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Hi Everyone!

by thepreacher in

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i just wanted to stop in and spread the good news.

you will find it in 1 corinthians 15.1-11, written under inspiration of the holy spirit and not the spirits directed (by alcoholic spirits) of the watchtower.

my wife and i just recently da'd and we forced their hand since they were avoiding us entirely, despite three years of inactivity, with no 'shepherding call' at all.

Mum

Before you were RexB13, you were WorldlyWitness, "WW," n'est-ce pas? Good to see you back.

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My S.A.D. experience

by NewYork44M in

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for those who have been out of touch for more than a few years, a s.a.d.

is the special assembly day.

i attended the sad in brooklyn this weekend and thought you might enjoy some of the highlights.. the morning began with two "telling" illustrations.

Mum

If he had a Ph.D. and worked at McDonald's, that would be sad.

What's really SAD is having a Ph.D. and being a JW. What a waste!

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i find this on an jw site, its about the ub issu.. 1991, one of the legal corporations of the wts registered with the united nations as an ngo for the sole purpose of getting access to the extensive library of the united nations.

this enabled a writer who received an identification card, to enter the library, to enter the library for research purposes and to obtain information that has been used in writing articles in our journals about the united nations.

there was nothing secret about it.

Mum

I'm sorry I can't refer you to the post(s) and/or magazine article(s), but I understand that one of the duties/agreements of NGO's was also to promote the UN and its programs and goals. I understand that the Awake! magazine did publish some articles casting the UN in a favorable light as part of fulfilling this duty/agreement.

Can someone here provide a link or citation of the article(s)?

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I'm in BIG trouble!

by radiolady in

i haven't written in a long time...and i guess there's no excuse...being too busy should never be an excuse for not keeping up with your family; and that's what you guys are...one big family.

you're the only ones who really, truely understand.

at first i didn't want to write what i'm going through in here...i was embarrassed.

Mum

Sorry about your financial woes. The suggestions offered so far are good. I have some to add.

1. Could you live nearer to where you work so that you could walk to work and save on car expenses? 2. Do you have a reliable bus/public transportation system in your city or town so that you can reduce or eliminate the need for a car until your situation improves? 3. Have you contacted your creditors and given them an idea of your ability to pay? Most creditors will work with you and accept reduced payments if you are open and honest with them. 4. Are there opportunities to earn money at a second job, part-time? 5. Have you contacted Consumer Credit Counseling or a similar agency for help?

At one time or another, I have had to do all of the above except #5. I have worked 2 jobs, used public transportation (for everything, not just to and from work), have repaid creditors as best I could (but this was not a major problem, as my income was so low that I could rarely get any credit).

Things take some time to improve. Take one day at a time.

All the best,

Sandra

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So fed up!!!!! New here!

by Shytears in

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hmm,i dont how too start off,but ill try,so im 16 yrs old,im being raised as a jw,and it is hard as hell,sometimes i think,if this is the right religion arent you suppose to be happy??

?well i really cant do anything about that because my parents say no way they will let me go in "the world" nonsense!so im stuck here ,lonely,depressed,and confused,sometimes i wish id die,but i know that wont help nothing.i want out of this org so bad,but i cant do nothing about it.there always telling me dont let satan and the bad asscioates influence you!im sick of that.all my friends well i shold say my ex friends they never helped me,my as they say:worldy friends did.. also i really really like this guy,i know he like me but he is worldy and i wish so badly i could date him,(i hate the term worldy,so stupid)my parents seriously will not give me space and they are stuck up my @ss.please if u have any commets i would sincerly appriciate it:) laura

Mum

((((Shytears))))

You bring back painful memories of what it was like to be 16.

The folks here are right. Go along with your parents and don't tell them how you really feel. Relax and accept the situation you are in, take one day at a time, and PREPARE for your escape from the stone enclave of the Watchtower.

I recommend that you get psychological counseling. If your parents and the elders are against it, talk to your school guidance counselor about arranging some counseling at school.

When you turn 18, you can be on your own. But the harsh reality is that you will need to be able to support yourself. From your typing, I don't think you're going to be suited for office work. Waitress work is a good choice to get started because if you work in a place where tips are good, you can earn enough to meet expenses. You can also work different shifts freeing up time to take college classes. Is there a community college in your town? If so, start out taking some general classes like English and math. Then take some vocational interest and personality tests (ask your guidance counselor about these, such as the Strong Interest Inventory, MBTI, etc.). Finding out what you're best suited for makes life at work a lot more bearable.

