Posts by 3rdgen

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A heartfelt "Thank You" to Simon, his family and to the all the mods

by Dagney in

jw
friends

the past few days i've been thinking about how life has changed since leaving the witnesses.

except for just a few, my former friends have been completely replaced by apostates.

who would have ever thought...i sure didn't.

Merry Christmas to you all!

by Retrovirus in

jw
friends

it's christmas morning here in victoria, australia, and as usual i'm the first one awake.. hope you all have a wonderful day with family and friends!

enjoy!.

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So glad to be home from the hospital!

by 3rdgen in

this past mon.

i had to have a hysterectomy and some other repairs.

i told the doc that since i'm going under anyway, if you see something that needs fixing, do it....and he went to town!

3rdgen

Mrs. Jones, You are kind

Mariemcg, I'm sorry you have been hurt

Cofty, Thanks so much, I should be incouraging you. I hope you are doing well.

Sizmik, You are a very kind and insightful person.

Ten years after, Your surgen was right! Thanks for sharing.

FoundSheep, Love to you too

To all of you, Your kind words have already made me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! And happy hollidays too.

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So glad to be home from the hospital!

by 3rdgen in

this past mon.

i had to have a hysterectomy and some other repairs.

i told the doc that since i'm going under anyway, if you see something that needs fixing, do it....and he went to town!

This past Mon. I had to have a hysterectomy and some other repairs. I told the Doc that since I'm going under anyway, if you see something that needs fixing, do it....and he went to town! I must add how freeing it was not to bring up the blood issue. I gave permission for a transfusion if needed. (turned out I didn't) Had a rough couple of days after bc I was allergic to the pain drip.

Anyway, I'm home now, the operation went well, I'm feeling MUCH better, and soon I'll be better than before. Yet today I'm feeling very LOW and LONELY. I'm no longer a JW and there is 0 contact with former friends and family except MIL (in) and daughter (out). Daughter lives far away, been out for 5 years, doesn't "get me". She was never as true a believer, sacrificed nothing, had a nice childhood, and was only baptized a couple of years before she decided to live a "worldly life". She had virtually no "skin in the game". On the other hand, I had an abusive upbringing, 50+ years "publishing and pioneering", and abandoned all hopes, dreams and ideas of my own. I didn't leave because I wanted to break any "rules", I was truely stumbled. (a separate thread)

Out only 2 months, there has been no time to replace friends and family. We also have been SEVERELY affected by the ecconomic downturn. Hubby understandably tense and preoccupied trying to start a new business and career even as we speak.

Sooooo, it's Christmas tomorrow and the neighbors have offered to send a plate of turkey home with hubby if he will walk over and get it. He accepted. Why am I so blue? Does anyone relate? Sorry, I guess I needed to vent.

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JW FAMOUS CLICHE SAYINGS

by strymeckirules in

what saying made it all around the country?.

the ones that were passed around, word of mouth.. for example.

"donations basis proves jehovah is behind the work!".

3rdgen

Steadfast in the Truth

new in the Truth

born in the Truth

out of the Truth

drifting away from the Truth

left the Truth

married in/out of the Truth

Now I'll add a personal pet peeve of mine: Someone who asks me, "Do you want to know the truth?" "No I want you to lie to me."

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This IS NOT the religion I grew up in or STUPID enough to join - true? YES! vote

by hamsterbait in

i have just finished ray franz "crisis of conscience":.

i agree with him that this "truth" has become like living in a police state, in fear of saying or doing anything that might even retroactively label you a "wicked person".

i was dragged up from the late 60s.

3rdgen

After a woman is batered and the man brings her presents and "makes nice", there is a "honeymoon period". For the WT$ it was the Knorr years. While I have good memories of good times with good people during those years, we can never forget the Kool-aid we drank at the time. Innocent children died because of the blood doctrine, families were torn apart due to disfelloshipping, people postponed marriage, having children, education, providing for retirement, owning a home. Teachings that went "beyond what is written" have proven to be a "curse" .

The religion has changed less than many think.

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So my JW wife cheated on me. Need some help or at least a sympathetic ear.

by JonathanH in

jw
friends

i have neither friends nor family to turn to.

the result of being born in a cult.

but i need to talk about this.

3rdgen

Keeping in mind the advice here, as somene who has "been there", do everything in your power to save your marriage that makes sense to YOU. If it works, GREAT...if not, you will always be at peace knowing you did all you could do within your power to give your marriage your "all".

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So my JW wife cheated on me. Need some help or at least a sympathetic ear.

by JonathanH in

jw
friends

i have neither friends nor family to turn to.

the result of being born in a cult.

but i need to talk about this.

3rdgen

IMHO, The best advice you have received is to seek professional marriage counciling. If she agrees to go with you that is a good 1st sign that she is willing to work on the relationship. If she refuses...well that is also a sign. Either way you need to know if you even have enough to salvage.

My ex and I benefitted from counciling. Even tho we ended the marriage I could sleep soundly at night knowing I had exausted every possible avenue to save it. Because the therapist is an impartial 3rd party(no dog in the fight like the elders) it's easier to take their advice . Every case is different. In mine, the professional couldn't believe I had put up with so much and stayed so long. He explained the issues and helped me to reason without all the drama. No matter what the out come you will get through this. ((((((hugs))))))

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