One thing to do is to openly talk about all the BS and what must be the case in all Elder Bodies - horrible dumb decisions - disagreements - and stupidity.
Also talk about the things the really bother you as an elder - the lack of love - the opposite of what jesus would do with helping people - how you feel like a cop and not a shepherd - how really the is NO training on how to really help people - just to strong arm them.
Talk about the policies that now shift the Legal Burden on elders and shield the GB - talk about how the Sex Abuse rules are stupid - and the 2 witness rule is crap.
Talk about how you are frustrated as an elder - and how it should not be this way - and how its TOP DOWN that creates this.
If nothing else happens - she will understand why you want to "Resign" as an elder in time.
So seeds of doubt at this level is a better first step than just hitting doctrine.