well, i had a run in with my sister in law this weekend.
nothing direct between me and her since she shuns me.
but my brother dave told me something that just pissed me off to no end.
((((Harmony)))))
I hope you are feeling much better this evening. It feels so good just to let it all out and have a cry about it. Not only that, you actually said what is on your mind and that has to be a relief. I so sympathise with what is going on now sweetie. Just remember how many you have here who care about and love you. Letting go of those who are our own blood though is not easy.
((((another one)))) Because it isn't over yet.
love ya
wendy
i was thinking today of an older thread started by lovedubs.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=3927&site=3.
it was a request for those of us who can at this time to support bill bowen and family financially.
Thi Chi
LOL too funny! I have heard that the local kingdom hall was very supportive of him, as well as the local community. After standing up to them and fighting for the Silentlambs he is being ostracized. There were local JW's who even went to the businesses and spread lies about him causing his business to slow down considerably. I think it would be great if we could as a community here, support him and his family.
wendy
it seems that i'm a dangerous man.. last time we went over to vist my dad in canada, my sister rang the local congregation to warn them that i was going!.
wow ... i feel like 'the jackal' or something ... international danger man!.
what sad pathetic little lives they lead ...
I couldn't agree more
wendy
if a jw never gets married and follows the watchtower to the letter till the day they die, that means they would have never had sex in their lives or entertained masturbation.
scary thought.
Oh Rick,
I am quite aware of the rules governing sexuality in the JW world. BTW I am not an active Jw, what ever gave you that idea? Last time you posted to me you assumed I was Mommie Dark and you falsely accused me of several things...still awaiting an apology on that one. You said in your last post
In other words, to put it bluntly, an 18 year old brother is better off marrying a 90 year old sister if she's the only one available, rather than to be in constant sexual overdrive and risk fornication with a young attractive sister!
Which is in total contradiction of your previous post, where you stated he was quite the stud muffin:
Every marriage-minded sister in the district was after him, and he was exceptionally dedicated to The Truth (putting in all his spare time in field service, and even giving up college to pioneer). Some said he even aspired to be an elder, and was exceptionally good looking with sisters competing for his attention before and after meetings; and an athlete into high school sports until he began preparing for baptism a year earlier.
I can't believe that you would even swallow that story, let alone post it on a public forum as truth! lol Well if an elder's wife told you then you can take it as gospel eh?
wendy
i know you know,you know i am, i am canadian!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
toronto has the most hockey arenas per capita in the world,everyone in canada lives and breathes hockey!
trying to find ice time is impossible why?
Simon,
That is the only rule that you need to know I went to a few hockey games here in NY and "Blood on the ice" seems to be the popular cheer. I also think that you have to attempt to get the little black puck in the goals. but as you can tell by such low scores, everyone is concentrating on Rule #1 and rarely worry about the goals.
BTW Congrats Canada
wendy
"why is bill bowen not df'd or d'ad or shunned?
" he is "in good standing" is he not or was that a false statement?
Jan,
You almost had me in tears there for a sec. As I said, I have been there, maybe that is why I recognized it in your post. This internet thingy is way cool, yet it can cause us a handful of problems as well. I am fairly new to the internet(Dec 2000) and this site is the first one I found when I jumped online. It was really small and cosy when I first got here, and some even said it was too slow if you can imagine that. We had maybe 5 threads a day and if a newbie came we all greeted with earnest *fresh meat* Actually Waiting handed out the coffee and asked them to bring Krispy Kremes. If this person was only here to hurt we all usually picked up on it and they soon left knowing this wasn't the place for that.
Since that time we have G-R-O-W-N which in itself is wondeful, imagine how many are able to find a place to ease thier pain and discuss issues that only an ex-dub will understand. Yet with this there is a greater risk of letting the imposters infiltrate. This is a perfect place for a very sick individual to "get their rocks off" I was leary for quite some time after I had a few run ins with certain sickos. I thought I had grown cynical, my worst fear lol But I realized I had just grown. I found that I had to reveal myself slowly to others here and trust is not something you can give to a computer screen, and type written words.
