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my son's poem

by lauralisa in

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my son is fifteen years old.

he is a portrait of conflict.

he has a lot of weird, definition-avoidant neurological problems (adhd, ocd, latent tourettes syndrome.... "those" kinds of things.

(((((Lauralisa))))))
I can tell you not to regret the way you chose to raise him, but you probably will continue to do so. There is no benefit to dwell on the decisions we have made, it will not change the outcome. The only way to start tomorrow afresh is to keep talking to your son, remain open with him and allow him to come to you. His ability to put his feelings into words is a great asset. I would encourage it. Take that poem apart with him piece by piece. There seems like he wants to say so much more, and I know that you are the type of mom who will give him some great advice.

All I want is to provide my children with a safe environment within which they can find a path and thrive. This is tough to achieve, however. All people, especially children, want explanations for things: who, what, when, where, why. Especially WHY.

Recently I was going through some very rough times. I even reached out for support, which is so not like me! lol I would say for about 2-3 weeks I was very depressed, and the question "WHY" kept going through my mind. I wanted to know why I was having such a rough time. I wanted to know why my children had to do without. I wanted to know why this was happening to me. It was so frustrating and I could not get out of that cycle. I was so wrapped up with wondering why it had even occured that I was not concentrating on getting out.

One day, I decided it does not matter "Why" and this is the day the light turned on at the end of the tunnel. I didn't care "why" the things were happening to me, or "why" I had such a string of bad luck. I was going to deal with what was happening no matter "why" it was happening. Things have improved 100% since that point, my attitude changed, when I made the decision to not worry about the "why." Several friends have stepped up and made my life much easier as well. But I can honestly say if they had not, I still would be "okay" I made a decision to change my attitude. This was the turning point. I was really suprised to see you post that in this thread. I was even thinking of making a seperate thread concerning this, that is how much it affected me.

I hope you know you can email me and we can chat anytime. I think you are doing a damn fine job with your boys. You care enough about them that you want them to be emotionally settled as well. I am sending alot of good vibes your way, it is contagious you know?
love,
wendy

When I leave, you will know I have been here

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4 Employment Openings 4 Ex-dubs

by Mindchild in

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please note: this is not a fluff post.

this is actually a career opportunity.. job description and qualifications:.

four positions open to work with an international for profit foundation doing business in the college textbook industry.

mommy

Hey Expat
Great job researching that area. In one of your recent post about men and woman and their differences, this thread is a classic example of that. See I have thought of above and beyond what you have already brought out. And being true to my nature my ideas are more emotionally inclined.

Not only are the occupants of the island away from the mainland, they are away from any family that they leave behind. Of course the family can come and visit and vice versa, but in times of crisis getting to them may be a bit difficult. This could occur if you were living on the other side of the country from them as well, or as in your case, another country. It is not impossible though, it is more of a time factor.

Also I have thought of my children possibly being the only children on the island. Now as already stated we can have visitors but that would be few and far between. I have really gone over the effect it could have on them. I have a friend who grew up on a tropical island. She was close enough to the mainland about a 15 minute boatride, so she was close enough to civilization that she was able to still be apart of things. She was homeschooled by her mother and was accepted at a University for her college education. She had her brother and sister to play with, but I know that did get to her at times.

I am currently homeschooling my children and I know that their education can be transfered to a mainland university if and when it is time for them to further their education. I also am taking a spanish course and hope to be fluent in a years time. I will feel like a duck out of water there anyway, I minds well know the language. Edited to add, that I feel comfortable enough that I would not mind homeschooling other children as well. I really enjoy kids talking to them, teaching them and seeing how their minds work is really a charge for me.

The medical care is a big issue for me, as I am sure it is for many others. We will be close enough to civilization that we will not have to worry about LTC. The worry in my mind will be emergency care. I personally am trained in emergency medical care. And I am certified in advanced cardiac life support. We can equip the island with the neccesary equipment if there was ever a need of it. Also you must remember that with mainland or other islands within 10-15 minutes of us, this is the same as most travel distances in an ambulance. Also it would not be hard to train a person who is willing to learn. I am sure that anyone who resides there will want to have the ability to put into action these tools if there was an emergency situation.

Going to the island with our suitcases and start hacking down trees is not our idea of hard work. There will be facilities in place before we even take up residence there. That is one reason we have given such a large window before we start to reside there. Celtic has contributed in terms of solar energy ideas and also waste removal(I know there are fancy words for that, but I don't know what they are called) I plan on educating myself on these subjects as well. And what great training for my kids who live in a plastic society now and think that all you have to do is take the garbage to the curb and it magically disappears.