It's natural to be frustrated and impatient. But you have plenty of time. And we're here for you. Start figuring out how to save some money to get started when you can move out on your own. Be careful of roommates, even if they are friends because even people with the best intentions can go a little crazy and be irresponsible once they are on their own for the first time.

Take baby steps. Again, there's plenty of time. You're a lucky girl to realize at such a young age that something is wrong. I was 32 years old before I escaped the clutches of the Watchtower mind control cult.

Do what is right for yourself and others. If your parents are hurt by the decisions you make in your own best interest, you are not to blame. If you make decisions that are not in your own best interest, learn from them and change your strategy.

You're going to be fine. Tell your parents you love them and you know they are doing the best they know how (unfortunately, they really are because they don't know how to think for themselves any more either). Do good because it is the right thing for you and those you care about, not because some organization's idea of good is forced on you.

Get help from your teachers and counselors you can trust. Come back and tell us how you're doing -- often.

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OMG What have i done!

by Shytears in

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hey everyone.i know im in trouble now deep deep shit !i went to my highschool football game last night,its like the biggest game of the year,well yall all know im a witness and im baptized.i meant up with some of my friends from school and the guy i like and his friends.we walked around and talked and you know goofed off,me and him went to his friends car,we ended up having sex.omg i cant believe i actually did this,but we used protection.only thing is i feel kinda bad but then i dont,whats the deal,im think im going to get disfellowedshipped oh well.please anyone help me!!!

laura

Mum

Shytears, don't beat yourself up over what has already happened. Just consider carefully what your priorities and values are. Unfortunately, as a JW, you are controlled rather than being taught to make informed, careful choices. Instead of basing decisions on what you believe to be best for yourself, you have to think about how the elders and other members of the congregation will react.

It is perfectly natural to have sexual feelings at your age, but not always wise to act on those feelings. Feelings are valid and should be acknowledged, but behavior should be based upon careful thought and consideration of priorities and values.

If you feel guilty, ask yourself why. If you honestly conclude that you are not ready for the level of commitment that should be part of a sexual relationship, then ask your boyfriend to give you some space to sort things out.

You'll be fine. Get past the guilt. Just be sure you know what you want, and that you know you are doing what is best for yourself, not just pleasing someone else.

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It`s "FAMILY " Month at the Watchtower

by Beans in

yes brothers and sister the focus over the next few months is how to maintain good family life.

but not only that the watchtower will also tell you why there has been such an increase in single mothers in the last few years!

as you know in the truth this does not exist as the perfect loving families can only be jehovahs witnesses.

Mum

I'm sorry to be this way, but the first thought that popped into my brain was that the children of single moms are more vulnerable to molestation and other forms of exploitation. When I was a JW, most single moms ended up disfellowshipped for "immorality." Funny, I don't remember any single dads being bothered about their child-producing activities.

They (the WTS GB, not single parents) are sick and determined to sicken the rest of us.

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I have new neighbors

by wasasister in

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the nice lady living next door to me lost her husband last year and finally decided to move in with relatives.

although we only had a nodding acquaintance, i was sorry to see her go.

the "for sale" sign did not stay up long.

Mum

That's a great story, Wasa. I think you can have some fun with this situation. As more and more people escape from the wretched walls of the tower, this situation will probably play out in more and more neighborhoods. Why not offer to exchange Thanksgiving recipes and invite some fellow "apostates" to Thanksgiving dinner and have them compliment the neighbors on their recipe(s). Then lower the boom, so to speak. If they won't share recipes, ask for ideas about table settings, unique party invitations, how to entertain a diverse group with different interests, etc.

Wish I could be there to see it!

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Maximumflash is one year older!!!

by Cassiline in

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happy birthday max!!!!!

wishing you many more!!!

cant forget about those wheelchair races and the experiment when i have false teeth??

Mum

Happy birthday, Max! We're birthday twins if today, November 1, is your birthday. I'm having a week-long celebration getting together with friends in small numbers each day. I'm 55 today, so I qualify for all of those senior discounts at restaurants. I feel younger than I did at 25.

Cheers (raising my glass of Courvoisier)!

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Are You Embarrassed To Admit You Were A Witness?

by minimus in

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if the subject of religion or even jehovah's witnesses ringing your doorbell has come up, do you shy away from talking about ever being a witness?

some have indicated that they felt stupid for ever believing in the watchtower.

others have said they have a responsibility to help others not get involved in this "cult".

Mum

When I first escaped the Watchtower, I didn't like to talk about having been a witness. Now I delight in telling people to see their reactions. It did me good when a co-worker told me that she could not imagine me ever having been the timid, scared little mouse I once was. Nowadays I am into just telling it like it is, the truth without any shellac.