I am going to repeat something I said somewhere else, as I think it fits.
Sometimes it is best to walk away and cut your loses. Some people may take your side, some may not, and yet others may not take any side at all. In the end, the thing that TRULY matters are the people that YOU call friends. If they are there for you and do all the happy wonderful little things friends do, then you have nothing to worry about. If your REAL friends talk sh*t, do sh*t, or say sh*t, then f**k 'em. They are and never WERE true to you in the first place, and better now than ever, right?
Either way, sometimes it is just to let stuff die. Beating a dead horse just wears a person out. Trust me, I have been trying for years. Had I let the crap go back 5 years ago when her and I went our seperate ways rather than always being a DOORMAT, it along with the memories of her and whatever else would be long gone.
*speech over*
The sooner you let go, the sooner it is ALL over with.
Karma? No, life. It is called life. I have seen my both my mothers live GOOD lives, and do nothing but kind things for other people and do one awesome job trying like hell to be a good mom, and yet tragedy followed them until thier death bed. My mother who just passed away had a life so painful I sometimes wonder how the burden of it was enough to bear. Was it karma? Did she DESERVE it? Oh my god no. She wasn't perfect, but she was a damn good human being.
To say bad things happen because you deserve it is a digusting line of thought to me. "Hey look, your husband beat you, you were molested, you were in foster care, you were raped, you were thrown away, you were homeless, and so many other countless things one after the other, well, you MUST have deserved it, and in fact, I want to gloat!" And for ANY person to see bad things happen to somebody else and be HAPPY about it, and BRAG and say - "HA HA HA look at your misfortune, isn't it great my life is peachy and your life is sh*t." That just isn't right. It shows where the heart condition is. I would never in all my life want bad things for another. So why keep tabs? If the other party is so terrible, why stay involved? Who cares? Let things die. Maybe it is time to stop patting yourself on the back and take a good hard look in the mirror.
Here is where I let it go. Here is where the next time somebody says to me, hey, guess what so and so said about you, even if it hurts my feelings and is so FAR from the truth, even if it right now this very minute makes me cry, whatever. Doesn't matter anymore.
If people want to judge me based upon slander and untruths, oh well, who cares. It not longer effects me, because the people I love, the ones I care about know me for who *I* am and not by what they are told by some 3rd party who has a vendetta. This person can say whatever they want. I turn my back and walk away.