With the WWW accesiblility we will not be that lonley as far as socialization either. How many of us spend nights in the chatroom anyway? Again with the other islands so close there is a chance for taking the night off and enjoying yourself in one of the nearby resorts. The others on the island will be a great asset to have as well. That is why there is a need to make sure we are all mature enough and emotinally stable enough to handle balancing between solitude and social interaction.

One thing I have thought of and spoke to Skipper about and really is one of my main concerns is privacy. I like my privacy and sometimes turn off the ringer on the phone, and the lights and disappear into my family. I like that, tuning out the world and having alone time. Since we will all have our own residence and as already stated some basic ground rules, this should not be a problem.

Oh I am sure there are already things I have thought of and have not mentioned here, that I have settled already in my mind. There is a loss involved in going there, but there are many benefits as well.

I will take a look at your links. I appreciate you posting them. So are you still thinking of relocating there? Or have you gotten used to frostbite
wendy
edited for typos, but I might have missed some

When I leave, you will know I have been here

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4 Employment Openings 4 Ex-dubs

by Mindchild in

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please note: this is not a fluff post.

this is actually a career opportunity.. job description and qualifications:.

four positions open to work with an international for profit foundation doing business in the college textbook industry.

mommy

Prisca,
You asked:

Who has the final say on things on this island?[/red][/b] Say the vote is 50-50 on an issue, what happens then?

Hopefully we will work out most issues before we even get there. By carefully planning and deciding who will work well together, we will be able to avoid a possible tragic conflict. We are actually working on a plan that we can all get to know each other better and see if in reality we can live together. There are basic requirements for living here and the ability to get along with others and solve problems as an adult is a prerequisite.

Of course there will be problems that arise and living together on a confined space(20-30 acres) would require everyone to bend a bit in their own expectations. But as I said, we would love to have all interested apply. And then we can take it from there as to who will actually be "approved."
wendy

When I leave, you will know I have been here

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Can I Introduce..'Rummy'...New Poster

by ISP in

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yes, i would like to introduce a long standing friend of mine who has stopped attending meetings.

he missed out on education opportunities because he pioneered at 16. he stopped when he was 24. by then it had taken its toll.

it had cost him his marriage.. isp

mommy

Hey Rummy
Glad you have a friend like ISP, he is a true gentleman and I just love him to death. Sorry to hear of your troubles with your family, most of us here share that common bond. Funny thing about your name. My grandmother taught me how to play rummy, she won ALL the time when we first started playing. Well, then I realized after playing with others that she changed the rules to fit her hand...lol She couldn't stand to lose in cards!

Great to have you here!
wendy

When I leave, you will know I have been here

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4 Employment Openings 4 Ex-dubs

by Mindchild in

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please note: this is not a fluff post.

this is actually a career opportunity.. job description and qualifications:.

four positions open to work with an international for profit foundation doing business in the college textbook industry.

mommy

Hey Skipper
I will have to insist that we do have a Jim on the island. And we have lots of cyanide laced kool-aid. And ummm machine guns and a plane and umm group sex. Yep that about does it for my requirements. BTW do I have to apply?

To all
This plan of moving to an island is closer to reality than Armegeddon. The joint effort of several of us together can actually lay the groundwork for perhaps more islands to be purchased and others the financial freedom of living and retiring there. Not to mention that there will be plenty of room for those who want to take their vacation there. What a backdrop for an Aposatofest huh?

I have been very lucky to be privy to the more in depth plans of this project and it is feasible! We together can make this happen. Who would not want to work hard for a year, then have the rest of your life "off" or if you would prefer in a semi retired state, to ease the boredom of paradise. Of course there are other means of making money besides the traditional timeclock. Skipper has well layed out, tested and true methods for doing this and he is willing to share them with others of like mind.

Please take a look at the links. See if living on an island is really something that you want, and can live with. Also the relocation to Florida will be eased by having ones who already live there to basically set up shop for you until you arrive. I personnally am 100% this project and am more than willing to put all my energy into this until we reach our goal.