There are many here who are "real" and kind hearted, great friends, and trustworthy. It will take you time to sort through the many here and find who they are. My email is open and you can write me anytime, I will respect your privacy and hope to get to know you a bit better. I am not online as much as before. And in a few weeks, when my baby boy arrives, I am sure you will never see me But there is a real life outside this forum and I would be happy to give you my number as well.
As far as reading COC you are braver than I, I am too scared to read it. There are so many emotions we have dealing with the org, and I am afraid the book will bring out my anger mode, pssst we don't want that Good luck with finishing it, and if you need to, take a break from reading it and come back in a few days, weeks, months. Taking the book and the forum on at the same time is liable to push anyone over the edge. Way too much info and pain to bear.
I am glad you had a good night. And the best thing to do when upset here is turn it off. Walk away, take deep breaths, but do try to come back to resolve what needs to be. The unsettled feeling can't be a good one, and if you leave in anger you carry it with you. ((((hugs)))
wendy
i was thinking today of an older thread started by lovedubs.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=3927&site=3.
it was a request for those of us who can at this time to support bill bowen and family financially.
I was thinking today of an older thread started by Lovedubs.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=3927&site=3
It was a request for those of us who can at this time to support Bill Bowen and family financially. His family owns a candle making business and has a website that is easily accessible to all here. The URL is http://www.triplescent.com/ There have been a few people here who already purchased some of his candles and they gave raving reviews. I think it is a good opportunity for all of us to show support for a true gentleman who has a family to take care of.
Please all take a moment and check out the site. Thanks
wendy
i've been a bit short with people today in the forums, and i shouldn't have been quite so abrupt.
i get frustrated when i see exjws make the same mistake and join up with political groupthink just as they used to join with governing body groupthink.
it's all propaganda, as i keep trying to point out, but the fact is that you can believe whatever you want without my input.. i realize i keep harping on conservative hypocrisy lately, but that's because they are in power right now.
DUNG!
You found it! I will have to DL it now. Every since this morning I could not get that song outta my head. Thank you! You are a wealth of info.
wendy
in chat tonight, i was discussing self-defense measures i used to teach when i was on the lecture circuit showing women and men how to protect themselves from physical assault in a violent situation.
you can never be sure when you might find yourself in an ugly situation and it is always smart to think ahead of what to do if you find yourself in one of these situations.. this thread wont be very pretty and the methods i mention below and the ones you may add in other posts may be downright terrifying.
you may also find the information im going to tell you violates many state and local laws but it is your choice if you want to be carried by six or judged by twelve.
Mind
I have always thought I was pretty street smart, get my keys out before I go to the car, aware of my surroundings, etc. Yet I never, ever thought of yelling Fire! instead of rape! What a wonderful suggestion.
wendy
i spoke with my ex-wife at some length today, just telling her about what the state of florida is doing to me and threatening me with, and what my prospects for the future are, including the possibility of spending a few years in prison.. (for those who don't know the story, this has to do with a dramatic reduction in my income, which was not followed in a timely way by a corresponding reduction in my child support obligation.
through a long series of misadventures, each compounding the previous one, i have gone from about $250,000 net worth to around $-100,000 nw in 5 years, and am now threatened with very dire consequences, including prison, by the legal system.
while i don't try to deny or evade responsibility for my actions, i contend that this has been largely a result of misplacing my love and faith and trust.).
Sorry you are going through so much now. I am not familiar with the laws in Florida but I know that in a few other states that if your wife is not on public assistance, she can stop the proceedings herself. There is not a runaway brigade to collect child support. Trust me it is hard enough to get them to take action against a non paying spouse. I had a friend who payed in advance in NC and then forgot about the month he was to pay them and he was taken to court, they threatened all kinds of action against him. His ex went and had the order absolved, and he pays her direct now. When the order was initiated she was on public assistance though, so they took right over.
Now as far as child support goes. I am of the mind that I would rather the dad be active in the kids lives than give a dime of support. Of course thatis from my personal experience talking. How are your kids holding up knowing you may move away from them? And how are you knowing that you may not see your kids but from behind a jail cell?
wendy
