That's sad, Lisa.
I was born-in to a hardcore JW family, but never bought into it, and never considered baptism. I hated every minute of my time there. Yet, I have gone to several JW funerals for family friends, and I have never been shunned or mistreated in any way.
The funerals, if you can call them that, really suck. They spend so little time talking about the life of the deceased, and so much time on pushing their beliefs on those in attendance. I think it's horrible that they shun at funerals. Although it hasn't happened to me, I've seen it happen at JW funerals, to others, including one family that shunned their son, on the occasion of his father's funeral, because he is gay. He was shunned by all in attendance, except me. I felt their disapproval as I spoke to their son and tried to comfort him, and they didn't have the courage to look me in the eye when I glared at them in disgust.