I had some friends whose marriage was in serious trouble. One sister suggested they go talk to the elders. I asked her,"Have you ever seen the elders help save any marriage?" She didn't want to answer. The wife eventually went to talk to the elders and the elders started a witch hunt to try to catch the husband in wrongdoing. They interrogated his friends but he really wasn't sleeping with anyone else and they hated that. They stalked him when he moved out to live with his fleshly sister and her husband. They were willing to find all kinds of crazy activities to engage in, but save the marriage?NO, they never attempted to save the marriage.