When my daughter was born, it changed me. I don't know if I would have ever gotten out but for my strong wish that she not have the same kind of life I did.
She doesn't.
Posts by Mum
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26Did having kids make your decision to leave easier or harder?
by Comatose ini was thinking about a few things confusedandalone said the other day.
i mirrored his thinking identically.
for me it was having kids that made my decision to leave an easier one.. if i had no children, i might still be in and just going through the motions.
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The reason behind why the ex-JW community can never match Jehovah's Witnesses' success.
by Stand for Pure Worship inan average of five kingdom halls being constructed daily, almost 8 million brothers and sisters, dissemination of bible literature in 595 languages, 111,795 congregations worldwide, distribution of 179 million bibles available in 116 languages, 239 countries where jehovah's witnesses have a presence, etc.. need i go on?.
on the other hand........... crisis of conscience, freeminds, the awaa, jw.net, ummmmmm........hmmm........idk six screens or something?
not exactly working out for you guys.
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Mum
As I believe someone else pointed out, I don't think most of us here want a competition with the Watchtower. We simply want to live our lives our way, outside of a high control group. We want to be able to think, to be able to struggle with the questions to which there are no pat answers, to go on a picnic with our families on Saturday, to take a vacation without having to attend a convention, simply to live our lives as we see fit.
You have real competition. We are not it.
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Sheep and Goats
by ctrwtf ini'm lucky enough to live in a part of the us that many would call "pastoral.
" true to the label, i pass a small farm on the way to talking my daughter to school each day.
the other day i notice the owners had their small flock of sheep out to pasture along witha black goat.. for some reason i had a flashback to all the references the society uses re sheep, other sheep, sheeplike and goatlike etc.
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Mum
Another aspect of the "sheep and goat" mentality that is usually overlooked is that it stigmatizes left-handedness. The sheep are at the right-hand side, and the goats are on the left. Many members of my family, including my daughter, are left-handed, so I'm a little sensitive about prejudicial comments that suggest a connection with evil or inferiority.
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What are you NOT allowed to say as a Jehovahs Witness?
by The Quiet One in"one of the bible study was listening and singing the song by jason mraz titled lucky with the chorus going like this;.
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'i'm lucky i'm in love with my best friend.. lucky to have been where i have been.. lucky to be coming home again.. lucky we're in love in every way.. lucky to have stayed where we have stayed.. lucky to be coming home someday..'.
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Mum
Back in the '70's when Happy Days was a favoite TV show and I was rearing my daughter as a dub, my daughter said "Sit on it, Potsy" in front of me, two JW women and one of the women's smaller children. I laughed. One of the dear "sisters" turned to the small child, "That was a bad thing for B**** to say. Just because her mommy laughed, that doesn't make it okay," or words that meant exactly that. The real bummer is that I didn't defend myself or my daughter. What a dumbass I was!
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can i claim copyright with this word?
by bigmac init came to me as i typed a reply on a fbook apostate group:.
dubbish !!.
the words jw's come out with.. _________________________________________________.
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Mum
KateWild: When I first saw the word 'dub," I thought it meant that JW's didn't have to think for themselves, that they just "dubbed" what they downloaded from the Watchtower.
However, someone told me that it was an abbreviation for J Double U.
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"They listened and obeyed"
by zound innew childrens activity on jw.org - "they listened and obeyed".
am i too skeptical or is there an implication that those who are disobedient are likened to lepers?.
http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/children/family-worship-projects/they-listened-obeyed/.
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Mum
Teaching people simply to obey instead of analyzing situations and making appropriate decisions based on their own best interest is one of the worst evils of religion. I grew up that way, and was reinforced constantly for being a "good girl." Then it took its toll when I couldn't obey every master I had because they all told me differently. So, I read Wayne Dyer, and the rest is history. It's still hard to stand up for myself, and I fail many times, but I'm getting better and better. AND, I like myself and others much better, too.
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Stupid English People !
by Simon inthese are apparently real complaints received from a uk tour operator.
no country has a monopoly on having stupid people!.
these are actual complaints received by thomas cook vacations from dissatisfied customers:.
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Mum
The spoiled, easy-life people are the same everywhere, n'est-ce pas? Excuse my French!
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TRUE LOVE
by ADJUSTMENTS inever since i've learned ttatt the love for my wife, df'd family, worldly family and people in general has become more real!
it's like there is no one telling me who and how to love it just comes naturally with real true love!!!
also i've seen that i have become less depressed and have actualy started tolose weight!
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Mum
Your "natural affection" has been restored!
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Thinking of joining the Masons
by greenhornet inhello all, can anyone give me some inputt on the masons.
im always leary about cults and joining groups.
but the masons seem ok too me.. i want to join because of new freinds and just network with people.
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Mum
The masons apparently have secret rituals. I don't know if you've seen the John Ankerberg Show, but it's about religion. There are often exposés of cults, including JW's, on John's show.
In the '80's, John did a show about the Masons. Afterwards, he received death threats. I was shocked and horrified!
The Masons also finance Shriners' Hospitals for Children. I personally have received great benefit from them.
You might have to go along with some weird stuff, but you might also get a chance to help disabled kids. Do what's right for yourself regardless of your decision.
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My experience
by ZuluTime injust wanted to introduce myself.
i've made a few comments here and there on the lovely jwn i started to wake up to ttatt this year.
basically, i'm a born in jw and was baptized at 16. lived a double life until i wa 25 and beat myself up about it constantly.
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Mum
Good for you! I think lots of JW's lead double lives. After all the "ideal" JW life is impossible anyway.
Best wishes! Welcome to freedom!