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  Harrass them before they harrass you

  by SonoftheTrinity in

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  why don't dfs who really know how evil jehovah's witnesses are just harrass them as they go door knocking so that when someone intervenes to defend them they get a balanced story about what the jehovah's witnesses are all about.

  the ones that were raised in it were raised to be anti-intellectual wusses, they aren't going to win a debate or kick anyone's ass.

  but they certainly deserve philosophical and rhetorical smackdowns, they deserve haters standing in their way as they go harrassing everybody in the neighborhood.

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  Mum

  It's probably a good way to get charged with stalking and sometimes serious legal consequences. Plus what everybody else said.
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  Today I dont feel so awesome ....

  by Dudu in

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  today i feel the need to write.

  it been 3 years out of the borg and my life has been wonderful since then.

  updates?

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  Mum

  If JW's could behave normally, you could have been with your old friends. It is not your fault. It's just a matter of knowing what you can control and what you can't. If you have no control, let it go.

  Now, put on some happy music and dance or go see a funny movie. Get your mind on happy things, and shut out the gloom!
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  ?? Question for those that have successfully faded/are out:

  by Darth Fader The Sequel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  question: can any of you that have successfully faded out of the jw world without being df'd or da'd relate to me/us how you were able to maintain at least one or a few of your "still in" friends or family?

  (and even if you were df'd or da'd and still maintained some relationships, how did that go?).

  obviously, the truly demented, sick and twisted (and highly effective) policies and structure of the wtbt$ to set up a system by which anyone that chooses to no longer believe or participate must be treated as "mentally diseased" and a pariah by their own friends and family is the hands down, numero uno reason why many hundreds of thousands and possibly millions of jw's do not leave.

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  Mum

  My fade was actually unintentional. I simply had to get away for the sake of my mental health, so I moved to the other end of the country where I had a DF'd cousin (the only other JW in our family at that time). When I got to my new home, my first priority was to get a job and find day care for my daughter. Then I went to an attorney and made a deposit on a divorce.

  My then-husband called my cousin and told him that I needed to go the "the brothers" locally where I was and advise them of my "intentions." It occurred to me that he wanted me to go to three or so strange men who knew nothing about me or my mental condition and try to explain something I didn't want to talk about, particularly with strangers. It also occurred to me that I didn't have to obey my soon-to-be-ex or play by his rules. That was Step One.

  I was living in a place where it was very easy to get a job at that time, and I was getting by.

  It was also fortunate for me that a young, probably unbaptized sister in the congregation aided and abetted my escape.

  It seems to be true that if you determine to do something, the means to do it will often appear. I feel very lucky!
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  Watchtower Tells Us "Employers Seek JWs Only" Yet Most JW Employers Avoid Hiring JWs, Why?

  by BucketShopBill in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  here's a thought: we're told over and over how employers sing the praises of their jw employees, sometimes with a vague quote about how 'if we could only hire jws, we would as they are so honest'.

  however, while some jw employers themselves may hire jw employees (usually cheap entry level positions), most don't.

  in fact, many jw's in general who have businesses have a rule not to do work with jws, even those in their congregation.

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  Apropos to nonjwspouse's comment, in the Bottings' book entitled The Orwellian World of Jehovah's Witnesses, there is an account of a JW working in a medical facility who reported a fellow JW who had an abortion.

  Maybe prospective employers can't ask about religious beliefs, but they certainly need to make the need or confidentiality crystal clear!
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  Watchtower Victim’s Memorial Day July 26

  by Londo111 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i see this is two days away...i don't have anything planned, but im open to ideas.. anybody participating in this?

  if so, what are you doing?.

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  It would be wonderful if we could gather a list of names we all know personally and do a wall similar to the Vietnam Vets' Memorial as a tribute to those who had such strong belief they made the ultimate sacrifice. It would be great if it could be duplicated and displayed near as many JW properties as possible.

  At the bottom we could list various reasons why JW's meet an untimely death: suicide, refusing a medical procedure, ill health stemming from constant harassment, etc.

