Posts by Mum

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Catchng up....

by obfuscatetheobvious in

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wife and girls are at the convention today.

hate this time of year.

while my wife tries to hide it, the inevitable post convention zeal pops it's head up.

Does she talk to you about what she "learned" at the convention? Just tell her you're glad she enjoyed herself. Then go and live your life as you see fit. As my friend's dad used to tell her, "Don't worry 'bout it!"

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I'm not going back...finally

by lostinthought in

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it has been several years since my awakening.

since then i have stopped pioneering, stopped doing temp work at bethel, stopped field service (at the most, i went out a few hours a month for the last couple of months), my meeting attendance has been around 50 percent or so.

i have decided not to go back.

Mum

Do you live alone? Or do you have a spouse? Children? If you have other JW's in your household, it's more complicated.

If you're single and free, it might be a good idea to move to another town or another state.

At least, you can have your phone number changed - AND unlisted.

Avoidance is easier than confrontation.

If they knock on your door, go to the door with an ice pack on your head and tell them you have a migraine, and that migraines have become persistent and are crippling you at this point, and that you're not up to talking.

As others have said, you do not owe them an explanation. There is no reason to feel guilty unless you believe you're doing something wrong, and you are NOT. You do owe yourself the best life you can make.

All actions have consequences. If you're not ready for the consequences, maybe you're not quite ready to leave yet. But keep fading. There's no rush unless you're entirely fed up and can't take it anymore.

Best wishes for a happy future!

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Is it me?

by 5go in

......or does it seem the gb is setting up the faithful for a big change on something.

seems like nowadays every other thing coming off the platform is saying hey we are the only one approved to speak for god and not liking any change we pronounce is your problem not gods..

Mum

Oh, for the good old days when "Christendom" was the enemy.

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Another one...nine felony counts - Sun Valley, CA

by Dagney in

http://www.nbclosangeles.com/news/local/church-usher-charged-with-sexual-abuse-of-boy-parishioners-217825121.html.

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church usher charged with sexual abuse of boy parishionersmarcelo lozano, 34, faces nine felony countsby melissa pamer| thursday, aug 1, 2013 | updated 1:51 am pdtview comments ()|email|printadvertisementan usher at a jehovah's witnesses congregation in sun valley was charged wednesday with sexually abusing four boys he met at the church.. marcelo lozano, 34, is expected to be arraigned wednesday afternoon at van nuys superior court with nine felony counts, according to the los angeles county district attorneys office.. lozano, who was an usher for the churchs spanish congregation, allegedly abused boys who ranged from 8 to 15 years old between 2006 and 2013.. he is charged with two counts each of aggravated sexual assault of a child, continuous sexual abuse and oral copulation of a person under 14. and he faces one count each of forcible lewd act upon a child, lewd act upon a child and sodomy of a person under 14 with 10 years difference.. prosecutors will recommend that the defendants bail be set at $1.8 million, the das office said.. lozano faces a maximum term of life in state prison if convicted on all charges.. the los angeles police department is still investigating the case, the das office said.. .

Mum

gma-tired, you are right about every JW being an "ordained" minister, at least back in the days when I was on the inside. We females were told to say we were a minister's wife if we were married. In some way, we were to be connected with a "minister."

One of my teenage friends said she was going to say, "My name is ____, and I'm going steady with a minister's son.

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My daughter got her A Levels yesterday and is off to university in September

by Xanthippe in

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she took english, maths and physics and acheived a* a* and a. .

it is the best thing possible for me, even better than seeing her opening birthday presents or the day she won the halloween fancy dress prize at school.. her dad died five years ago but she has coped and done so well at school.

it has shown me that despite what happens in life you can still do well and reach your goals, especially if you take a cult upbringing out of the equation!

Mum

Congratulations! Your daughter is very capable in some heavy subject matter. You have every right to be proud and happy!

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A hello!

by Oogie in

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hi, i'm newly awakened and just needing reassurance that the wt is indeed a mind-control cult.

i have two lovely children (under 5) and a husband who is currently asleep..

Mum

You're very smart, Oogie. I didn't want to leave the cult, but I had to get away from my JW elder husband for mental health reasons. It took me two years to realize that they're just another religion, and not special at all except for their mind control techniques and many false predictions of "the end."

Tread softly, and take your time. Start making friends and participating in activities you enjoy that are not cult-centered.

Best wishes.

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YOU'VE GOT TO LAUGH!!

by The Searcher in

"all of our teachings are based on the bible, not on the writings of some religious leader in the united states.

"1 thessalonians 2:13. http://www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witnesses/faq/not-a-sect/.

all of the teachings (i counted 8) which have been reversed in the july 15th watchtower were based on the bible???????????.

Mum

And the "mighty" army of zombie patsies keeps marching.

HA HA HA HA

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No Natural Affection...

by lostinnj83 in

my latest encounter with my mom has me furious and i needed a place to vent:.

i don't post alot but for anyone who has read any of my posts knows that while i have been struggling for some time, i am still an active jw working towards leaving.. anyway, i got into a car accident yesterday.

fortunately i am well enough to type this up so for that i am greatful.

Mum

I'm sorry about the physical and emotional pain you are suffering.

I used to work for a personal injury attorney, so I want to advise you that if the accident was not your fault, you probably need to get an attorney to ensure that your medical bills will be paid and you will come out with some cash to help you get back on your feet financially.

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More fear and paranoia WT-style! (11/15/13 WT)

by LostGeneration in

i usually dismiss the "drinking the kool aid" scenarios that are posted from time to time, but the latest wt has another bit of fearmongering.

the quote from page 20, para 17. elders who are reading this article can draw some useful conclusions from the account we have just considered: (1) the most practical step that we can take to prepare for the coming attack of the assyrian is that of strengthening our faith in god and helping our brothers to do the same.

(2) when the assyrian attacks, the elders must be absolutely convinced that jehovah will deliver us.

Mum

A few years ago, I was acquainted with a lady who grew up in Germany during World War II. She's not Jewish. Some children, including herself, were staying at a convent for protection from whatever might happen at their homes. Once when bombs were dropping all around, the children in her convent were herded to the basement and told not to go outside under any circumstances.

My friend, about 8 years old at the time, of course, could think of nothing but going outside, so she did, contrary to orders. While she was outside, a bomb hit the convent, killing all of the children and nuns inside.

Disobedience is not always the wrong course.

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Armageddon Is Right Around the Corner!

by Cold Steel in

if one were to poll present day jehovah's witnesses, what kind of a timeframe do you think they have for armageddon?.

do they still discourage higher education despite the fact they've been wrong so many times?.

one more thing about armageddon...how do they think it's going to start?

Mum

Mark Twain said that ignorance with confidence was the key to success. Nailed it!

So, they make a false prophecy confidently, then, instead of apologizing, criticize those who believed them for "impatience."