If you are too embarrassed to post here on the board, please email Skipper or myself. I have already contacted a few of you and would love to hear from others.
wendy(Bermuda, Bahamas, come on pretty mama, Key Largo, Montego, Baby why don't we go)

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Emily is Sick and in the hospital.

by Undecided in

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bad news again.

my little grand daughter has the pneumonia and other viral infections and is very ill and in the hospital.

this really hurts.

mommy

Oh Ken,
((((hugs)))) Give that precious baby a kiss for me, I hope she is out and about in no time. I too am sending along healing vibes. I hate it when kids get sick, you minds well tie your hands behind your back and rip out your heart by hand. The helplessness we feel is awful.

Please keep us posted. Be comforted to know there are many here who are worrying along with you and hoping for the best, you are not alone now.
love,
wendy

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Let's have a baby shower!!!

by Julie in

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as most of you know one of our long time posters, "mommy"/wendy, is expecting a baby in the very near future.

as some of you may not know (and i hope she doesn't plot my murder for discussing it) wendy is going through some real tough times.

she could use a few things for the baby considering getting by with two other children is difficult enough!.

mommy

A TV in the bedroom will that work? Hmm maybe I will snag Miranda's then I know I am done, no more lessons needed to be learned here. Tom is just getting started he says! This is his first and he wants two more. Of course with modern medicine progressing as it has, I suggested he wait so he can be the one who carries the next one

Scully, that sounds just like something the brothers would do. I mean they openly discourage having children to begin with. I know the halls we had usually had a nursing room with a speaker and a rocking chair, a place to change the baby etc. There were usually a handful of woman and sometimes men who were in there the whole meeting. I didn't have any kids, I always took others in there though. Great break from the stifling main hall. And I saved alot of whoopings from taking place by parents I knew had short tempers.

We receieved a few more gifts and I wanted to give a thank you to those who sent them. We did recieve a very large gift anonymously, and I wanted to thank that person as well. It was 6 items from the wish list. I would like to say thank you to that person as well...please email me

Seeker,
I need your email please. Thanks for your thoughfulness, you went above and beyond what I would expect for one person. Maybe it is because you have never been to a shower before Nah I know what a good heart you have and what a great guy you are. BTW the circumsision threads may get some perusing this week by me. Since it was there that you made me think about my personal decision on this.

Patio
Thanks sweetie! I will be sending you out something soon. The kids got in on the act and wanted to thank you as well. So brush up on your reading skills. They write in phonics most of the time

Cellomould.
Did I spell that right? LOL thanks for your gift. I did not even have that on the registry, that is cool you thought of that! Thanks again

Termite,
The outfits are so cute thank you! I have so enjoyed getting to know more of you on this thread. You are a hoot! Too bad we could not have done this in real life. Perhaps one day.

And please Mr/Mrs Anon send me an email please
wendy

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What's the latest on "The Danni X-Files&qu...

by Bendrr in

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looks like it's just disappeared.

no more posts from danni.

no more posts from mymy.. just to add my own little tidbit here, has anyone heard of a park hills (or parkhill) congregation?

mommy

Dave,
I saw it, and I still stand by it. There is only so far you can extend yourself trying to understand someone when you just have to throw your hands in the air and call it a day. You even said you feel bad about doing it, I believe you. Often times I have gotten involved with posters here and I actually feel dirty afterwards, if that makes sense. It is more that I am mad at myself, that I allowed myself to even go that low with them.

As far as this debate between you and teejay I really did not read all of it. I have been trying really hard to stay away from these types of threads. Some think they need the last word, and vindication, I am not saying teejay or you are doing that. But sometimes it is best to just let them have the last word. You lose no credibility by letting them rant alone.
Big hugs right back at ya
wendy

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What's the latest on "The Danni X-Files&qu...

by Bendrr in

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looks like it's just disappeared.

no more posts from danni.

no more posts from mymy.. just to add my own little tidbit here, has anyone heard of a park hills (or parkhill) congregation?

mommy

Dave,
Please see Jt's lates post "invisible poster" Looks like Kylishee is still hitting and running.
wendy

BTW when I grow up will you marry me? You are the epitome of a true gentleman.
wendy

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The Hypnotist

by Scully in

it was opening night at the orpheum, and the amazing claude was topping the bill.

people came from miles around to see the famed hypnotist do his stuff.. as claude took to the stage, he announced, unlike most stage hypnotists who invite two or three people up onto the stage to be put into a trance, i intend to hypnotise each and every member of this audience.. the excitement was almost electric as claude withdrew a beautiful antique pocket watch from his coat.. i want you each to keep your eye on this antique watch.

special watch.

mommy

Scully,
Hehe. I actually had to read it twice before I got it, but too funny
wendy