  I have a couple of names if we have a volunteer.
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  My Witness friends are excited

  by exWTslave in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my witnesses friends are excited as they sense emergence of a north king in putin.

  many witnesses feel that ukrain crisis will lead into a 3rd world war that will climax in armageddon, and people like me are lost forever!.

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  I recall in the early '70's when Nixon went to China., Our CO's pioneer wife was all happy and full of glee. She also said Nixon had already "cried peace." I don't know when the latter allegedly took place.

  Same sh**, different day. . . . . . .

  More to come.
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  Watchtower Tells Us "Employers Seek JWs Only" Yet Most JW Employers Avoid Hiring JWs, Why?

  by BucketShopBill in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  here's a thought: we're told over and over how employers sing the praises of their jw employees, sometimes with a vague quote about how 'if we could only hire jws, we would as they are so honest'.

  however, while some jw employers themselves may hire jw employees (usually cheap entry level positions), most don't.

  in fact, many jw's in general who have businesses have a rule not to do work with jws, even those in their congregation.

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  Mum

  In the '70's, a couple of pioneer sisters from a neighboring town worked part-time at a restaurant not far from my home. They would stay at my house overnight when they worked. One of the sisters told me that her boss told her that she was the only person he knew who would come in to work 2-4 hours and ask for one hour off.

  JW's are no different from other people when it comes to work. Some are great. Some are shiftless and lazy. Even JW's are individuals to some degree.
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  When You See A Witness What's Your Reaction?

  by minimus in

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  is it a feeling of---oh no!!?.

  are you happy to see them?.

  do you have a feeling of consternation?.

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  Mum

  I don't know they're dubs unless they're in field service. I feel a combination of annoyance and pity. I would like to set them straight, but I have better things to do than spend time arguing with a smug know-it-all. I might just say something in an attempt to get them thinking or to be sarcastic, such as where they learned Hebrew and Greek.

  Mum, of the sarcasm class
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  Pixar the production company is jealous of Caleb and Sophia video's

  by life is to short in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so said the co last night.. apparently a jw was on a flight and just happend to sit next to some big wig from pixar and when the man from pixar heard that he was a jw the pixar man just gushed over what great work that the watchtower has done in producing the caleb video's.

  he siad he only wished pixar could do such great work.

  the co said we are able to do it because we have free labor and jehovah behind us.. my husband stayed home from the meeting but wanted to tie in by phone and that is what the co said in his talk.. the co also talked about all the changes that have happened in the last ten years and how if some of the friends did not like it they needed and to quote him "they just needed to get over it" these changes are going to happned period.

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  life, thanks for that belly laugh! Please get over what others might think of what you do. It doesn't matter. No one of us is any better than you and have no standing to look down our nose at you because you have things to overcome. I believe that not caring is actually magical in some mysterious way. If you don't care, people don't bother you about things that don't matter.

  Be happy and keep looking forward to freedom!
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  Athiests: Do you ever wonder... what if?

  by toweragent in

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  2. friends

  i'll start by saying, i'm a ministerial servant who is trapped in the religion.

  my wife is hardcore...but i've slowly been getting her to lighten up, so i'll take it!

  all my friends and family are jw's, and i am employed by a jw (who is actually a great boss).

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  Mum

  toweragent, I like this quotation from Dr. Laura: I don't live in the land of "what if;" I live in the land of what IS! So, whether or not there is a God or gods, it makes little difference to us. When was the last time you saw God rescue someone who was being harmed? I understand that it is allegedly beneficial for children to believe in God. Adults, however, have to think for themselves.

  What matters to me and everyone else (I consider myself an agnostic individualist) is what we want out of life, the life that we have, right here, right now. As Christopher Morley said, There is only one success - to live your life the way you choose to live it. All of us on this board are trying to do that. We all have limitations in terms of finances and family matters, but we all can improve our lives in various ways.

  So, no, I don't waste my time on "what ifs" about divinity. Very little that happens is under our control. If there is an afterlife, so be it, but if there is, that doesn't mean God made it that way. Rather, it's part of the cycle of life.

  I started living again at age 32. It was a struggle at first, and the road was not always smooth. But it has been worth every bit of it.