write a lengthy history explaining why i'm not currently in the carreer i wanted, so you can skip this boring story and just comment if you want to.. i was raised to be a loyal jw and since birth already had many goals chosen for me.

ChunkyMonkey

I tried to post last night, but couldn't on my ipad. Stupid ipad. Anyway, I specifically remember an assembly where an elder gave a talk and 'suggested' that going to college was a waste of time in this system of things. He then 'recommended' that it would be ideal for young christian brothers and sisters to inherit a buisiness from their parents instead. You know, like a cleaning buisness or a carpentry business -- because, really, that's all us witnesses are good for. I wanted to scream -- WHA WHAT?!?!? Both my parents and I were enraged! Sometimes we still talk about that as the stupidest thing we've ever heard at an assembly.

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How did you fill the void after leaving?

by gutted in

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i'm curious about how people filled the void after leaving the jws.

i'm at a point, a bit over a year after leaving, where i am finding i have confronted the reality of my life and situation... and it's depressing.

i realize i have holes in my life (a significant other, social activities, something higher/beyond myself) which many worldly people naturally have filled but it feels unnatural for me, almost synthetic and it makes me more depressed the more i think about it.

ChunkyMonkey

I thinking making real friends is a great place to start. If you were 'born in' it might be hard to know what your interests and hobbies really are. But it'll so much fun trying new things and deciding what you truly like to do with your time. Get a hobbie or 5. Join clubs - book clubs, scooter clubs, motorcycle clubs. You'll be surprised at how nice, normal, friendly, and welcome worldly people are!! Join a gym - take yoga classes! Yoga is SUCH a great way to relax and find peace... for some, maybe you'll hate it. But definitely try new things and make REAL friends. You'll soon be so busy you won't know how you even had time for meetings and service at all.

Oh, and definitely fornicate and do drugs. Don't want to disappoint the dubs!

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Topic #1 in my letter

by outsmartthesystem in

disfellowshipping.

the bible only gives expressly, 7 things that a person may be disfellowshipped for.

found at 1 corinthians 5:11, they are: anyone that is a fornicator, a greedy person, an idolater, a reviler, a drunkard or an extortioner.

ChunkyMonkey

Hi! I'm new here, but wanted to say thanks for sharing your letter and the info you've gathered. I really enjoyed reading it and seeing all these logical points together in one spot. Hopefully your wife can see reason. Good luck!